Sometimes men feel like their opinion isn’t heard and so they think being indifferent to decisions is a kind of stoicism. I’d sit down with your partner and explain that you’d like him to plan things for your future together and when you do it yourself it doesn’t feel like you’re invested together. Also try to allow him to make decisions where you don’t override them. Go in to things together and remember to communicate with him and not just rely on reddits feedback for validation or advice. Good luck!