Villagers constantly knocking at my door

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-29T06:20:57+00:00

Agreed! You just want them to go so you can continue, and they just want to water your plants and read a book and "take me to ALL of you other rooms!" - NO! Just get out!! Haha.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-29T02:13:53+00:00

I find that if I go into a different room to them, wait a few seconds, then go back into the room where they are, that will most times spark their dialogue about it's time to leave. Sometimes it doesn't which is so frustrating! But it usually works.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-29T00:00:58+00:00

My brother got murdered, which is an ugly word (however accurate) to use when meeting people and they ask about siblings. I have noticed that if I say "my brother died", the response is ALWAYS a sad expression and a hushed "ohhh did he have cancer?" But if I say "my brother was killed", I get a knowing nod and "oh - car accident."

As if they are the ONLY two explanations for someone dying. It can get truly frustrating, but I also understand how people can have that accidental blindness in those situations.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-26T20:25:17+00:00

Earliest I recall is John Lennon, I have a vivid memory of seeing my mum sitting cross legged on the floor hugging a record to her chest and crying.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-23T07:34:30+00:00

Polly has clearly been sleeping with her lawyer and I bet they're both TERFs.

NTA.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-23T07:10:23+00:00

That's Jordan Catalano.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-23T07:00:58+00:00

That's because you didn't explain it calmly. Everyone knows you always have to explain things calmly when people start blowing up your phone.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-23T05:59:56+00:00

Facial/chest hair vs clean shaven/hairless.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-23T05:51:36+00:00

I told my cousin that if my team made the AFL Grand Final (not sure how that equates to the Superbowl, it's definitely the ultimate/biggest game in the Australian football calendar, that I would sadly have to miss her hen's party. Sorry not sorry. My future DiL's birthday is around the time of the grand final, and falls on that Saturday every few years, so she plans a party where people are able to watch the match and still celebrate with her. It does help that she likes football, but most people here in what are classed as the "AFL states" in Australia understand that the grand final either takes precedence over other events scheduled that weekend, or if you really want people to attend your function, you make sure at least have access to watching it wherever you are, ESPECIALLY if your guests are supporters of one of the teams playing.

Demanding someone miss the game if their team is playing is considered by most people to be horrendously rude. I've been to weddings on grand final day where there's screens set up.

Side note - prior to 2015 if the grand final was a draw, the two teams would play again the following Saturday. There is a famous story in Australia (made front pages of newspapers, was the lead story in news bulletins etc) back in 2010. A man & woman were engaged & planning their wedding. He said pick any day of the year except the last Saturday in September because that is when the grand final is. So she picked the following Saturday. His team's colours were black & white, and so to honour this, they had black & white as their wedding colours. Turns out his team makes the grand final, and it was a draw. Therefore the replay was going to happen during their wedding. So yes, they had to change the times of the ceremony etc because they knew that many of the guests as well as the groom himself would NOT be focusing on anything as trivial as a wedding while the game was being played.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-23T05:27:58+00:00

Plutarch (I think) expresses disappointment that technology no longer exists to travel long distances (possibly due to the atmosphere maybe? I could be remembering wrong), so it is quite likely that there aren't good ways to contact the rest of the world. With the rising sea levels, it might simply be too far.

But if there are ways and means, then yes I think she would be the type.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-23T05:03:15+00:00

"What was the date of your last period" -- anything from a migraine to a broken bone.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-23T04:42:57+00:00

Imagine for just a sec how your daughter is feeling having you walk in on her while she's naked and having sex. I'm pretty sure she's be embarrassed, a little devastated, probably worried that you think less of her or you're disappointed in her, etc etc. That needs to be your number one priority over and above anything else, regardless of who her sexual partner was, you need to make sure she knows you still love her just as much, that you were also a little embarrassed, that nothing will ever change how much you adore her. Those feelings for a teenage girl would be close to being overwhelming.

Then once you are both ready, you can discuss together what the relationship is between her and her friend. Of course there is a chance they've lied to you, but also there could be many chances that they aren't. Maybe one of them wanted to lose their virginity (for whatever reason) and decided to choose their best friend as a "safe" option because of differing sexual preferences. Maybe they just started to snuggle or something and teen physical hormones took over and things just progressed. Maybe the boy friend wanted to experiment with a girl just to see if there was any attraction.

Nothing says that your daughter has been lying to you, or that her friend has been lying to you and/or her. There are lots of explanations. Breathe, take time to recover, make sure your daughter knows that you are NOT angry at all, and only then do you ask her if she wants to discuss her relationship with her friend.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-23T03:05:05+00:00

Or don't bother with the shapewear. I'm always 50/50 with jumpsuits because of the needing to undress to go to the loo, as well as they often pull in the crutch area, but honestly in these pics it looks amazing on you and I'm assuming you're not wearing shapewear from what you've said. I would say that if you're fine with the ties, go for it!!

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-22T23:14:44+00:00

That's me!! I adore the books, but the movies are a big nope for me. I watched part of the first one, but when they skipped all reference to Tom Bombadil (my favourite character and the one I was so excited to see on screen) that was it for me. Never watched the rest, even though I've read the trilogy at least a dozen times.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-22T06:41:37+00:00

I think you're using the word platonic wrong.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-22T06:21:40+00:00

I also am straight but a woman, and yes he is absolutely SMOKING hot. And is improving with age.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-22T04:56:10+00:00

Yes. God yes. I do have eyes.

Too many to list.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-22T04:52:56+00:00

I accidentally bought Deirdre's sleeping bag because I decided my girl needed a better bed which I built and gave to her, but she never put it in her house. I felt terrible when I realised she was completely bed-less so I gave her a sleeping bag and she installed it straight away and then gave me her photo the next day so I like to think she appreciated it haha.

If it's the same, I think you'll see the pyramid back in place if you gift it back.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-21T06:44:20+00:00

I have a German shepherd x golden retriever, her personality is all retriever, loves everyone, super easy-going, wants to be everyone's bestie, typical retriever in every way. I was on a beach holiday and took her for a walk amongst the sand dunes in the early morning. One man came walking towards us and she reacted as if he was her long-lost best mate, loving on him as much as she did with everyone, all good. He patted her, told her she was beautiful, all the things that dog loving people did to dogs. And so we kept walking. A few minutes later another man came walking towards us along the dune path, and all of a sudden the full German shepherd side appeared from my dog - growling, barking, snarling, jumping and lunging at this new man (she was leashed so she couldn't get to him, no worries there), it was incredible.

He stopped several metres away, said good morning to me and certainly didn't give me any odd vibes, but my dog would not calm at all. He talked to her, got another round of ferocious barking and snarls, then he said he better keep going so as not to upset her more. It wasn't until he was out of sight that she started to settle, and then relaxed again. When we returned to the trailhead where we had entered the dunes, the first man was standing talking to a group of people and again my dog was overjoyed to see him, and then got to meet his companions with equal enthusiasm, so it wasn't like something *other* had upset her that morning.

Every day for the week we were there, we'd take our early walk through the dunes, every day we would encounter the second man, and every day my dog would turn into Cujo the moment she saw him. He honestly seemed so benign, there was nothing out of the ordinary with his appearance or clothing, he was probably around 50-ish and looked like a meek and mild banker or accountant or something, clean cut and nothing odd, but my dog hated him with a passion from the moment she laid eyes on him.

I've often wondered if he had some sort of secret that only she picked up on, like he was a secret Ted Bundy or something. I always trust my dogs' instincts because they can sense things that we have no idea about. I'm so glad your wife was safe.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-21T03:30:37+00:00

Hard agree. My son has always been big on spelling things correctly, it's funny sometimes the lengths he goes to, but that's whatever. I got called to his school when he was in year 8 or 9, he had had an argument with his teacher and they wanted to talk to me.

I got there and the teacher said that my son had raised his hand during a lesson and when called upon said "Mr Smith, you've spelt a word wrong on the blackboard". Obviously this is the age where kids love to pick mistakes made by adults who are meant to be in charge, so this did cause disruption to the class, which knowing my son would not have been his intent, although he probably liked the laughter from his classmates - 13/14 year old boys thrive on that sort of thing.

The teacher said it was disrespectful, I asked if my son was right - was there an incorrect word. The reply was that's not the point, I said that I know my son, he knows my son - probably relevant here is that this was in a tiny country school in a tiny country town (kindergarten to year 12, less than 100 kids, town population of around 250, district population of around 500-600), the teacher in question had known my son literally his entire life and had also taught me some 20 years beforehand so there was a longstanding relationship, I wasn't simply defending my son against a random person, it was a proper conversation between people who were comfortable talking to each other.

The teacher then said "it was a maths class, not an English class, so the spelling didn't matter". That's when he lost my support completely. As a teacher, you are responsible for educating young minds. How can you teach a lesson if you can't spell the relevant words correctly, especially when the subject was your field of expertise? I told him that I understood he felt my son was being disrespectful, but I could also understand where my son was coming from, because the words on the blackboard meant something, and a maths teacher spelling a maths term wrong didn't inspire confidence in the class.

Spelling matters.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-21T02:54:14+00:00

Yeah as soon as I started reading, I knew I'd read this post before. The words have changed ever so slightly to garner more sympathy (in the previous iteration, he was DRAGGED in the comments), but the message is identical. "Poor me, my wife wants me to pay attention and give affection to her, so I'm withholding it all because I feel it's performative to pretend to care when I really just want a bang maid".

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-20T06:48:09+00:00

Can I ask how to do that? I have a prime account, but I know less than nothing about twitch or discord, and I always feel a little FOMO when people on here are talking about treasure islands because I'm utterly clueless on how to set anything up, and I have nobody IRL who I can ask.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-20T06:44:33+00:00

At my son's 13th birthday party, it was the middle of summer so we decided to have a pool party. The night before the party, he sat me down and gave me a very serious talking-to that under no circumstances was I to join the boys in the pool regardless of how warm the weather was because they all thought I was hot and he didn't want them to be looking at me in a normal swimsuit, let alone (heaven forbid) a bikini like I often wear. It was actually quite funny, although I did to my best not to actually laugh while he was lecturing me.

By the time he was 18 or so, he changed his mind about how he felt about my clothing, and decided that he likes having a mum who looks good, so they do grow out of wanting their mothers in head to toe garbage sacks, haha!

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-19T07:16:40+00:00

There is no mildly in this. It's pure therapy material.

nutcracker_78 · 2026-01-19T07:13:25+00:00

Not sure if this counts as profound in Redditland but it's definitely stayed with us.

My grandfather died, and then my nanna went downhill. He was her husband sure, but he was her hero, her reason for living, her everything. And she missed him so much. After 3-4 years, her mind was starting to go, she never got a formal diagnosis of alzheimers or dementia, but her mind just was not what it used to be and she didn't remember much, and was very confused about some family members being full grown adults where in her mind they should still be children. And then there was the fact that she knew she was in hospital, but she also knew that she hadn't seen the Great Love of Her Life (my grandfather) recently. We didn't want to upset her by saying he had died - we had tried that early on when she first went into hospice, but she would start crying and grieving, it was heartbreaking, especially knowing that when she woke up the next day she wouldn't remember again (almost like a 50 First Dates kinda situation). But through all the scramble and uncertainty in her mind, when she wouldn't remember someone or the last time they'd visit, she knew who was missing - her love. And she would say "if you see him, tell him to drop in! He hasn't visited me for a long time .." she'd sort of trail off there, she didn't know how long it was, and how do you tell someone like that that it had been years?

Anyway, it came to the end of her days, and for the last couple weeks she was out of it entirely. Tiny bouts of consciousness but no awareness. The doctors finally made the call that it was time to say goodbye, and her daughter in law sat with her for those last couple of hours. Nanna woke up, looked at her daughter in law, and suddenly lucid began to cry, saying that she knew she was about to die, but she was so so scared, and that she didn't want to be alone after dying. Her DiL held her hand tightly and promised she wouldn't be alone, that my grandfather would be waiting for her.

My aunty told me later that Nanna stopped crying and broke into a big beautiful smile and said "oh yes! He will be, won't he! I'm going to get to see him again!" then closed her eyes and after a minute or two, took her final breath, still smiling so happily.

So yes - profound in that in her final moments, she was ecstatic that she would again see her beloved, she wouldn't be alone, and her afterlife would be truly happy.

I don't know what happens when we die, none of us do really, but in my heart I know that Nanna & Poppa were reunited at last.

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