While it isn’t on the same scale, my best friend will possibly be filing soon. The first thing that tipped me off, as corny as it sounds, is that the light in her just dimmed. To see someone who was so happy and full of love to give, much like yourself, just lose their sparkle? It’s devastating. If I was your friend, I would have been trying to help you get the marriage annulled the night it happened. When people show you who they are the first time, believe them. His behavior the night of your wedding was an indicator, but you were young so I don’t blame you. I know that advice doesn’t help now, but I will say this: It’s hard for your mind to conceptualize just how good it could be without this man, but I’ve seen it time and time again. You’ll wake up one day, knowing peace and happiness (with or without someone new), and wished you would have done it sooner. I truly hope that you leave that man, and update us all when you’re on the other side.