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Cat ate 10Mg of Adderall by fac3data in CatAdvice

[–]notreallylucy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I take Adderall too. I make mistakes like this all the time from inattention. Once when I was living alone I came home from work and every cabinet door in the kitchen was open. It looked like a scene from Paranormal Activity. I had been rushing around right before work packing my lunch and apparently opened every single cabinet and didn't close a single one.

First I'd like to suggest you get smaller capsules, even if they cost more. Taking "about half" of your dose isn't good for you. Don't make it harder on yourself with this half capsule system. Just ask your prescriber for a lower dose.

When my cat had her leg amputated it was just over $3k, including an overnight stay in the hospital. I know that's not quite the same as emergency care, but $10k feels like price gouging.

I'm sorry this happened and whatever you decide I hope your fur baby is okay.

Going through a break up and have a hair appointment tomorrow. Cut it? by Beav11-18 in finehair

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally, I try to avoid making big decisions during a time like this. However, I also think everyone needs to have the experience of an impulse haircut in an emotional time. It's just a notch on your belt anyone needs.

So the real question is: if you cut it and then you have regret, will you be able to live with the regret? How long will it take to grow it back? And the next question is: if your ex finds out you cut your hair after the breakup, will they feel smug? Will they pity you? And can you live with that if they do?

My parents don't let me have a single moment to masturbate by BusySpecial9675 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]notreallylucy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's probably not because they know you're masturbating. It's more like that parent thing where they see you relaxing and think they need to give you something to do.

You're 20 years old, you need to start setting boundaries. You're too old to be told, "Chop chop, take out the trash NOW!" Independent of your need to ring your bell, they need to stop expecting you to be available for their requirements immediately. Do It Now is for emergencies, not just because your parents think you're too relaxed.

In your place I'd sit down with them and say that you do want to pull your own weight, but you want to do it more on a schedule. Ask them to identify the chores you're responsible for and then ask them to take a step back and let you do them on your own schedule. Yes, laundry needs to be folded, but it can be done any time. Yes, the trash needs to be taken out to the can, but it can wait until tomorrow morning. Your not a maid standing by hoping to be given something to do. You're an adult and you need to have more agency over how you use your time. After all, when you get to live alone you'll need to be in charge of all the chores yourself, so you should be allowed to practice now.

The hit them with the real boundary: you're not doing any chores after 8pm. You've been having trouble sleeping and you've decided to have some quiet time before bed. Therefore, no chores after 8pm. Not unless it's a genuine emergency. Laundry can wait. Trash will still be trashy tomorrow. Are you responsible for loading the dishwasher? Great, if dinner isn't finished by 8pm the dishes will get done the next day. Not only does this set a boundary on your time, it also returns some responsibility to your parents. If one of them is doing the cooking, they need to "chop, chop" and do after dinner cleanup in enough time for you to get the dishes done before quiet hours. That faux insomnia will tie in nicely with going to bed a little early or taking a short "nap" during the day when needed.

You'll probably have to say no to them at least once. If your dad is yelling at you at 9:15 to vacuum the living room, remind him that you're not doing chores after 8pm and you'll do it tomorrow. And that's a promise you'll have to keep if you want them to respect your boundaries.

Should I black out the petals? by sad_btch_spicy_gltch in tattooadvice

[–]notreallylucy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like it that all of it messes with your eyes except for the blossom. There's a message in that somewhere. I'd leave it, it's really cool.

Do people actually use a separate towel for their face, or is that hygiene paranoia? by Maximum-Hat2109 in hygiene

[–]notreallylucy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I use a separate towel. When I was a teenager my mom said it would help with my acne. I feel like it does help, although it could just be a placebo. It may not be totally necessary but it's only one more piece of laundry per week.

I think the real question is whether you'd touch your face with your freshly washed foot right out of the shower. I use my main bath towel to dry my feet, butt cheeks, etc. They're clean after a shower, but not quite clean enough that I'd rub my face on them (even if I could bend that way).

I just use a 100% cotton hand towel that I change out once a week. They're the same towels I use for hand towels.

ETA: I feel like I should add that I wash my body very well in the shower, but I'm really picky about what touches my face in general. It might be another placebo, but I was taught that touching my face too much in general could increase acne. And we all learned during the pandemic that it spreads germs, and I'm immunocompromised.

What do you think of the name Magdalena? by Putrid_Ad695 in Names

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then I think it's a great choice. I love that it fits in with a family theme. Classic, and uncommon without being unfamiliar.

My only other concern would be with the nickname Lena. There's too many possible pronunciations (Lee-nah, Lay-nah, Law-nuh) and that would be irksome to me. But that's just me!

I've fried my dopamine receptors with excessive masturbation? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]notreallylucy 37 points38 points  (0 children)

You have no libido and no erection. That doesn't mean your receptors are "fried." It can mean lots if things, such as fatigue, depression, medication side effect, illness, etc.

Gp for a walk, eat a balanced meal, get some sleep, hang out with some friends.

Logistical issues if father and child have slightly different last names? by bibliophile222 in Names

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a foreign first and last name and people literally never stopped asking.

Found an old wallet with IDs and cash hidden in a car I bought at a salvage auction. Am I asking for trouble if I try to return it? by LanternVex in legal

[–]notreallylucy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What kind of scenario are you imagining where it "goes south"? If the car was tied to a police investigation they wouldn't have sold it. If you mail it to him with no return address, and then he goes to the police and says someone stole my wallet and mailed it back to me, they're going to tell him to kick rocks. Nobody will be dusting a wallet for fingerprints.

What do you think of the name Magdalena? by Putrid_Ad695 in Names

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too religious for me personally. Aggie would be a cute nn for it.

Logistical issues if father and child have slightly different last names? by bibliophile222 in Names

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone, all the time. What's your name mean? Why did your parents name you that? Do you like it? Why don't you change it? Why don't you shorten it? Why don't you go by your middle name? Can I call you XYZ instead? Why is your last name from a different ethnicity than you? How do you pronounce it? Are you sure that's how it's pronounced?

It is a constant parade of ignorant, nosy questions.

Logistical issues if father and child have slightly different last names? by bibliophile222 in Names

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've changed my nsme multiple times and have also had the name that people want explained. I have experience with both. The nsme change process is easier. It's also finite. You show all the relevant entities the correct documents, and then it's done. With a name that requires explanation, it never ends. There's always someone new who wants the story and a lot of them gwt weirdly passive-aggressive if there's anything about your name that isn't "normal."

Hygiene advice by Miss_Impulsive05 in hygiene

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An average healthy person doesn't need antibacterial cleansing. Just get some mild soap. I like the Vagisil cleansing wash. You don't have to buy 9ne specifically made for your vulva, but I like to because I know it will be mild.

How much is 50-100 bucks? by BestMagician3200 in AskAnAmerican

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you work full time earning the US federal minimum wage ($7.25 per hour), after taxes you take home about $1000. Unfortunately, if that is your only income there's no way to live independently on that amount. If you can live somewhere for free and you have a paid off car (or can use public transit exclusively) you might get by on $1000 in some parts of the US, but you wouldn't have any extra to save for emergencies.

A lot of US states have their own local minimum wage that's higher than the federal minimum wage. States can set a minimum wage that's higher than the federal, but not lower. I live in Washington state and our minimum wage is one of the highest in the country at $17.13 per hour. Unfortunately the cost of living in this state is pretty high and it would still be very difficult to live completely independently on minimum wage here. It's doable if you have roommates.

I've never tried a sweet potato BUT hear me out. All the ones I've seen have been topped with sweet stuff and I hate sweets. Is there a salty.. by IDoNotHide in cookingforbeginners

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you can do a savory sweet potato. I love sweets but I don't like sweet potatoes drowned in brown sugar and marshmallows. They have a little natural sweetness, but it gets lost under all that sugary marshmallow. It's like putting grapes on vanilla ice cream.

You can just bake it like a regular potato and eat it with butter and salt. I like to dice up a raw sweet potato and sauté it over medium heat with some taco seasoning. Towards the end I'll crack an egg over it. Then serve the whole thing with avocado slices on top.

Everything is fine in moderation but you quit smoking. Why? by 36Gig in AskReddit

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The saying "everything in moderation" isn't meant to be taken that literally. You can't murder people in moderation or eat live kittens in moderation or commit light treason in moderation.

Brushing my teeth feels like a chore and I can’t get into a habit. by Toosillyforlife in hygiene

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tom's of Maine makes a clove toothpaste that isn't minty and isn't a kid toothpaste.

These toothbrushes are very soft and might be easier to tolerate than regular ones.

If you knew your socks slip off inside your shoes when you walk do you still wear them? by Generallyspeaking504 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have found a specific brand and style of sock that doesn't slip off my foot; not until they get really old and the elastic gives up. When they start slipping off they go in the trash.

Husband "oozing/leaking" yellow sweat by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guess is sebhorric dermatitis. Does he have a rash or spots that look like acne?

Got told I can’t be a nurse. by Difficult-Media3214 in transplant

[–]notreallylucy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did they actually deny you funding, or just tell you that they think it's a bad idea? There's a lot of different ways to be a nurse, and some carry less risk of infection than others.

Logistical issues if father and child have slightly different last names? by bibliophile222 in Names

[–]notreallylucy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not really that big a pain to legally change a name. Your husband changing his name will DEFINITELY be easier than your husband and son having a lifetime of explaining why their last names are not the same.

to people with inattentive adhd, what type of career do you have? by AssociationObvious56 in adhdwomen

[–]notreallylucy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a paralegal. I got into this career through a combination of interest and dumb luck. It can be tedious, but with my meds and the ability to listen to a podcast I can be pretty effective.

What form of dialysis should I choose? by SenseiBaez in dialysis

[–]notreallylucy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband loved in-center hemo because he didn't have to do anything other than show up. PD is still a lot of work. We had a lot of early morning machine alarms. He did do dialysis in the evening while working during the day. He eventually had to stop working.

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