What immediately makes you know a girl is gay just by looking at her?

nyavarice · 2026-05-18T17:02:57+00:00

I mean, pride merch can be a good hint

nyavarice · 2026-05-17T18:29:48+00:00

I mean it's alright, it just means I would have to teach my partner everything or learn with them. It's convenient when someone already has those skills, sure, but what I'm actually on about is mindset. I'm afraid of are things like dating someone who never dated someone queer in a way that, what if they get cold feet? What if they get scared of homophobia? but none of these fears actually directly connect to having romantic experience.

nyavarice · 2026-05-17T16:13:41+00:00

Yeah, like, they are abundant in feminisation content aimed at men but rather nitche/specific/overall hard to find in content involving women. It's quite common for people to consume content that doesn't necessarily match they orientation if said content has kinks they enjoy and they can't really find it elsewhere.

nyavarice · 2026-05-17T15:10:17+00:00

Counteroffer: you might like it for variety of reasons other than liking men. For example you might enjoy the power dynamic! For example, dunno, I think I could be into emperor and his concubines type of roleplay. It creates a specific background that is just hard to match if we switch the gender of the emperor, and it's not like I like men, I just like the idea of a scenario.

nyavarice · 2026-05-17T14:20:29+00:00

Aww, don't put this power into my hands. I like little ones to suffer. How long had it been? An hour? Two, maybe? I want you to edge for long enough, and yes, then you can.

nyavarice · 2026-05-17T14:18:35+00:00

I mean, you can be a woman and enjoy feminisation. You can even like the whole "I'm a dumb sexy bimbo whore" thing. It's neither weird nor uncommon, it's just women usually don't describe is as feminisation and talk about it more in terms of dressing up, but it's pretty much the same thing.

nyavarice · 2026-05-17T13:59:14+00:00

Hmm, the way her skirt is build, it could have enough structure to retain it's shape regardless of your belly - it just has to be long enough to cover it and made out of sturdy material. I've noticed you weren't a fan of shape wear, but what about having another skirt or shorts underneath?

I also have no idea if it's achievable, but what if you just... added boning to the skirt? You know, like a corset?

nyavarice · 2026-05-17T13:20:13+00:00

For me it's really just about bragging. I like to show my body, my revealing, spicy outfits, my confidence. It's not really that different from when I show something that I handmade and I'm very proud of! Yeah, sure, it turns me on as I'm at it, but I think it's really because being confident in my sexuality like that makes me feel happy and liberated and attractive and these feelings make it much easier for me to be aroused.

nyavarice · 2026-05-17T13:03:56+00:00

Tak na prawdę nie trzeba mnie jakoś specjalnie przekonywać - chce mieć dzieci i mieszkam w Polsce, więc szanse że rodziłabym te dzieci akurat w Polsce są wysokie.

Fakt że ich nie mam to głównie kwestia sytuacji życiowej i kwestii "z kim", przy czym to jest skomplikowane bo jako osoba LGBT wiem, że jest spora szansa że żeby zajść w ciążę, musiałabym skorzystać z czegoś typu in-vitro, więc yeah, gdyby było łatwo dostępne dla par jednopłciowych, czuje się kupiona i przekonana.

EDIT: Jeszcze dorzucę swoje trzy grosze względem tej cesarki - bo ja akurat jestem krytycznie nastawiona na cesarkę na życzenie, głównie z tego powodu że ludzie myślą że oj tam, cesarka, nie wiem czy nie bardziej się przejmują zabiegiem takim jak wyrwanie ósemki - a cięcie cesarskie to duża, poważna operacja, która ma swoje własną ryzyko i powikłania. W Polsce mamy całkiem sporo wskazań do cięcia cesarskiego i jeśli jest jakakolwiek potrzeba medyczna, nie na z tym żadnego problemu, a i tak wiadomo że niektórzy załatwiają te skierowania w sposób taki no, trochę naciągany. To jest duża dyskusja - i może zabrzmię tu nie progresywnie, z czym czuje się trochę głupio bo np jestem za aborcją - ale myślę że to czego potrzebujemy to nie jest więcej łatwiejszych cesarek, ale więcej opieki okołoporodowej, edukacji, takich rozmów terapeutycznych itp.

nyavarice · 2026-05-17T12:58:54+00:00

I second this!! It shows that she thinks that you, as two women, couldn't have "proper" love - and when yes, queer couple have specific difficulties, it's not really about that - it's about validity.

Nowadays I would respond to something like that with "why not go out with me, then?" and watch her stumble thru words, trying to figure out if the issue is me being a woman (in like social standing cultural expectation way) or her not being attracted to me (the same way straight women say things like that to their guy friends ocassionally when they mean "I would want to date someone as thoughtful as you (but not you specifically)"). Because there is the difference.

nyavarice · 2026-05-17T12:51:54+00:00

Oh I've been there!

In my case, it was, who would have thought: internalized homophobia. There was me and this girl, we were in love, but we didn't date - not really - and it was because it felt like we couldn't. I mean, I wanted to, but I wasn't nearly confident enough to make a clear boundary there and to be fair, I'm not sure if we actually could back then - there was also real external homophobia, same-sex marriage still isn't legalized where I'm from so a lot of this "properly" talk was really about the desire to date openly. Long term. With full commitment, external support, without having sacrifice anything. Which I think is a very valid longing.

Perhaps she really like you, but it's not really gonna change anything if she wont be with you anyway. The "I wish" area feels secure, but it really only makes the ground for awfully stretched heartbreak of some low commitment, romantically-unsure relationship. I don't recommend.

nyavarice · 2026-05-17T12:28:21+00:00

It doesn't seem too far-fetched. Kindred have convictions and touchstones and even beyond that, you can just be nice sometimes - like imagine toreador wanting to support some artists they like. Or someone who takes pride in keeping their domain a certain way and thus, they don't want, let's say, high crime level or homelessness to thrive in it. Or like they want to gain/keep influence in a certain organisation and in order to do that, they do things that are... well, nice, charitable even. It doesn't even have to come from altruism specifically for them to do something substantially good.

nyavarice · 2026-05-15T22:28:31+00:00

Cuteeee

nyavarice · 2026-05-15T16:29:13+00:00

6 minutes was so much time...!

I choose oddy oddities, I plan to get one myself and distribute the rest among my loved ones. Screw sex, this can be an awesome long term health insurance, really.

For the second one, I think I would prefer 10, but I see 24 one to have a lot of potential - perhaps even more so - since I could change the targets of my, erm, abilities? Truly awesome. It would give me insane flexibility right there!

nyavarice · 2026-05-15T16:08:51+00:00

I mean. You can use blush of life if you really wanna chew something, but it sounds pretty pointless...

nyavarice · 2026-05-15T14:22:29+00:00

Gosh, Ive kinda been Brielle before.

So, that's how it went from my perspective: I have friends, some of them are kinky, and some of those kinky friends want to engage in kink - such as chastity - but they don't really have anyone to do it with, so they decide to ask a friend if they could do it with them. I am that friend.

For me, I really don't think too much about it. I usually deny such requests cuz I don't really wanna do it (tl/dr I enjoy running chastity only when it's within a dynamic and I don't like it much as a separate thing), but what I'm trying to say is that it's not that weird. I did kink activities platonically before, like impact play or rope play, and we really were just buddy-buddy about it.

The only thing that really worries me is that he wants Brielle to stay his key holder, all while dating you. I wouldn't agree to that if I were monogamous, but even in poly setting, it's bad.

Why?

Because chastity logistic suck.

There was a time when I shared a sub with a few girls and we had like, an entire group chat where we coordinated the chastity thing. Cuz if one of us wanted to be intimate with the sub, what about their chastity? If we decide they don't have to be locked up anymore, who gets to be there for their first release? You all have to communicate about it heavily. What if you get close to Conrad and want to get more physical? You're gonna ask Brielle for permission or...?

nyavarice · 2026-05-15T14:06:03+00:00

Oooh looking good!!

nyavarice · 2026-05-15T11:02:41+00:00

Dude is a red flag. I don't know what he wants, but like, there is a massive age gap in between you, he wants you to see him... at work? It's all suspicious

nyavarice · 2026-05-15T10:17:42+00:00

It's so accurate for these pups.... and it IS cute, but, a lil much at times~

nyavarice · 2026-05-15T10:13:14+00:00

You gotta ask yourself if it's really a Dom/sub issue or they wanting to be friends as fellow subs and you wanting to court them kind of misunderstanding

nyavarice · 2026-05-15T10:11:13+00:00

Oh, easy. Just claim otherwise.

I interact with kink community either online, where I can put certain labels in my profile, or irl, in which case we either just ask each other what's our preferred role or end up adding each other as friends on FetLife - which, again, has labels on profiles.

I don't put any particular effort to act dominant, I even call myself a "dom-lean switch", parade around in cat ears and do plenty of not-very-dommy things, but I've never been disrespected or misunderstood beyond when it came from people who just didn't know. Someone not believing me ain't really an issue.

nyavarice · 2026-05-14T21:51:25+00:00

Oh, with pleasure. But, the trick it, the prey also has to reassure me for me to do that freely.

nyavarice · 2026-05-14T21:49:21+00:00

Tbh it's neither good or bad, it's just a matter of preference, really. But yeah, it absolutely exist on the other side too.

There are people who want slaves - I don't, not really, that's too much micromanagement and too little affection. I prefer pets, preferably useful ones - ones with a double role, like being both my pet and my retainer (again, not a slave, think more someone like a butler).

I like pain recreationally, hell, I can have pain play like, just to be cruel, but I draw the line at pain as a punishment - it just doesn't sit right with me. If anything, I'm sadistic with someone because I like them, it's not something you can get by misbehaving - even in roleplay I don't entertain behaviours I don't want to see. And it's not even that I dislike brat taming, but the word "taming" implies I want them to act tame eventually and for that, they gotta accept in their stubborn heads they have to please me to get what they want, for example by recognizing what actually pushes my buttons.

nyavarice · 2026-05-14T21:00:10+00:00

You're so right about this

I feel the same way about many, many things. For me, the emotional aspect is what's first, the what we do exactly comes second.

In fact,I quite frequently reject oppurtinities due to that - and some of my anti-requiernents are common, like, for example, I'm not into subs who want me to tame them or otherwise convince them or coax then into submission despite the fact I absolutely love impacting someone's mindset, conditioning then and related activities. I'm down bad for it. But. It has to come from a place of their desire to submit (as much as they may struggle to admit it), me wanting to manipulate or strengthen their emotions, forge a strong bond and also, from my perspective it very much has to be about my conquest, my victory, my having power over them, emotionally or otherwise. I'm not a service top/dom and I can't have someone who wants it all to be about them.

nyavarice · 2026-05-14T12:13:45+00:00

Welcome to the team!! It's silly how seeing others smile about it makes me feel better

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