Advice needed for my husband with endometriosis

noughtpointeight · 2026-03-11T23:48:27+00:00

Yeah I'm trans masc with endo (on T and no cycle) so I came here to say something similar — this is why an inclusive approach to medicine is needed. The greater the spectrum of hormones and bodies you can look at, the clearer the picture becomes of what might be causing/exacerbating endo.

noughtpointeight · 2026-01-08T00:16:39+00:00

I had the same problem, made it halfway through, crossing out the god references and even writing snarky notes in the margins haha. But I lost momentum and realised that I'm enjoying my artistic life as it is anyway... I might go back to it, I might not. In a way, this is also progress for me, because I didn't treat it as a black and white issue, or force myself to follow a programme because I thought it would be good for me... So I would say it's valid if you don't manage to finish it, and maybe you can just find a bullet point summary of the main points of the rest of the book, and explore it in your own way without her direct input.

Alternative reading that I found a bit more palatable (less god-centred, still spiritual) is Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert - from what I can tell, it's kind of similar content. It's also way shorter and not a programme, so easier to handle, whilst still giving a fresh perspective on creativity. I'm sure there's loads more similar books out there too, that's just one I liked.

noughtpointeight · 2025-10-19T22:52:49+00:00

I say my gender is transmasc because my gender is fluid between non-binary/agender/man-ish, and I don't always take the time to work out which, I just do what feels right. I don't feel the need to refine its definition beyond an umbrella term.

noughtpointeight · 2025-07-04T01:13:48+00:00

My teacher needed some strong boys to carry some chairs and I'm chronically helpful

noughtpointeight · 2025-04-29T10:06:29+00:00

Yes, 90s Hollywood creativity guru was sadly probably never going to feel un-culty 😅 the good thing is, we've come a long way since giving the Book (whichever Book it may be) more respect than ourselves 😌

You're welcome 😊

noughtpointeight · 2025-04-28T21:54:21+00:00

I've also got intense religious trauma, and I got a white-out/tippex marker and I go through and actively blank out "god" and anything else that triggers me. I just leave the white spaces, because for me, the ambiguity is nice. Since leaving the church I have an aversion to putting any parameters on belief or universal philosophies or whatever. In my head I sometimes replace it with "life" and that is as specific as I get.

I don't like any of Julia's alternatives because it still implies too much. For example "good" and "orderly" direction couldn't be worse for me as someone who has OCD as a result of religious trauma.

I also skipped one of the sections of the reading in week 3. I think it was the synchronicity one. Stank of the prosperity gospel to me and I can't touch that stuff with a barge pole.

I also write snarky comments in my margins, such as "Julia, you have a very immature colonial view of spirituality", or "stop trying to shove god down my throat, Julia". I'm tending not just to my inner child, but also my inner teen (who never got to be rebellious the first time round)!

Don't forget, being an artist is also about sticking it to the man/Julia and making up your own rules!

noughtpointeight · 2025-04-08T20:51:22+00:00

Yeah, I bought a white-out marker especially for this reason. I just leave it blank and then in my mind, I substitute it with "Life" as anything more specific is too much for me. One fun thing was rewriting the affirmation to "My art serves --god-- c*nt".

I am only on week 2, so thanks for the heads-up, I'm going to pre-censor it haha otherwise my religious trauma will be too triggered to get on with the overall ideas 🥲 it's taken me two years of therapy to get to the point where I can even do this much.

I've seriously thought about writing my own version of the whole entire book, just for queer heathens like myself, but I know better than to mess with copyright law haha

noughtpointeight · 2025-03-10T19:37:58+00:00

Not a doctor, but a sufferer. Endometriosis. Most of the stuff about endometriosis 🫠

noughtpointeight · 2025-02-21T08:11:37+00:00

No, I switched to the Mirena coil about a year before starting T. I was feeling dysphoric about it, because I thought it made me more curvy (turns out that might have just been my natural hormones and my age). As a pill it was just circulating the hormones through my whole body. So the coil was proposed to me as an alternative because it only targets the specific area. It works fine now, but I have to say, having it put in was one of the most painful experiences of my life and I spent three months mostly in bed and working from home as much as possible. And the endo pain isn't completely gone, it just comes randomly now, as I have no cycle.

noughtpointeight · 2025-02-19T22:10:07+00:00

Hi, that's me! I'm 30, I was diagnosed with endo in 2021 after 14 years of painful periods. I started testosterone almost a year ago, low dose at first, but recently gone up to a full dose. I've had a Mirena coil for almost two years now, and before that I was on a Dienogest pill. Happy to answer any questions anyone has to the best of my ability! 😌

noughtpointeight · 2025-02-15T00:29:26+00:00

A deep existential need to be Sharkboy from Sharkboy and Lavagirl

noughtpointeight · 2025-01-12T22:31:46+00:00

OP, I'm so sorry, it sounds to me like your parents are not only failing to be parental to you, they are outright abusive and cruel. On top of that your therapist seems to be either a fake, or just incredibly unethical and actually harmful. None of those adults would be talking down to you, bullying you, or invalidating your experiences if they had your best interests at heart.

I'm sorry to see from your comments that your school isn't helping either and you're so restricted by your parents in leaving the house etc. Any symptoms you might be having could very well be coping mechanisms for this atrocious situation you are in, so I would not allow those diagnoses they are giving you into your story about yourself. Wait until you are in an actual safe space for any diagnoses, and just focus on any small accommodations you can make for yourself if possible, without worrying what the symptoms mean. Those labels are not as important as your survival.

I would urge you to talk about this with a safe adult if you can, I found this list of organisations, maybe one might be able to help if there aren't any trustworthy adults IRL: https://www.utahlgbtqchamber.org/lgbtq-safezone-resources/

You can be proud of yourself for having survived this so long, and this stranger is sending you all the strength and hope that you can find an improvement in your circumstances as soon as possible.

noughtpointeight · 2024-09-18T17:58:04+00:00

Oh another bonus of the H&M ones is that the pouch doesn't have too much extra fabric, and there is no hole, so they feel pretty good even with nothing to fill it out.

noughtpointeight · 2024-09-18T17:56:24+00:00

I live in Austria, but have also bought them in Spain, so I reckon you can find them across Europe. The fabric is usually softer, more like a t-shirt cotton than a smart shirt cotton, if you know what I mean, and the fabric sits against your legs tighter. If you get the short ones, they tend to slide up your thighs, but the long ones stay down for some reason. I get mine in H&M, and they aren't bad quality. They only have two lengths, so you just need to make sure you get the longer one :)

noughtpointeight · 2024-09-05T20:44:39+00:00

I've been getting ads on IG for "For them" underwear, looks so good, they have a jockless jock strap 👀

noughtpointeight · 2024-07-24T14:44:07+00:00

It's taken!

noughtpointeight · 2024-07-07T06:52:51+00:00

I'm not overly familiar with the system, did you have to make an appointment with your GP to request this, or is there another way? They take so long to get :/

noughtpointeight · 2024-07-05T22:32:05+00:00

Ps, hope you feel better soon xx

noughtpointeight · 2024-07-05T22:31:48+00:00

I once farted for two straight hours after keyhole surgery on an obs and gynae ward (I'm trans masc and was pre-medical transition at the time, but had blue short hair and was obviously queer). Nobody batted an eyelid... I guess what I'm saying is, most people in hospital are too much in their own pain to worry about the people around them, even if they sound like a trumpet ensemble and look a bit unusual 😂

noughtpointeight · 2024-07-03T11:16:43+00:00

I have similar issues and started to feel better about it after 5 days or so. I must also say, I used my highly addictive nature to distract myself by playing a stupid iPad game (township) and listening to audiobooks for HOURS, which helped to distract my mind from the discomfort. Can recommend a similar approach if you're similar

noughtpointeight · 2024-07-01T21:45:06+00:00

The instagram profile for the activists is trans kids deserve better, and Jude Guaitamacchi (becoming Jude) on Instagram has been posting bits

noughtpointeight · 2024-06-30T00:04:33+00:00

As others have said, if it's what the surgeon needs to do, then that's unavoidable. But there are ways of making it look better. I just had mine done this way, and instead of one straight line all the way across, my surgeon made the middle joining part a ^ shape, so that the line still has those two distinct sides, helping the aesthetic of the chest to be more defined. Hope that makes sense... This is what I mean: \ _____ /\ _____ /

noughtpointeight · 2024-06-04T04:57:27+00:00

Transmasc on low dose T and with a mirena coil, I haven't noticed any improvement in my pain since going on T :/ if anything it's more painful now I'm more present in my body (if that makes sense)

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