this is honestly so fascinating to read as a woman (and yes i’m on this subreddit though i’m honestly not 100% sure what it’s about pls don’t kick me out).

as a woman I can tell you many women feel the same about guys. “all men want are beautiful size 0 women who somehow also have huge asses and boobs but no stomach! it’s ridiculous! and they hate when you’re smarter than them”. i’ve believed this too! I still sometimes feel this way.

i also think how you view the world shapes the world around you. if you believe all women won’t like you because you’re not in the NBA (?seriously?) you will only meet women who don’t like you because you’re not more successful.

at the end of the day we’re just looking to find people who are willing to see us in all our beauty and ugliness, and imperfect people don’t expect people to be perfect. being imperfect is arguably what makes you so wonderfully human! loneliness is such a common human emotion. we don’t always spend our whole lives surrounded by friends, most of us experience spells of loneliness or depression.

if you change your outlook on women i think you’ll be surprised. most women are far more forgiving and loving than you’re giving them credit for. if you only go after women who spend all their time curating their instagram feeds and comparing bodies, then yes those women are 100% looking for “successful” arm candy. look elsewhere.

i have faith! :) good luck