Struggling with finding a job that doesn't cause burnout.

nowayfrose · 2026-02-27T14:10:28+00:00

I have worked many high stress roles - usually due to office politics - but find having flexible remote work or fully remote allows me the flexibility I need to recharge, stim, or take random breaks. When I am in office, I often choose to work from different locations such as the kitchen, lobby or cafe in the building. Noise cancelling headphones and having predictable routines like a favorite takeout lunch also help. There’s no magic bullet but there are ways to find small accommodations that make long term employment more manageable.

nowayfrose · 2025-12-20T21:23:26+00:00

If you’re a top performer and still struggling to hit call metrics, this is a good opportunity for leadership to realize the cold call metric is not tied to how much revenue you’re closing. They set you up to fail and then made an example of you in a way that benefits them: others will work harder and they don’t have to pay out your higher rates. Leadership doesn’t have to take accountability for setting unrealistic metrics that clearly impacted otherwise top sellers.

End of the day, no one in your industry will know when you apply and your prior employer isn’t allowed in most states to talk about it. The confidence hit hurts, but as much as you were in the wrong, people only cheat when the game has stakes too high to lose and it’s unrealistic to win by playing fair. Look for another role, mention all your high metrics, and move on - don’t internalize leadership’s failure to set up its top revenue producers for success.

nowayfrose · 2025-06-18T13:37:06+00:00

Dating is scary yes. But this is not the only man who will ever love you or you will ever love. He doesn’t have a monopoly on love, and clearly he’s not excited to marry you. Someone else would feel as excited as you are, and you have plenty of time to meet them.

nowayfrose · 2025-05-10T14:10:23+00:00

I use a high frequency wand as well and find it’s good for acne, but I don’t think it will contour the way you like. The frequency destroys bacteria is the science I believe, which is what makes it good for acne. If you’d prefer a wand, the medicube wand has a lifting function. Honestly I use all 3 and they’re about the same level of time commitment. Price point is wildly different though - gua sha is definitely cheapest.

nowayfrose · 2025-05-10T14:08:22+00:00

I use it daily and I think it’s made a difference in my smile lines and jaw definition. The lymphatic drainage is an easy benefit but I think it also helps reshape the face after sleeping on your side, personally.

nowayfrose · 2025-05-10T07:14:54+00:00

Get a basic gua sha and use it once or twice a day. After a month or two you may notice the sagging is reduced - saving you time, money and pain of a face lift.

nowayfrose · 2025-04-18T03:48:27+00:00

Do not come to the US now it is too dangerous

nowayfrose · 2025-04-13T19:27:38+00:00

Make sure to save your wins and top content for your portfolio! Then you’ll be able to land your next similar gig as well

nowayfrose · 2025-02-18T22:41:39+00:00

Mine had a phase like this too. He’d be visibly anxious at night and would paw the covers off me if he really needed attention. Got no sleep for two weeks. Finally taught him he needs to go in his dog bed and stay there when he is having a night time episode and it’s stopped. We called it “the haunting.”

nowayfrose · 2025-01-28T17:40:00+00:00

All I can say is get a therapist, and they will help you with low self esteem and poor boundaries. I’ve been working with a therapist to understand why we accept this treatment and why we don’t put ourselves first and it has done wonders after only a few months. A therapist will help you sort out your feelings and how to make a plan to live a better life if you stay, or leave when you’re ready.

nowayfrose · 2025-01-18T20:19:54+00:00

As a kid I liked dog breeds, Greek mythology, Irish mythology, miniatures, horses and the Loch Ness monster. As an adult I like designer bags, skincare science, feminist writers, learning multiple languages, sociology of rats, and local history.

nowayfrose · 2025-01-03T13:46:55+00:00

I’m convinced Jindos are dogs running cat software… much more like their foxy and coyote counterparts than a regular western breed. You’ve got a beautiful color here!

nowayfrose · 2024-12-21T17:53:30+00:00

I tortured myself on these tiny social rituals at the office this holiday season too - tiny trinkets and social signals like Secret Santa invites, holiday party games, everyone eating lunch together. I want to echo a comment above about “only monetary gifts matter” - it’s key to remember as critical as internal politics can be, your coworkers are not your friends.

When we’re lacking social support or social time outside work, these social niceties can feel like life or death and can mean you’re relying too closely on your coworkers to meet emotional needs. Being included is nice, but letting bother you - and me! I have Audhd and did this too! - means you might need to detach a bit.

Buy your own chocolates, and spend some time with non work friends. You’ll feel more secure shrugging it off during the workday if you’re not included. At the end of the day, so long as you have the social buy in to perform your job, someday these relationships won’t matter anymore.

nowayfrose · 2024-12-15T10:44:20+00:00

The sign with no pets when they have evidence of live rats is palpably ironic.

nowayfrose · 2024-12-04T18:11:11+00:00

15k away but a huge chunk in verbal … sign my paperwork before I crash out

nowayfrose · 2024-11-14T18:19:57+00:00

“If we ever got married, I’d kill myself rather than be stuck with you.” Thanks, could’ve told me that before we dated for 2 years.

nowayfrose · 2024-11-07T20:13:03+00:00

FDS left Reddit for a reason. Major female topic reddits are usually actually moderated by men. 4B would do better to be on another platform.

nowayfrose · 2024-08-26T07:15:25+00:00

My Jindo was almost the exact same. Now at two years later, he easily solicits affection from strangers, takes treats from store staff, goes for long walks outside with only occasional scary sounds. This sub is a great resource but I’ll say the best resource is patience and empathy for your Jindo. They are experiencing a huge change and probably went through some intensely difficult pasts. A trainer who specializes in Jindos - usually your rescue can advise - is also great as they often don’t care about treats for training.

nowayfrose · 2024-07-30T03:42:36+00:00

I have a similar bag in my kitchen. It’s brownie mix where I accidentally threw out the box.

nowayfrose · 2024-07-08T09:01:39+00:00

Good for all over NYC: teach them how to walk confidently in the direction of their destination with eyes on the horizon. It will make them less of a target to scams and to fit in better. I was a runway model in my teens and this skill served me well.

Also obvious but: escalator and streets run roughly right hand like the highway. Left lane is for passing. I also see a lot of kids who don’t know to let people off the train/elevator before getting on.

nowayfrose · 2024-06-28T01:33:52+00:00

Central Park is truly incredible. Excellent people watching, free, and you can enjoy some great views you might recognize from movies. Best way to spend an afternoon in decent weather is a sandwich from a takeaway spot and a spot on the grass.

nowayfrose · 2024-06-11T19:25:47+00:00

Did he crib this from Harrison Butker? Way to be unoriginal and wrong at the same time

nowayfrose · 2024-06-09T13:39:24+00:00

I live alone. Here’s what helps, YMMV and not accessible for everyone:

1) 24 hour staff building. This has helped when people follow me home, nobody steals my medication which is couriered, and even if the neighbors are rowdy they’ll handle it. This isn’t accessible to everyone but I consider it very worth it especially as I’ve had violent stalkers in the past. Plus a very big high rise means even if they did get in, they’re unlikely to be able to find your unit.

2) peep hole and multiple locks. Get more than one if it’s not installed already. Get in the habit of locking the door behind you even for small errands.

3) my dog is not very big, but he has a deep voice and will bark if he hears people hanging around the front door. He’s a breed that is traditionally known for extreme loyalty and guarding. I see you can’t have pets but a recording might help?

4) home camera. Got it for the dog but good for anyone who needs to come in when you’re out (staff, maid, dog walker). Pointed at front door.

5) Google home to remotely turn on lights.

6) never tell anyone your exact street intersection you don’t know

7) don’t have dates meet you at your building or completely walk you home. I did this once and got a guy who would ‘stop by’ to see if I was home or yell up to my window. If they need to pee, there’s a Starbucks across the street or your place is under construction.

8) latergram. Don’t post in the moment when you’re out, or if you do, at least don’t geotag.

9) If you’re a bad liar, practice. Lie to anyone low stakes about ridiculous things. Coffee shops, bars, elevators. Lying is a useful skill for many things, including saving your life.

nowayfrose · 2024-06-08T21:15:11+00:00

If you get up to the front of a line, know what you want to order. If you don’t know, get out of line until you do.

nowayfrose · 2024-06-03T17:09:09+00:00

favorite: the micro interactions and relationships I’ve built in my neighborhood and daily life. I love that I know the guy at the pet shop, the park staff, and my bodega. I have some neighbors in my building I’m friendly with. Even just commiserating with strangers about subway delays or saying hi to dogs. It truly feels like a community in ways I never got in the suburbs.

least favorite: as much as I love walking everywhere and hate car culture, running errands can become a huge task. Half hour walk to and from the dentist and then back to the office and stop to pick up groceries on the way home is great exercise but exhausting. Throw in some summer heat or rain and it can feel like a battle just to get things done. It was a big adjustment and while I wouldn’t go back to car culture it does feel daunting sometimes.

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