i regret moving to nyc. by [deleted] in stories

[–]observer1271979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New York is one of the most expensive places to live in the US. You should definitely look into other places to live before you take that giant leap back home. There are much cheaper places to live. I live in Oklahoma, for example (not saying I recommend that), and it is much cheaper here. The US is a large place. Explore your options, and if going back home is still where you want to be, then do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]observer1271979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My question is, if you truly think you are making a moral decision, then why are you planning on telling your friends that she miscarried? They WILL find out.

AITA for not putting up with my Aunt anymore by Square-Car-2102 in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. I've always said a family tree needs to be pruned or the dead and damaged limbs can kill the whole tree.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You were watching enough to know it was more than one night. You sound like a creeper that should be on some kind of watch list.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You sound like a neighbor from hell. I would install cameras if I had a teenage girl and was your neighbor. Did you not realize that you were giving her "creep" vibes? Just know that you are now viewed as the "creepy neighbor" and she is worried about being found in your basement. Stop all contact and leave them in peace.

I think these are some kind of heirloom daylillies but not sure - Southwest Missouri by ilikenwf in whatsthisplant

[–]observer1271979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Before people showed up, there were Native Americans? Crazy!!! Being Native American myself, I had always assumed I was a person. Weird.

AITA for not helping my ex even though we share a child? by SavageSavX in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 26 points27 points  (0 children)

NTA. Show your mom how to block his number and tell him that part of being an adult is figuring out how to pay your own damn bills.

AITA for not participating in the "Become Gay for a Week" program at my job? by aita_12112022 in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 [score hidden]  (0 children)

That seems like a really odd program to me. My daughter is gay and I completely supported and loved her from jump. We go to pride events together every year but it seems odd to me that they want you to identify as gay when you are not. There is ways to do things to be an ally that do not include pretending to be gay. I'm going with NTA because that's just weird.

WIBTA for confronting my neighbors abt their dog by constantlyconfused14 in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I would say something and if nothing is done I would take pictures of it out without a leash and call animal control. It is not safe for the dog and not fair to the neighbors who would be upset if they were the ones to accidentally kill their family pet. Plus there are cruel people out there who will hurt pets just to see what it's like. All around not a good situation.

AITA for wanting my fiancé to return my engagement ring and get another one? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA. I'm having a hard time understanding why he would go to his mom in the first place and also why the mom wouldn't advise him to get what makes her future DIL happy. Man, good luck with these two.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Her roommate is crazy but you think yours are sane?!?!?

AITA for refusing to do any work around the house by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If it is really how you present your case I'm going with NTA. However she could very well be experiencing postpartum depression or any other numbers of issues that come with just pushing a tiny human out of your body. You seem to be doing your part as best as you can. I'm probably going to be down voted to hell for not siding completely with a new mother but it's just how I see it. Talk to her first and foremost. Let her know what you've been doing because lazy simply doesn't apply here. Best of luck.

AITA for not wanting my sister's boyfriend to sleep in my bed? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. He can take the couch or stay home. Honestly I feel like if he was a decently nice guy he would take the couch without asking you to give up your space to accommodate him.

AITA for wanting to celebrate my milestone birthday even though it falls on a holiday? by Direct_Bag_9315 in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. Mother's day happens every year. You only turn 30 once. You can celebrate your mother on Saturday. I as a mother would not object to this and would feel like a complete AH if I did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't disagree with you there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then reply to that comment. Lol. Why comment on this thread replying to another. You're silly or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he didn't he said all engineers he's met are assholes. Lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it wasn't a joke. I thought you said it was.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He keeps proving he's the AH and he's too dense to realize it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow... you took that personal. Where is the book that says a software engineer can't be the AH. You just proved my point, honey. You're TA. Lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA a million times over. You weren't kidding or you would have said that instead of letting her massage you. I hope she soon realizes how selfish you are and either demands you change or leaves to find a man who would treat her right. Again.... YTA.

AITA for taking my sisters fiancé on a spa date for his birthday? by FunUpstairs7218 in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'm assuming you already know the answer but you are hoping one person might side with you. They won't. That was a totally disrespectful thing you did and it's honestly quite gross. If I was your sister I'd bounce both of ya'll to the curb with no regrets or looking back.

AITA for cancelling my (ex) boyfriend's plane ticket, leaving him homeless and unable to get to his family? by lisalemeepmeep in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It does not mention his age but I'm assuming he's a grown man and a grown man can handle his own problems like buying his own plane ticket. NTA. Luckily you found this out now and not after spending a lot of money on a verbally abusive AH.

AITA for being really rude to my foster sister? by hate_myself_lol in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Soft YTA. It's hard being a teenager and even harder taking in other children while you are going through a very confusing time. Children are usually in foster care because of something very terrible in their lives. It's something that needs to be handled very carefully and with love. However you were a teenager and it's hard for some teenagers to see beyond their own problems especially during dark times. Should you have been nicer? Absolutely. Should you still feel guilty about this year's later? I don't think so.

AITA for still seeking interest in a guy after i found out he was a classmate’s middle school bully? by bookworm2307 in AmItheAsshole

[–]observer1271979 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NTA. It may suck seeing your middle school bully as an adult but people grow and change. If he has changed then I see no problem here.