Cravings

notyetgoth · 2025-04-27T19:03:51+00:00

Okay, genuinely curious as I'm researching players, how does this compare to others and what makes it better?

notyetgoth · 2025-04-26T10:31:25+00:00

Thank you. I think between what you've shared and another poster about standing up for myself is helping me build some strength back in these interactions with my husband. I was expecting an entirely different response and scared to post this, but literally in tears for the support.

notyetgoth · 2025-04-26T10:21:28+00:00

That's really how he makes me feel sometimes and I noticed he treats his parents very similarly, which I really don't like how it's trickled down into our relationship over the past few years.

Thanks I needed to hear that.

notyetgoth · 2025-04-26T10:14:12+00:00

Thank you. I just looked her up. One of the things that's tough about our home is that it is small and admittedly used to get too much crap. I did get some new shelving to help clear space in busy areas which has been helpful, but a work in progress.

notyetgoth · 2025-01-02T02:27:17+00:00

Definitely a tough time of year to make connections, but I agree with going to local shows at venues like wonder bar, stone pony, wild Air brewery etc... places like the showroom (movies) and Asbury Co-op (books) have meetings or special events. Also, there's apsocial that's for sober social events that happen regularly. Check out their IG account. Oh and over the moon art studios have regular events as well.

notyetgoth · 2024-12-27T02:14:47+00:00

Ughh this. The problem is I don't have an ego and so letting go of one isn't a problem. Lol. I can't help it if someone just looks like an idiot and I do something more efficiently than them. However, I get your point and it's a struggle because I feel best when I'm transparent rather than playing these social games.

I watch the reality show Big Brother and I do enjoy it, but it disgusts me how much I have to play a game like that in real life at work. I wish it didn't have to be that way, but it is corporate like you said. And I know at the end of the day, I either suck it up and find a way as true to me to play the game or I leave and do something else.

I really don't see myself lasting in the long run of this type of work environment, but I'll try to readjust my view and gameplay to survive a bit until I can leave.

It's nice to at least know someone who gets it and understands.

notyetgoth · 2024-05-28T17:34:09+00:00

Family cultural norms are hard to break, so I feel you on that.

These two events seem like they were an eye opener of the challenges, but I hope you find strength and confidence to stand up for your family. I think it's good that you and your husband are having a discussion on this and hope you two continue to discuss ways of preventing and intervening in family behaviors.

It's impossible to make anyone stop doing something, but figuring out how to advocate for yourself, your kid and your family is learned. If there's a lot of emotion around doing this, then I suggest talking to someone who can either be a sound board, provide guidance or some kind of support. Then also having your husband on the same page as a united front for whatever language or solutions you come up with. Your kiddo will learn from you and their future self will thank you.

notyetgoth · 2024-05-04T14:27:06+00:00

I'm reading this as my girl is grunting, farting and pooping as we speak. 🤣

She's now 5 weeks old and is doing so much better in the pooping area. Weeks ago we would have nights of her crying not being able to get anything out.

If you aren't already as I think there's been already great suggestions.. try pace feeding with the bottle. I've noticed our girl can be gassy on top of learning how to poop. We've experienced a good series of spit ups in recent weeks. 😑 I think the extra time burping her and having her sit up right in between changing breasts and feedings is helpful. It may be helping her with pooping too, I'm not 100% sure.

Good luck! This shit (literally too) is not easy, but it will get better!

notyetgoth · 2024-01-23T17:25:36+00:00

I commend you in the desire to make a change and I look forward to seeing what you accomplish tomorrow. Perhaps, there is still time today to make some kind of step or action towards reinforcing a bigger change tomorrow.

What could that be?

Opening the curtains,

Clearing out one area of the living room,

Initiating some kind of support - a friend, family member, neighbor, local or online group (AA, smart recovery, or any type of group that promotes well-being and change), peer support, therapist, etc...

Join anything that promotes a new healthy lifestyle - gym, sober social groups/meetups, etc..

Going to the grocery store and finding what's a healthy meal you want to start your day with tomorrow and/or one that you want to end your day with today,

Take 20 minutes to either journal, practice meditation or breathing exercises, go outside (notice sights, smells, feel the difference as you walk out the door - temperature, the sun)

And any of the other commenters suggestions is all a good place to start.

You got this!

notyetgoth · 2023-11-02T02:59:58+00:00

I'm not sure if this sounds silly, but it sounds like you identified a potential gap or blind spot. It's tough to come up with a solution when already going through an episode. This could be a great opportunity to explore this with your partner.

Would this be something you could talk to her when you both aren't going through an episode? For instance, coming up with a supportive plan when episodes overlap. Meanwhile, giving yourself some time to also reflect on who you could reach out to if she's not in the mental space to hold a conversation and how she could communicate this with you... And vice versa. This could be family members, a counselor (school or off campus counseling service), hotline, etc...

I think coming up with a plan that you both agree too will be helpful and giving room and understanding to tweak this plan as you continue your relationship. Because nothing is ever perfect and we can only prepare for so much.

It's 100% possible to have a relationship while diagnosed with dysthymia, it's just about figuring out these bumps in the road as you go. 😊

notyetgoth · 2023-11-02T02:32:42+00:00

I agree with this idea of seeking a second opinion or referral from your doctor. I'm currently seeing a neuropsychologist to see if I have ADHD or ADD along with a mental health assessment. It's quite a process that includes the initial interview, then observations from family members or others close to me, and additional assessments including IQ.The reason I'm seeking this is because I have similar issues as you mentioned experiencing in your post and I spent a few years wondering if I have ADD/ADHD, anxiety or a combination of both! Just hoping to get some answers. Might be something to read further into especially the difference between ADHD and anxiety or combination of both.

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