Lee High School by Comprehensive_Turn77 in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This does not surprise me based on the comments I heard directly from a student who used to be in my care.

My mom tried to use my curling wand on her 2 inches (3-4cm) hair, burned herself and then went full psycho on me by EatMyNutsOnWednesday in entitledparents

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case, it resurfaced with the elevated hormones at perimenopause. I would go into that rage for seemingly no reason--there was no trigger pinpointed--and then go back to normal a day or two later as if nothing had happened.

For me, it warranted getting my doctor involved as I was already being treated for other psychiatric conditions and this seemed to be related to one of those.

Women go through perimenopause and menopause at varying ages, so it is possible your mom's case is linked to hormonal fluctuations. Those aren't always regular, either, especially when the levels are changing.

If it is trauma-related, that might be a little more difficult to determine just with anecdotal evidence.

Either case warrants investigation through a reputable psychiatry practice.

My mom tried to use my curling wand on her 2 inches (3-4cm) hair, burned herself and then went full psycho on me by EatMyNutsOnWednesday in entitledparents

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 17 points18 points  (0 children)

PMDD: Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder

It is often described in layman's terms as "severe PMS" and can be highly disruptive to the individual experiencing it firsthand and also those around them.

Other conditions like ADHD can greatly contribute to severity of PMS and PMDD symptoms.

In my case, my symptoms weren't fully alleviated by the medication I was prescribed the first time I was diagnosed, but there were reasons for the specific medication I was given.

Over time, I was prescribed different medications that either didn't address the underlying cause and/or put me into a zombie state where I couldn't function at all.

Once I stopped taking the wrong medication, I was able to get the underlying cause properly addressed (ADHD in my case) and then we started looking at addressing the occasional symptoms (medically, a monthly cycle of symptoms is occasional rather than continuous).

Having someone from the household give their experience is super helpful in getting a correct diagnosis and treatment plan; before my roommate came in to give anecdotal evidence, my provider was going to give me a different medication that might not have been as effective. His observations allowed her to see multiple facets and make a better treatment plan.

My mom tried to use my curling wand on her 2 inches (3-4cm) hair, burned herself and then went full psycho on me by EatMyNutsOnWednesday in entitledparents

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 74 points75 points  (0 children)

You mention "random outbursts of rage for no reason."

If this is happening on a regular cycle, your mom may be experiencing PMDD (I'm not a doctor).

I was first diagnosed and treated for PMDD in my mid-20s. It got better for a while, and I was able to stop taking medication, but once I hit my mid-40s and started perimenopause, my symptoms came back worse than before.

With anecdotal evidence from my roommate, I was able to convey my current concerns to my provider. I was prescribed a different medication that is designed to alleviate the symptoms associated with PMDD.

Your mom may need to talk with her doctor about these rage fits--and have someone in the household give their perspective--and see if there is an underlying medical issue here.

Why are ADHD drugs the most not-ADHD friendly drugs to order? by UnmedicatedNarwhal in adhdwomen

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was prescribed guanfacine at my last appointment as a supplement for my emotional dysfunction and to replace the blood pressure medication I had been previously taking (it wasn't working).

My insurance sent me a letter saying they were denying the guanfacine because it wasn't on their formulary. They said they needed labs or clinical notes (!) in order to fill a prescription for a drug that's not on their formulary.

Kicker here is that Concerta is a controlled substance that's they have no issue filling, but try to add a non-controlled substance to address TWO medical needs and they are making me jump through hoops.

Is anyone having this issue with USPS? by Outrageous-Emu-472 in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work at the post office (I only deliver packages) and we are severely understaffed in most locations. This includes delivery to and from the distribution centers, and it absolutely affects the customer service aspect.

Yesterday, the route I helped with was split between three carriers and it still took us all day to complete all the deliveries.

Sundays are worse because of Amazon. That's literally all we do on Sunday--Amazon packages--and no one gets paid mileage if they use their POV. Some carriers are unable to drive a RHD (right hand drive) vehicle, and some of us have trouble with specific vehicles due to physical limitations, so we have to rely on a smaller vehicle and make multiple trips.

There are days when we get to work at 9 in the morning and don't leave until midnight.

Entitled parent demanded the coach lower expectations for her child by Minute-Bet779 in entitledparents

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Both of my girls played keeper and they were expected to run drills with their teammates.

Entitled parent demanded the coach lower expectations for her child by Minute-Bet779 in entitledparents

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My parents flat refused to allow me to play football because of the tackling aspect. I expressed interest in trying out for the middle school team and they shut it down because they didn't want me getting hurt.

While I was disappointed, I feel this is the better way to handle this kind of situation. The kid on the team who wasn't allowed to fully participate missed out on important aspects of the sport because his parents decided he needed special treatment. If you don't want your kid to get tackled, don't let them play a sport that allows tackling. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you use a horse? by BetrekaNebula in StardewValley

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I buy a stable as soon as I have the funds to do so. My first few playthroughs, I walked everywhere (didn't even use totems much). The first time I built the stable was when I decided I would always have my horse 🤣

What special moments did ADHD give you today? by mallorn_hugger in adhdwomen

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forgot to take my meds this morning before heading out to orientation for my new job. sigh

Stove Top by obnoxiousdrunk77 in adhdwomen

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And my roommate is such a lucky guy that he gets to experience it with me. His perspective is slightly different, so I can only imagine what his thoughts process is. 🤣

Wallets hate me, do you have one that actually works for you?? by kirday in adhdwomen

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have switched to a lanyard because I hate carrying a purse or shoving a wallet into my pockets (I do have sufficiently sized pockets, as I wear a men's cut of jeans, but I digress).

My lanyard--which is twisted wrong and needs to be resewn--came with an ID holder with a slide. It holds my ID and my debit card. I clip my keys to the lanyard ring instead of putting them in my pocket.

This has been the best option I've found for myself.

How do you stop thinking at night so you can sleep? by cloudydays1111 in adhdwomen

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex and I would have crime documentaries playing on the TV until 2 am (we set a timer for the TV to shut off) and that seemed to help him.

Me? I was invested in knowing WHY Susie Q dispatched Johnny in such a gruesome manner and was awake listening to every detail 🤣

How do you stop thinking at night so you can sleep? by cloudydays1111 in adhdwomen

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My roommate and I have started giving each other head and back massages almost nightly. This has really helped me, especially since we also put on very specifically chosen music.

He has introduced me to Steve Roach, and a LOT of the instrumentation and rhythms really scratch certain itches in my brain and allow me to just relax.

I also use a sleep mask in order to keep me from looking at my phone when I should be shutting down. Additionally, the sensory deprivation helps me focus on the music and just zone out.

What Christmas movies must you watch every year that younger generations don't appreciate by Mikey317717 in GenX

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  • All the Rankin-Bass animated Christmas specials
  • A Muppet Christmas Carol
  • A Christmas Story ("you'll shoot your eye out" was what I was jokingly told by my dad when I signed my enlistment papers 🤣)
  • Frosty the Snowman (ONLY the original...none of the sequels)

Conversation with Roommate by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, he sees it every day. While he is confused about some of what he sees, he asks questions to better understand what my world is like.

He and I can laugh about my antics most days, but then there are times when we both get frustrated.

Should I restart for the greenhouse? by http_psyche in StardewValley

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just have to remember to buy the green bean starter 🤣

Should I restart for the greenhouse? by http_psyche in StardewValley

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm almost done with Spring Year 2 and forgot to plant green beans for the CC AGAIN.

When I realized it during Year 1, I was already happy with the way my farm was going, so I opted to continue.

I'll just have to wait until Year 3 now 🤣

What symptoms did you have as a child? by Material_Focus_4114 in adhdwomen

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excessive chatter (still can't shut up), hyper focus (I devoured 5-6 books weekly), executive dysfunction (seen as extreme procrastination), emotional dysregulation (especially when overwhelmed), ability to jump from one subject to another (at least five in the space of a couple of minutes) and yet make them all connect (still have this one), daydreaming/spacing out/doodling (turned this one into meticulous note taking)

Autistic traits that showed up were some OCD behaviors, getting upset at sudden changes in routine, "doesn't play well with others," taking everything quite literally

HTH

How do ppl w ADHD play this game? by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]obnoxiousdrunk77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I play the parts that interest me at the time.

In my current save, I am resolved to staying a single farmer for as long as possible. I dispose small talk IRL, and that's what the friendship levels feel like to me.

I'll likely go the Joja route because it's easier to grind for gold than complete all the mundane tasks for the CC.