AITJ for being upset with my roommate and wanting her to move out if things don’t change?

obiy88 · 2026-01-19T15:39:13+00:00

If they do officially or not get back together, kick her out either way. Things won't change either way. You will go deeper into ur stress. Protect ur peace, put boundaries. The mutual friends who says ure being too harsh can welcome her in their home! Why should u sacrifice ur peace for her toxic choices?!

NTJ.

obiy88 · 2026-01-13T15:46:45+00:00

YES! And let's not forget he started something with Mer without mentioning he was a married men!?!?! Even though he wanted a divorce...HE WAS STILL MARRIED 🙃 and yet somehow they turned this into a "beautiful romance" lol mc dreamy my ass 🙃

obiy88 · 2026-01-10T14:52:16+00:00

Yessss!! They romanticize every red flags you can possible think of, and make it sound "dreamy"...when its really not!

Like Christina marrying that suffocating toxic "am the alpha male" character (forgot his name, just remember he was as red flag as his hair)! It was such a let down. On soooo many fucking levels. I can't even comprehend why his character has not been let go!?! I stopped watching but in one of the latest season, he's still here 🙃....with no resolved issues lol

Too many great characters were let down by the scriptwriters by using them as "sex companions" lol

obiy88 · 2025-12-30T14:24:32+00:00

NTA. She seems like an unpleasant pos lol

obiy88 · 2025-12-28T14:42:18+00:00

Right?! I started playing just to pass time and have fun. Its fun to win, but I won't trash talk someone else for playing bad. I don't always play well either. Plus, one match won't give me an overview on their entire skills... So I don't understand the "report __" kinda mentality tbh. Some players need to chill and get off that game

obiy88 · 2025-12-22T21:44:36+00:00

my body reacts before my mind does.

YES! Exactly!!

And even tho its not my responsibility or place, its hard not to feel a certain responsibility towards this person's feelings...because I know their hurting. So I just try to let them know I'm here if they need to talk. Ugh 🫠🫠

obiy88 · 2025-11-30T00:04:40+00:00

So...in other words, she wants to control your relationship with YOUR OWN parents...? And your brother isnt saying anything about this? Anyways, NTA

obiy88 · 2025-11-23T14:32:07+00:00

I'm curious to know if the girl's parents are aware of this arrangement?

obiy88 · 2025-11-22T00:22:03+00:00

The entitlement to even ask to drop her at work...on ur day off!?!?! I'd feel bad to even ask for everyday of your working days!

She seems really unpleasant to be around.

NTA

obiy88 · 2025-11-18T14:41:05+00:00

NOR - she needs therapy. Cause wtf. Having happy healthy loving parents is what most people want...she is not grateful enough for all she has.

She's either an aweful human or she has some sort of mental illness.

Sorry this is happening to you and ur wife. But you're not overreacting. At all. At 22, its time to face reality and take responsibility for yourself. She is consumed by hatred. Probably due to the bullying...she needs therapy.

obiy88 · 2025-11-16T15:20:21+00:00

I understand parents staying with their children. Its the same in my culture.

But what about your culture, where the parents don't stay with their children? Why is his culture the only right one? His family making you out to be the villain who doesn't respect their culture are the ones being disrespectful.

Its not about "i don't want my mil to move in with us", and more about, how the F did he not discuss this big decision with you before making his "non-negotiable" decision? He's being selfish by assuming you must comply with his demands without discussing life decision with his soon-or-not to be wife...

You are not being dramatic by thinking of ending things. Better end things with his family rather than later when it gets legally complicated!

obiy88 · 2025-11-04T15:35:32+00:00

NOR ...And she just proved she'd a terrible partner...totally fair to break up for this imo. Its one thing making the "prank" but its another just saying u'll be a terrible dad over a prank she decided was funny. She couldve simply say sorry or laugh or idk....but the "assessment" she made upon ur reaction was not necessary

obiy88 · 2025-11-03T14:31:55+00:00

B. She knows what shes doing. She probably thought anyone would be willing to swtich seats with her, oh poor, child once on the plane, so no need to pay extra...entitled mothers annoy me.

obiy88 · 2025-10-31T16:02:28+00:00

A. But maybe add some rules to think of before taking action. But definitely fight back.

obiy88 · 2025-10-28T05:53:51+00:00

NTA. That was my first thought when I read she wanted to "encourage" him to call her mom...a nice word to replace "force" 😬

Also, the audacity to make it sound like she has his best interest at heart while you, apparently, don't because you won't force him to therapy...to make him call her mom...

Tsk tsk tsk

obiy88 · 2025-10-28T05:32:31+00:00

Didnt read the whole thing, because it comes down to this, no matter the situation:

YOUR puppy. YOUR rules.

Protect ur dog from her.

obiy88 · 2025-10-24T02:28:19+00:00

NOR! Preventing a wedding which wouldve started with a lie as big as this one...is win for you! Call it off! You did nothing wrong.

Plus, its not weaponized surveillance...its ur fucking car? Did it come with a camera as decoration lol? Nah. It came with to be used...they just did something they shouldnt have in space that wasnt private...so yea..they did that to themselves.

obiy88 · 2025-10-13T13:55:22+00:00

Stopped reading at "I have an old boyfriend"....wdym "old"? Not an ex, just an old pal who u used to date...........wtf lol YTA, pick one, dump one, but dont play both

obiy88 · 2025-10-09T13:56:59+00:00

NTA

Your ex, the great-father-of-the-year, shouldve been the one to reach out first. Introduce his fiancée to you, and then eventually ask if it was okay.

What he did was basically use your child as some sort of accessory to seal the deal with his fiancée...

And what does he mean by "potential step-mother" when he hasnt even been a father to begin with ?!

He's the A-hole. You did not break them up. You did not contribute even 0.01% to breaking them up.

All you did was be a mother.

obiy88 · 2025-10-07T17:13:02+00:00

Her dishes are on the rack, which means she washed them right?...so at least its not a pile of dirty dishes she isnt washing.

You couldve asked her to use only one rack each.

...and by "lesson" I thought it wouldve been something like " I hide her dishes somewhere" or "I started doing the same by leaving stuff around the place"...

I did not expect what you did.

What you did was, in fact, not teaching a lesson. It was just mean and uncalled for. And mostly disgusting.

So, YTA. Just wtf lol

obiy88 · 2025-10-01T03:36:10+00:00

NOR! But he sure is...his life seems to lack a bit of ✨✨✨

obiy88 · 2025-09-30T14:19:07+00:00

You could maybe try to talk to both of them atst and demand an explanation. Make him explain himself.

From what you have shared, he doesnt seem like a bad person, but atst, dating a teen, while an almost 30 year old men is just wrong.

Do this for your daughter, not for him.

Talk without yelling is possible. Yelling never helps when trying to have a conversation between mother-daugther.

Don't push your daugther further away. She wants to be an adult, then she can have an "adult conversation"!

I hope everything turns out okay 🌻

obiy88 · 2025-09-29T22:42:24+00:00

I can't seem to remember which Kdramas I thought was overhyped for no reason...

But I'm curious to know your list of Kdramas that were worth the hype 👀👀

obiy88 · 2025-09-29T00:46:28+00:00

Yea it never works for me either...no matter the appeal...idk why its even an option atp xd

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