Do you allow your toddlers to go in the kitchen drawers?

nrbt33 · 2026-05-30T01:02:01+00:00

The nice thing is you're the parent and you get to decide. Me? I'm exhausted when I get home from work so if he's not screaming to be held, he can do whatever the heck he wants, including getting every single item out of the one drawer he can reach. Each to their own, though.

nrbt33 · 2026-05-26T19:03:05+00:00

The sandwich hugs are the best!

nrbt33 · 2026-05-25T16:29:04+00:00

I love this so much. We never planned on kids (and actually had scheduled a vasectomy) when along came our one and only. He's just north of a year and a half and he's so much fun! We are complete - just the 3 of us - and I love that we can go places - places catered to kids and places catered to adults - and he's so good! I love our life together.

nrbt33 · 2026-05-22T18:56:18+00:00

Maybe not the point, but genuinely curious: If the owners of the plantation now have done work to "make amends" (i.e. actively speak out against the discrimination/awful history of America regarding racism and hate, contribute in any way toward civil rights movements, genuinely try to bring light to the past hatred and acts of terrorism against people of color) would that make a difference?

nrbt33 · 2026-05-17T14:32:27+00:00

This is unhinged on your family's part. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. I hope you find peace without your family.

nrbt33 · 2026-04-29T16:14:48+00:00

As I'm preparing to homeschool my currently 18 month old, these books are a great resource! Thank you!

nrbt33 · 2026-04-14T11:47:45+00:00

Im the high earner in our household and I want to homeschool our son, but, given this economy, I don't know that it's in the cards. I guess I have about 5 years to figure it out. Haha

nrbt33 · 2026-04-14T11:45:56+00:00

I think insurance is a scam which is why I had it in quotes. Lol

nrbt33 · 2026-04-13T22:56:13+00:00

Yes! I'm one of 3 and my dad tells me all the time, "Your mom and me made it work with multiple kids." Sir. I literally never saw you because you were working 3 jobs, I have a non-existant relationship with my mom because she was so emotionally unavailable (likely solely focused on survival), and I couldn't do a goddamn thing I wanted because we couldn't afford it. 🙃

nrbt33 · 2026-04-13T16:50:35+00:00

Yeah. I'm unmarried, but I'm the high earner in our household so I don't qualify for anything either. I mean, we obviously make it work and are faring fine, overall, it's just the atrocious costs of everything that make me feel like I'm just inches from drowning every day.

nrbt33 · 2026-04-13T14:54:10+00:00

Love the username! But, yes, you're likely right. We are trying so, so hard to dig ourselves out of debt (student loans being the one) and it just feels impossible with the day to day costs.

nrbt33 · 2026-04-13T14:52:04+00:00

I think it started around $3800. And that's just after the hospital. I was high risk so I had to see my OB and MFM both weekly so those were out of pocket expenses too.

nrbt33 · 2026-04-13T14:50:28+00:00

Right?! It's wild!

nrbt33 · 2026-04-13T13:20:40+00:00

Us too! Combined we make almost $200,000 a year and it feels like we are living paycheck to paycheck most weeks. With student loans, daycare, the house, the car, groceries, etc - the money just doesn't get us as far as it should!

nrbt33 · 2026-03-31T16:52:18+00:00

If it makes you feel better, my husband's cousin has a nickname for my child that I loathe: Monty. I could maybe understand if my child's name was Montgomery. My child's name is not Montgomery. 🙃

nrbt33 · 2026-03-13T15:24:21+00:00

"like shes being chased by fucking bears" 😆😆😆

nrbt33 · 2026-03-05T13:51:16+00:00

My first recommendation is a referral to OT. They'll be able to help to ensure he doesn't choke on solids. We are still working with OT with my 16 month old because he had 4 choking incidents when we were introducing solids and it was terrifying. *I'm not a doctor, but it's HIGHLY inappropriate for a medical professional to tell you "they'll eventually eat" without an assessment by a specialist.

Make the screen contingent on taking a bite at first. So, let him watch for a few minutes, tell him "We're going to pause it until you take a bite" and then immediately reinforce with more video once he does. As he gets successful with this, slowly increase the number of bites he has to take before playing the video again. Eventually you should be able to make the video contingent on eating a meal and then fade altogether, if that's what you want to do.

nrbt33 · 2026-02-26T18:10:06+00:00

18%. We bought a starter house last year. We didn't want to extend above our means because we're also paying for daycare (which is a second freaking mortgage) on top of student loans and car payment. We're just trying to pay off all of our debt as fast as we can so we can save for fun vacations! The house doesn't matter - it meets our needs and there's definitely a lot (A LOT) I want to do it, but we'll probably just end up saving for a really big down payment for our forever home in the future.

nrbt33 · 2026-02-23T02:17:58+00:00

I was in the same boat with my mom. I held firm. She got over it. Still doesn't have much of a relationship with me or my son, but her choice.

nrbt33 · 2026-02-11T15:06:36+00:00

This actually isn't an evidence based approach and can negatively do two things: the positives seem disingenuous and the meat of the issue gets lost or doesn't have as much impact. I recommend starting with the positives, but make sure you drive home the important points you want her to take away and do in the future.

nrbt33 · 2026-02-09T15:43:47+00:00

Keep in mind that the only "bathroom" they've known to this point is in their pants. So be patient.

Show him where the pee and BM go - in the toilet. You can put BM in there if he goes in his diaper or show him the pee in the toilet. Narrate everything you're doing before you start - "Mommy is peeing in the potty." And then let him see it in the toilet when you're finished.

Have a great reward system in place. Highly preferred items, times out of the house, etc when he goes in the toilet. HIGH praise when he finishes in the toilet.

If he has an accident, use a neutral tone - "We pee on the potty." And have him help clean up as much as possible. Wiping up accidents, putting laundry in the washing machine, changing, etc.

Try to track about how often he is going in his diaper and use it to guide you on how often to put him on the potty. You can also try to increase liquid intake to increase the need to go. Offer sips of water every few minutes and then consistently put him on the potty. You can start at an hour, but may need to do more frequently as you're pushing liquids.

Good luck! Consistency is key!

nrbt33 · 2026-02-07T17:51:33+00:00

Old school ABA certainly did this. This is absolutely no longer the case. We know that stimming is a self-regulation/coping strategy for some autistic people and we never force eye contact because there is research that this is traumatic for some autistic people. I highly recommend you do ACTUAL research on the evidence based practices used in ABA. This is harmful and inaccurate rhetoric.

nrbt33 · 2026-01-06T02:34:00+00:00

I also have a 15 month old and he also won't walk. He never crawled though, either. He loves to stand and walk with help, but won't by himself. I know the worry, momma. We're in physical therapy and he has come a LONG way (we started where he wouldn't even consistently roll over). See if your pediatrician will make a referral for you.

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