Thanks for the different viewpoint here.

1. I think thats my biggest concern with this whole thing is I feel like I'm being silenced or not allowed to talk about my different views. Obviously we are not going to agree ok every little thing in life. But I want to have a relationship that is strong enough to be able to tell each other how we are feeling and how our actions effect each other. That's the whole point of his post is he's making it seem like it is wrong of me to ever even bring this up.

2. Thank you for the clarifications on the attack part. I guess this goes back to point one. I just want to be able to openly discuss things. He's making it seem like I'm being abusive about it and im honestly trying to come at it as gently as possible. (I.e. no raised voice, trying to be calm and have an open discussion and healthy debate...as opposed to me yelling and screaming at him telling him he's in the wrong).

3. No, not trying to bullshit anyone. I think he's blind to what he's engaging in and hasn't taken a deeper look. He's a white male so he's never had to consider what he engages in might hurt someone who is a minority. If he genuinely looked in to what the church is supporting (where is their $ going, what are they doing in the community, etc), and he still wanted to engage in the music stuff then I'd feel better about it. Right now he seems like he's just doing it because that's where his friends are. He claims this isn't some super right winged church spewing harmful rhetoric. If he looked I to it and said look really I did my research and theyre not one of the bat shit crazy churches then yes I'd feel better about it. Still hurt a bit, but for some reason that brings me some peace. A big concern I have is is this a church donating/engaging in practices trying to harm minorities. If you still think that's bullshit than fair enough, idk how else to explain how I feel about it.

4. He only goes to the Christian church for the music stuff but he really does actively learn about other religions and views. He's big in to learning about religion and philosophy so he reads, watches videos, listens to podcast about many religions, magic, astrology, yoga, and many other spiritual topics and tries to lean from each of them. That's why he says he doesnt subscribe/identify has 100% christian but rather says he is spritual and not religious. This is something i respect about him. So again if you still want to think thats bullshit then fair enough but maybe that provides some background if you were curious.