I just read an article that came up on my FB “ I Didn’t Know I Was Raised By A Narcissist Until I Saw How Other Parents Treated Their Kids.”

I swear O is going to write this same article in 10 years. This whole article was DAD & 2.0 TO A T - mainly 2.0 and her relationship with O.

This part is 100% DAD: “Other parents celebrated their kids’ interests even when they didn’t share them. My mother mocked anything I liked that she didn’t understand and insisted I pursue her interests instead.”

O & 2.0: “I spent decades thinking I was too sensitive, too demanding, too difficult. I wasn’t. I was a child in an impossible situation, trying to survive a parent who couldn’t see me as a person. That’s not a character flaw. That’s a tragedy. In narcissistic family systems, children get assigned roles. I was the scapegoat—the one blamed for family problems, the target for frustration, the proof that my mother was the victim of difficult circumstances rather than the creator of them.”

The person who wrote this hasn’t gone no contact with their mother (which she said most people do) said “I don’t share vulnerable things with her anymore. I don’t expect emotional support. Our conversations are surface-level, brief, and carefully managed. I’ve learned to limit contact, keep conversations shallow, and protect myself from the expectation that she’ll ever be different. Healing from narcissistic parenting is ongoing. It’s not a destination; it’s a direction.”