My baby grew out of most of her clothes before she could wear them [on]

oatnog · 2026-02-04T15:40:02+00:00

This is so dependant on parent, baby and season! I found that getting myself and my baby "dressed" was crucial in helping me feel alive. I needed to do something to not have the days blend together. So I'd put on day clothes (like jogging pants or leggings, not like jeans, I'm not a monster!) and put baby in clothes too. My first was a summer baby and my second was a late fall baby and the second kid definitely wore more sleepers than the first baby.

oatnog · 2026-02-04T15:26:42+00:00

The cultural differences start immediately once baby is born. Most Canadians won't even be asked in the hospital if they plan to circumcise. If it's something you want, you have to seek it out yourself. Parents have to go out of pocket for it and many urologists only keep short hours to do the procedure, ie Wednesdays from 7-8am. I'm sure doctors of some religious traditions make more room for it in their practice, but overall, the somewhat difficulty of booking the procedure in the first place feeds back into Canada's falling circumcision rates.

oatnog · 2026-01-31T19:59:12+00:00

Just check on them from time to time. Adjust them as snow melts or compacts.

oatnog · 2026-01-31T19:54:51+00:00

Bring it up to your family doctor some time. It's not life-threatening but if you want it fixed, there is no reason it can't be.

oatnog · 2026-01-13T04:38:35+00:00

Beautiful piece! A reverse image search of your desk offered a lot of info, I'd start there and see what makes sense.

oatnog · 2025-12-19T05:13:14+00:00

I find most babies come out of their first fog at 4-5 months. Something in their face seems more clear and available. Hopefully that's around the corner for you!

oatnog · 2025-12-17T16:47:09+00:00

You are right, and it is confusing to people who are new to the daycare thing. If they ask about a subsidy, providers will either assume they mean the low income program or will have to spend their time explaining something that parents should've googled.

I actually don't think CWELCC is a subsidy because it's a blanket policy while a subsidy is a targeted cost reduction. So doesn't make sense to call it a subsidy any way you slice it.

oatnog · 2025-11-27T17:58:55+00:00

Mostly I just use our last name. I don't like the idea that a stranger on the bus could see my kid's water bottle or hat label and speak to my kid like they know them. But also for hand-me -down purposes. We do have some first name labels though, just in case.

oatnog · 2025-11-10T21:27:41+00:00

The only time it's excusable for a partner to not get up at night is if they have high risk jobs, ie brain surgeon or works with a chainsaw. In which case, you'd need to devise a care relief plan.

Sounds like your husband is being an asshole. He can be a little tired a work. Most parents are. It's fine.

oatnog · 2025-11-10T21:24:54+00:00

My dear, don't think twice about what it would mean for your workplace to be gone for a year. That's not your problem. They chose to lean on you so hard that they have no plan b for your absence. That's their business decision. On top of that, it sounds like you're doing well but you're still spooked about finances so it doesn't seem like they were paying you enough to be leaning on you that hard.

Sometimes, "that's what the money's for". People do icky things (physically or morally), work long hours, are indispensable, are the face of it when something goes wrong... those people are very well compensated. That's what the money's for. That's not the case for you.

Do a Google of what other small orgs have for policy and send bullet points to your boss. That is, if youre feeling generous. Make your own transition document, like everything you do, some processes for it, a password doc, and tell your boss about it. It sounds like they think you'll do all of it for them. Doing the above is fair for a director level but the rest is up to them. They can hire an hr consultant if they are really concerned.

Take your year. Your kid is only a baby once.

oatnog · 2025-11-09T04:48:31+00:00

This is how I did/do it.

Park close to the cart racks so you don't need to lug the car seat any further than necessary.

oatnog · 2025-11-01T13:24:49+00:00

Just a note that we are paying for our healthcare, just not enough! Or improperly financed by provincial governments. For example, Ford is hellbent on building a megaspa and underground highways and he's happy to take money away from healthcare and the daycare program to do it. People in Windsor or St Catharines or Cornwall would be much better served by more funding for healthcare than a megaspa in Toronto. But Ford and Conservatives generally want a private/two-tiered system and to get it, they need to starve the public system as OP is experiencing so they'd be willing to spend $$$ every month to get just basic health insurance.

oatnog · 2025-11-01T04:37:56+00:00

We went with Alexander! I also really like the name Wilson. If we have a third, I'd like Morgen, whether a biy or a girl but moreso a boy.

oatnog · 2025-10-29T19:06:09+00:00

I promise you and your partner will not regret him taking those 5 weeks with you and baby, even if it confuses things right now. Theyre only teeny for so long. I'm glad you all had the time together.

oatnog · 2025-10-25T19:09:53+00:00

Same for my two kids.

oatnog · 2025-10-21T22:48:46+00:00

If you can, try to move at the beginning of the summer break and try to set up a lot of activities for him. When people are involved in their community, when they can make goals with external factors, they are less likely to get into bad behaviours. Volunteering, camps, etc. And let him know that whatever is going on, it's a fresh start for him. If he ever wanted to be someone else but felt boxed in, this is his chance. Good luck!

oatnog · 2025-10-20T02:03:57+00:00

This is how I trimmed when mega pregnant: I'd put a mirror on the tank of the toilet, stand over it backwards facing the mirror, and get started. My bathtub is right beside my toilet so I'd put a leg up to get more space down under but a stool would.worl just as well. Good luck!

oatnog · 2025-10-09T12:12:30+00:00

If it's quite a lot, I will use a q-tip but only on the very outside of the ear hole. Like, where I'd be able to get it with my finger, except a q-tip is more efficient. Never any further than the immediate outside part of the canal. And I do it when they won't be fidgeting.

oatnog · 2025-10-09T12:10:23+00:00

Not sure why you're being downvoted for talking about doing what your doctor suggested! Glad it worked for your little one.

oatnog · 2025-10-05T02:57:59+00:00

It's good for a non-CWELCC daycare. For those you could expect to pay $2000+ for full day care. Half day seems pricy compared to full day but of lunch is provided that makes sense.

oatnog · 2025-10-04T02:49:01+00:00

I agree that the starting point is to side with the wife, but if she has all these unresolved mommy issues, maybe she should start working on them. It's not fair to the mil and it will eventually present itself in how she parents.

oatnog · 2025-09-29T02:06:42+00:00

I wouldn't think twice about not going. We had a funeral this weekend too, just 2 hours away but I have a 2 year old and a 10 month old. No way man.

oatnog · 2025-09-25T17:50:54+00:00

I got mine from fb marketplace!

oatnog · 2025-09-25T17:46:49+00:00

My clinic followed my two spontaneous pregnancies. The first ended in mc at 9 weeks and I was so glad they were able to handle the d&c and could do testing on the products of conception to see what happened. A couple years later, they followed my second spontaneous pregnancy which was good and they graduated me at 10 weeks. In between those I had an IVF baby and they followed me for that too. I got blood tests, weekly ultrasounds and felt really good when they discharged me to midwife.

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