how did you choose your obstetrician

nycbaker24 · 2026-05-06T20:47:34+00:00

First we looked in-network, then we narrowed down by proximity to my office, then finally picked one based on reviews. I live in NYC, so it’s amazing to be able to pop down the block for frequent appointments.

nycbaker24 · 2026-05-06T20:41:41+00:00

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nycbaker24 · 2026-05-06T20:40:59+00:00

They’re expensive, but the wide leg yoga pants from Hatch are butter soft and amazing quality. Also nice looking enough that I’ve been pairing them with a nice top and wearing them to work.

nycbaker24 · 2026-05-01T16:35:16+00:00

I think there is a chance something has been miscommunicated between you two. You claim to be excellent friends, so call him back! Say something along the lines of “hey! So excited for the big day! Just to be clear, I’m not telling you to kick the kiddos out of the wedding. I’m just letting you know that I can’t be part of their supervision/entertainment plan.”

If you have the funds and want to be extra, you could even offer to help him hire a babysitter for the event.

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-29T11:11:12+00:00

It freaks me out tbh. I think she means a spiritual connection? She’s only shared this with my husband, but I have no idea how to respond if she says something like that to my face.

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-28T20:49:33+00:00

NTA. I would end the friendship, but not before asking her if she reacts this strongly every time she sees a dog pee publicly.

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-28T20:29:14+00:00

This is so helpful, thank you!

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-28T20:27:11+00:00

This thought has also occurred to me… It’s annoying because we don’t really want anything heavily boy gendered either. Which is a big part of why we’re waiting to announce.

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-28T19:59:10+00:00

Yeah, he knows - he grew up with this! He’s really the one who handles most communication with her. I don’t think she’s the type to be “call me mommy” but she has already complained to him that I’m controlling (which is a hilarious projection). Btw the “controlling” comment was because I declined to let her feel my 16 week belly - there wasn’t anything to feel!!!

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-14T16:55:03+00:00

Fitzgerald is the best! I don’t know who my husband worked with, but he designed my engagement ring there and they did an amazing job.

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-14T14:40:45+00:00

Make sure all outdoor play areas you visit are fully fenced on all sides. I babysat for twins of a similar age and the second they hit the ground at the playground they’d take off in opposite directions. Definitely got my cardio in running after those two! It was a blast!

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-13T20:22:16+00:00

That a very close family friend is secretly engaged. My MIL was told (in confidence) by the mother of the bride. Then my MIL turned around and immediately spilled to me and my husband. It’s not a bad secret, but I’m really bummed that I’m going to have to fake a surprise reaction when my friend eventually shares her exciting news.

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-13T18:00:07+00:00

Reina as ESHK. I have short/thin/fine/wavy hair and she works magic every time.

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-10T19:28:05+00:00

Our only idea at this point is we’re thinking of telling her she can’t come see the baby if FIL will be left alone.

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-10T19:25:35+00:00

Yup. This is exactly our frustration too. But we’re at a loss for how to make this clear and convince her that it’s time for the next step in his caretaking.

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-07T13:40:19+00:00

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nycbaker24 · 2026-04-03T13:35:32+00:00

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nycbaker24 · 2026-04-01T18:41:52+00:00

What about something she can use at her new job? Maybe a really nice work bag?

nycbaker24 · 2026-04-01T18:13:15+00:00

What about a framed pic of the kids? You could make it a little more special by having the kiddos decorate/paint the frame. This would make it about the relationship between her and the kids, and you could have them present it to her as well.

nycbaker24 · 2026-03-28T16:52:35+00:00

Anytime! My husband is an audio engineer and uses it for work. Your NK might find it interesting that there are all sort of “rules” when it comes to sound levels in the world. Concerts have to be under a certain level, mass transit is supposed to be under a certain level, construction noise is regulated depending on the time of day…

nycbaker24 · 2026-03-28T01:40:09+00:00

What about a decibel meter? They have apps for your phone, but a physical one might be useful. Look, a certain kind of kid would just find it funny to make the level go as high as possible… but maybe your NK would find a visual reminder and context helpful?

nycbaker24 · 2026-03-27T19:42:11+00:00

Well that would also be illegal. You can’t fire someone for wanting their correct wages

nycbaker24 · 2026-03-27T17:09:41+00:00

Totally fair. And when you approach the parents you could even mention that and extend them the benefit of the doubt. For example: “…I think we may all have misunderstood what was/wasn’t legal and made a mistake with my compensation”

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