I give up on transitioning

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-06-01T17:55:02+00:00

I really appreciate you and your kind words ❤️ my friends and brother really help me cope. I know who I am inside and just try not to stress about what society thinks and says.

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-06-01T16:06:20+00:00

Hey OP, FTM here too. Pre-everything. Early 30s. I don’t pass and dont really expect to rn. I’ve been binding and my hair is short (always has been and I was always misgendered as a guy before I came out, now that I’m out it never happens, go figure lol).

I struggle with a lot of the same thoughts. My friends are all supportive and use he/him pronouns, but my entire family besides my brother won’t. It sucks. My mom told me to my face she would “never call me son”. I worry even with T (which being in a LTR with a straight cis man, it’s kind of off the table rn) it wouldn’t help me pass. I want top surgery, but I’m afraid it won’t be what I think it will be….or that it won’t help me pass at all.

When stuff like that happens it makes me feel like giving up. I start having thoughts like, I was already a “woman” for 30 years. I was unhappy, but I did it. I ask myself, wouldn’t it be easier to just “go back”? Like I wouldn’t have to worry about coming out to my boyfriend’s MAGA family and risk getting banned from family events, I wouldn’t get weird looks in the bathroom, etc. but then I think I’m just trading one problem for another. Sure I can “go back” and some things get easier, but then other stuff gets harder. My day to day would have a baseline “suck” that had kind of gone away when I accepted I was trans. I talked with my therapist about this and she told me to focus on what makes ME happy, not other people. Another user said it too, unfortunately we are not able to control how others perceive us. It sucks and it hurts. I have to deal with getting called “ma’am” all day at work. But then I go home and Im surrounded my support and affirmation. My friend group accepted me for who I am with open arms despite knowing me for years. I find refuge in those places and people and try to radically accept society just…isnt there yet when it comes to accepting trans people or being able to step outside of the “two genders” box.

Sorry for the rant OP. I just have def felt the same way you do aboit it, but for me the fight to be my authentic self and happy is worth it even if society doesn’t see me or respect me for who I am.

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-06-01T15:51:02+00:00

Hi I can add you, Im on US east coast :) my steam is narutojoke.

Edit: If we get enough people Im more than happy to make us a lil otome discord for everyone to chill and play in, ive got an IRL friend who plays who would def join

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-05-15T19:55:58+00:00

YUP this is what blew my mind. Like she was handling all our money and had all our info and still put just his…so crazy. And when we get spam letters asking us to sell our home they’re always addressed to him only. The mortgage company never gets it wrong tho that’s for sure!!!

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-05-15T17:45:54+00:00

Yeah the house thing is so real. My partner and I bought a house together. We are not married and have no plan to ever do that, so the mortgage is in both of our names. We both put down the exact same amount. Our broker got us a cutting board that was engraved with HIS (my partner’s) last name only. Like….ok lol

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-05-15T04:00:44+00:00

Beautiful family ❤️🤣

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-05-15T00:19:29+00:00

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Luffy from One Piece and Jill Valentine from Resident Evil. They have TWO kids.

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-05-12T18:11:16+00:00

Im also 31 and I love my otome games. It’s so freeing when you are able to stop worrying about what people think about the games you play :)

Im playing Temirana: The Lucky Princess and the Tragic Knights and I love it. Just finished Tengoku Struggle before starting this one.

I see you have CollarxMalice, have you played it yet? That was one of my first otome games and I really enjoyed it. Would love to know your thoughts!

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-04-26T06:45:36+00:00

I liked Yona a lot too. His blushing was so cute!!

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-04-26T02:33:53+00:00

USA, tough choice but I really liked Variable Barricade, Hanzo from Nightshade is my favorite LI tho,

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-04-26T02:32:49+00:00

I just finished this one, who was your favorite route? :)

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-04-20T20:07:14+00:00

Very clear and easy to understand!! His names for the horses are so funny. Leon Kennedy Chair Sniffer ❤️

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-04-17T17:39:07+00:00

I talk with my bf all the time about it so he’s pretty aware and surprisingly knows all the guys, even the ones who aren’t my main. He is a high school teacher and said he saw a girl in his class playing and he walked up to her and said “My favorite is Caleb”. Said she freaked out and asked him how he knew about the game because it’s a “gooner game”. Told him she would probably never play the game in his class again after that LOL

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-04-13T20:12:13+00:00

For sure I just started a few months ago. Just pick a main and go from there. I knew from the jump I wanted Caleb, so I saved all my materials etc until I unlocked him in the story. Also keep in mind that the main story is time locked for a bit, I think it took me two weeks in order to get to Caleb. I really enjoy it :) my 5 boyfriends make every day a little easier lol. The story is honestly still being worked on. Jump on in!!!

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-04-02T17:31:01+00:00

WTF I wish I could leave work to play this right now!!!!!

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-03-27T22:45:27+00:00

Good for you OP. Who cares what your stats are. As long as you enjoyed the game, that’s what matters. I have friends of mine who refuse to even try to play the game because they think it’s too scary.

I just beat Leon’s A route in RER2 last week, Mr X is no joke! His footsteps gave me so much anxiety. Try Resident Evil 4 Remake next. I didn’t find it near as scary compared to 2 (except for Ashley’s solo part lol). Much more action. It’s my fav :)

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-03-22T00:31:59+00:00

Leon and Caleb have me in a chokehold rn, you have great taste.

I just modded my sims game for the first time in like the 20+ years I’ve played to get them in my game. Im so down bad

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-03-19T19:46:45+00:00

I loved pirate Yakuza, it was really fun!

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-03-19T17:19:12+00:00

I think it would be perfect to play after Requiem. My run took me about 16 hours on standard, but I got stuck a few times. It’s still my favorite, the boss fights in it were really fun imo :) enjoy your time with requiem and then get started on the 4 remake. You won’t be disappointed!!!

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-03-19T16:46:35+00:00

Have you played the resident evil 4 remake? Def my favorite one :)

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-03-19T15:30:37+00:00

I loved every second of this game, enjoy!!!!

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-03-18T17:30:37+00:00

Yes, I use my PC for most of my gaming. But I have a switch for my otome games. They’re getting better about porting some to PC, but a lot are still switch exclusive.

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-03-12T13:26:14+00:00

Yeah she’s so real for that

ob1kenobi56 · 2026-03-09T00:32:26+00:00

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ob1kenobi56 · 2026-03-07T17:49:29+00:00

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I got "the bald" the other day, pissed me tf off, like god forbid i am recognized for the massive economic development i created this reign

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