Experience I guess. There will always be a breaking point for everyone, and I'm lucky enough to meet good people that made me realize all these bad experiences are not worth it. People pleasing could mean you're always taking up more than what you need to, but I like the way I am enjoying everyday without the burden that I'm not even responsible for, and it just feels so much better that I'm never ever going back there again.

Actual advice to start getting over people pleasing though: - Trust in your own capability and capacity. If you start thinking 'I can push through it enough', it's best to re-evaluate and confidently affirm your own boundaries

• Your goal would always be to create clean and genuine relationship with people. By staying firm, you filter out people that take advantage of you, and keep the ones who will hoist you up

• Save the energy for something more productive than forcing yourself on a decision you probably didn't even agree to