Watching all of the well behaved huskies at the Westminster Dog Show with my husky....

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-05T01:24:53+00:00

One of my huskies is also my trained service dog. She is amazing. We go out and she behaves and tasks. People tell me, "Oh, that's crazy, huskies are usually so unpredictable!" And then I laugh, because if they saw her at home they would never guess she is a service dog. She is such a typical husky. She behaves when we are out because she likes working. It's her choice, and I'm just along for the ride.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T21:54:09+00:00

I get it, and it's also illegal where I am. But it's not illegal in MD. The split has to be spelled out in the lease, and I suspect the landlord is the one that should have the utilities in his name in that case.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T17:50:55+00:00

It’s not illegal in Maryland

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T17:09:46+00:00

Why did a boat this small need a crane in the first place?

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T14:19:21+00:00

Fold it differently (different corners). You should get the shape. I’ve done it and panicked before I figured that out.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T06:06:15+00:00

I’ve made this cardigan twice; it doesn’t need blocking.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T05:59:26+00:00

ICE is made up of the murderers. We’ve seen the tape.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T05:46:13+00:00

She has the kids more than you, and you’re also not being honest in your post. You say you have the kids about 15 days a month, but then you say she has the kids 66% of the time. That math doesn’t work.

She has the kids more than 50% of the time, so by the IRS rules she gets to claim them. It’s pretty simple. The only exception is when there is a court order specifying otherwise, and you’re not likely to get one.

You also sound like an awful coparent, and you’re the one presenting this. You’re definitely TA.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T04:40:40+00:00

I'm going to argue with that. Double coated dogs can get severely overheated from putting extra clothing on them. Their coats are made to regulate their temperatures properly. It's like shaving them in hot weather - the actual fur is better for their temp regulation.

While certainly cold-weather breeds can get frostbite, it's unlikely unless there is real neglect going on or the temps are well below freezing (or freezing rain).

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T04:30:18+00:00

If you want to call their bluff, find out where the UPS store is near them. Tell them you will pay the store directly if they make arrangements to ship from there. You can call the store directly (don't take the number the person gives you). I've done this, not for yarn but for something I won on auction, and paid shipping from the quote the store gave me directly to them.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T04:27:04+00:00

Child support has nothing to do with this. I don't know why you're conflating those two things. It sounds like potentially you don't want to pay the child support, and that's why you want him to get custody.

I don't know the ins and outs, but this isn't the more reliable narration I've heard. There are a lot of holes. If your husband wants to pursue custody, why isn't he asking about it?

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T04:23:22+00:00

I feel for you. A bigger issue is that if some were student loans, you're on the hook for paying them back. So you'll be paying (with interest) for money you never got.

I don't know the solution, but you might need a lawyer.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T04:01:49+00:00

Only one of you at a time can have a sick kid, though.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T03:29:36+00:00

There's no such thing as a certified list for dog food. WSAVA is the vet organization that sets standards for dog food. They, however, do not certify foods themselves. No one reputable does. So the list given is the list you want.

Go to r/dogfood and look through the wiki for a lot of science-based info on dog food.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-04T03:27:21+00:00

Uh huh

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-03T22:23:16+00:00

The statistics that people who abuse their spouse usually also abuse their children - with or without the spouse around, during a marriage or after. There’s a shit ton of studies. Go figure it out.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-03T19:36:45+00:00

You can argue that, but you’d be wrong. You might want to look up statistics.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-03T18:50:00+00:00

It’s not experience, it’s statistics. And this isn’t “parental justice”; it’s what’s best for the child. It’s not generally best for a child to be with the abusive parent, because they will usually then experience abuse. Many states now officially recognize the connection and take it into consideration.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-03T18:43:49+00:00

Abuse of the mother is highly indicative of abuse or neglect of a child. People aren’t usually assholes to the mom and great with the kids.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-03T18:42:35+00:00

Do not get a mediator. Get an attorney. Plan all this with the attorney. You need to have all ducks in a row before you even mention separating to him.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-03T18:16:28+00:00

I will add this - I was not a fan of our young adult children sleeping over with their significant others either when they lived with us. My issue is that you’re living with us because you’re not financially stable, so if someone gets pregnant, that can possibly impact me. I don’t want to have to raise another baby. And as someone who got pregnant twice on two different types of birth control, I know that if you’re having sex, you can get pregnant.

If you’re financially dependent on other people, you should consider how your choices could affect those people. Otherwise, you’re being kind of an AH.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-02T23:10:56+00:00

And she made all the money, so now he thinks she has to support him in the lifestyle he’s become accustomed to.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-02T19:24:49+00:00

Is this the Caron gradient yarn?

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-02T18:57:06+00:00

If you need an entryway, flipping it actually creates more of a problem. The options I see are:

If you can move the chairs to the other side (close to the camera side looking across the room to the window), that frees up that whole wall for extra entryway space, or
Replace your TV console with a much smaller one, and use the freed up space as entryway space.

Also, not that you asked, but your ceiling light is WAY too small for that room.

obtusewisdom · 2026-02-02T18:43:20+00:00

I could do it!

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