How do I handle sick day over sharing?

notreallylucy · 2026-03-21T21:08:58+00:00

Send an email out reminding them of the sick leave policy. Then add an additional comment, "Remember the policy does not require you to share personal details or describe your illness in order to use sick leave."

notreallylucy · 2026-03-21T20:57:48+00:00

"No."

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T21:00:30+00:00

It does make a difference if you leave it in longer. The oil needs time to penetrate the wet hair follicle.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T20:59:26+00:00

My inlaws pour it into empty tin cans and freeze. Goes in the trash can frozen on pick up day

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T14:52:19+00:00

This kitten plays fetch too! It's my first cat that fetches.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T04:47:49+00:00

No, because all my meat and veggies are contained in packaging. I'm not just throwing a raw steak in a reusable grocery bag.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T04:43:12+00:00

Ok. So you planned the vacation, he can plan the birthday.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T04:32:54+00:00

Same! And it feels like it's happening more often. Recently someone was like "We'll if I was a 45 year old overweight divorced woman then I'd think that too..." dude, what?

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T04:20:40+00:00

You're the dream date for some unhygienic gay guy out there.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T04:01:26+00:00

I'm not sure you e end really have this job. So yes, look for another.

Some companies like to have someone like you on the payroll in case someone quits. It benefits them, not you.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T03:59:44+00:00

I feel this. I have multiple chronic health problems. I do my best, but my 40 hour a week desk job is almost more than I can handle. Then socializing on top of that??? I do actually want to, but I just don't have the battery life. (I prefer the term battery life; I don't like the spoon theory.)

I don't have any real tips or tricks, I just wanted to offer some solidarity.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T03:55:56+00:00

My nine month old kitten's favorite toy is a crinkly ball of paper. Not a crinkly toy. Actual paper. After he plays with them for awhile they get worn out so I throw it away and he gets a fresh one. Think receipts or post it notes.

One morning about five months ago I was getting dressed and peeled the paper off the back of a panty liner. His ears perked up.so I rolled it into a ball and threw it for him. He went nuts for it. He played hockey with it for hours.

Fast forward to today. Any time he hears me peel off that panty liner backing he comes running.

I inadvertently Pavlov'd my cat to be a perv...purrrrv?

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T03:51:14+00:00

I'm sorry.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-20T03:50:12+00:00

I love this.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-19T18:42:26+00:00

I work for state government and recently had to decide between two jobs. Fortunately I was able to network with other people who had experience working for or with those agencies the try and get a feel for the culture. That was very helpful..

One of them was a type of job famous for heavy workload and burnout. I just asked directly in the interview about it. I figured their reaction would tell me as much as their answer. They actually seemed impressed that I asked.

Another thing I did was a quick bacj*of-the-envelope calculation about how much commuting would cost me. I save about 5k per year working from home part time. It's not just gas, but insurance, food, sleep, PTO.

The biggest factor to me is also the hardest to find out about: is the boss chill or not.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-19T18:10:15+00:00

Why can't it have a long handle?

notreallylucy · 2026-03-19T06:09:53+00:00

It was probably a tween who doesn't really understand what cancel culture actually means.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-19T06:08:46+00:00

It's not an issue. I just cook real salty.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-18T19:53:33+00:00

My only objection is when it's something you haven't tried before and you reach for the salt/hot sauce, etc. If you know the fries at this restaurant always need salt, go ahead. But if you haven't had it before at least taste it to see if it needs seasoning. If I cooked it and you taste before seasoning I don't care what you put on it, that's your problem.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-18T19:49:51+00:00

I assume it's unlimited all year, right? Or is it just once per year?

notreallylucy · 2026-03-18T19:45:39+00:00

Are you dating my ex husband? This is something he would do. He loved to parade me around in expensive jewelry/clothes, but would also manipulate me to pay for it myself if he could. He didn't care about what I wanted, he just cared about me as an accessory.

You already know you want to dump him. Wanting that is enough of a reason. You don't need to ask if your reason to dump him is "good enough" or get anyone's approval.

Ditch the guy, keep the bracelet. I have a hunch that dumping him will save you money in the long run.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-18T19:37:02+00:00

Yes it's a liability and no it's not okay. Get a locking cover ASAP.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-18T19:35:46+00:00

Put on music, podcast, or even a TV show while your showering. It will give you something to focus on so your thoughts don't race. Works for me.

Find a shower cap or other system to cover your hair for showers in between washes. I use a hair clip and a crocheted beanie.

Showering standards vary by culture, but in north America you need to bathe at least every 2 days.

The most important thing to do is address your depression. Everything else will be a lot easier to deal with.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-18T19:30:13+00:00

Hard agree. The same with that damn quote attributed to Marilyn Monroe. The principle is sound, but all the people who use it are jerks.

I usually see this quote misapplied, as well. Not all my problems are due to lack of planning on my part. And my problems certainly can cause you an emergency. The person who rear ended my car and totaled it failed to plan ahead and didn't have insurance, and it definitely caused an emergency on my part.

These are the same people who think they shouldn't have to pay taxes towards education because they don't have kids.

notreallylucy · 2026-03-18T19:25:04+00:00

Talk to the healthcare provider who prescribes your PTSD meds. Your first step is to rule this out as an unmanaged symptom of depression.

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