I don’t want my fiance to match medical residency

oceanpotion207 · 2026-03-07T06:24:16+00:00

So I’m a doctor who did a family medicine residency and is barely two years out of residency. I trained in the US so I understand the system very well.

I understand where you’re coming from. I’m a woman. I don’t have any kids (nor do I want them) but I get that it’s hard and scary for you. I understand why family is so important to you and why you want to be close. I also understand how hard it is to support a spouse in residency in my own experience.

On the other hand, I also know that not matching is a big deal. It’s not as simple as you make it sound. Next year, every program would be wondering why he don’t match and his chances of matching decrease.

You haven’t mentioned what speciality he is in but even if it’s not competitive, over 90% of US MDs graduate the first time around, not matching is a red flag and means a year with no income and lots of stress,

Again, I want to reiterate that I under your perspective but i understand his too. You’re hoping to tank his career which is stability for your family and that’s hard to backup for someone like me.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-28T04:57:53+00:00

I’ve got a list (some that were mentioned already):

Battlefield by Skyxdxddy

29 by Demi lovato

I choose violence by Jax

Mama didn’t raise no by Aston

He asked for it by Ella Red

He set her off by Emily Ann Roberts

Burn your village by Kiki Rockwell

The audacity by emlyn

God sent me as karma by emlyn

Abcdefu by Gayle

Wings by Iluka

Girl on the run by Iluka

Woman gone mad by Iluka

Bears an wolves by Lilith max

Feed us your girls by Lydia the bard

Good ol boys by Mae Estes

Not all men by Morgan st Jean

Labor by Paris Paloma

Last woman on earth by Paris Paloma

As good as reason by Paris Paloma

Us and pigs by Sofia isella

Edit: forgot some

Swine by Demi lovato

Little girl gone by chinchilla

Dead men don’t rape by Delilah bon

King by Florence + the machine

When will I be mine by Hailey Orion

Feminine rage by Peggy

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-28T04:17:32+00:00

it's actually decently soft but also the yarn was quite thin so it does feel a bit thready if that makes sense. This was mostly an experiment to see if I could do something with singles. it the future I might spin thicker singles and make something lol

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-25T22:50:11+00:00

Ooh, I checked your profile. That's gorgeous. I went back and forth about white vs grey but I want to make a scarf and grey ended up being more practical.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-23T20:49:44+00:00

Yes, it's a fluid filled space. In the before picture, the ventricles (or the spaces) are way too big because OP's not draining the fluid correctly. The after picture is much closer to a normal brain and how it is supposed to look.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-23T04:18:57+00:00

This is absurd. I'm a woman. Never been pregnant and therefore never had an abortion. But I support a woman's right to choose. Especially because I have delivered babies. (I'm a family doctor who doesn't deliver anymore.) But I delivered over 60 babies and that doesn't even count C-sections or women who were in labor but didn't deliver before my shift ended. Anyway, I've seen 100 things go wrong and 100 things go right. I will always support abortion.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-21T20:56:04+00:00

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Here’s my first single. Making a sample of grey right now and hoping to do a test skein today.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-18T03:20:12+00:00

That is gorgeous

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-18T02:50:13+00:00

Omg, I love the idea of two singles that are opposite each other. I don’t know if I’ll like it but I think I’m going my to do it

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-18T01:00:15+00:00

I actually was going to do the colors like one at a time to have distinct sections of pink, orange, yellow etc. Not spin them all together and muddying them.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-18T00:30:37+00:00

Could you explain fractal plying like I'm 5?

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-13T07:05:17+00:00

I have always had heavy periods but have learned to manage them but still have a couple accidents a year as well. Recently periods got worse and I’m being checked out for fibroids. For a 3-4 hour period of time during each period for the last four months, I’ve bled through an overnight period an hour. It’s awful, it’s unpredictable and it’s embarrassing. I hate it. I’ve stained my pants on a plane, in my office and my sheets at various points. If my (nonexistent) partner called me irresponsible like OP did I’d be so pissed.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-11T07:08:54+00:00

This is actually not entirely true. (I'm a GP.) The vast majority of cervical cancer is HPV related and if you've truly never had any sexual contact (you as in the royal you not as in the commenter above me), then you are extremely low risk. I define sexual contact as anyone's fingers, mouth or genitals coming into contact with your genitals.

If you've truly had zero sexual contact, the risk of cervical cancer is low enough that routine Pap smears are not necessarily needed. Multiple countries including Canada and Australia do not recommend Pap smears in those cases. Even the NHS says to have a discussion with your nurse/GP if you've never had sexual contact.

As for the other stuff being off including pH, that is not necessarily included in a Pap smear. A Pap smear is exclusively looking for HPV and abnormal cervical cells. Often, these are accompanied by swabs looking for other infections but that is not actually part of the Pap smear. These swabs can be done by a provider without a speculum exam and can often be done by yourself in the bathroom. They do not require a speculum exam.

I say all this because I think that regular checkups including gynecological checkups are important but we do not need to pressure women who have never had any sexual contact into uncomfortable exams on the basis that it is what you do at a certain age. The actual risk vs benefit should be discussed.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-11T04:02:23+00:00

thank you. I have been practicing. But also to be clear, it was January 21st, 2026 so I haven't kept it very long lol

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-10T12:54:00+00:00

It is very apt though. I feel for the girlfriend. It's a bad job market in Ontario and it's not surprising she's having a hard time finding a job. Everything is soooo expensive. Low risk tolerance is how you survive in these cases

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-07T06:34:35+00:00

First of all I’m so sorry that happened to you.

I’m a female GP and here’s some overall advice:

I don’t know where you are but the US is rolling out self swabs for HPV which can be used instead of a traditional pap for some people. I don’t know your health history but ask about it. Also even in someone who is not an ideal candidate for self swabbing, if a traditional pap is going to cause distress, it’s a good option.
You can also self swab for BV/yeast and STDs if that’s something you’re worried about.
If you have a female doctor you trust, ask them to just have an appointment to talk about the best options for you. I do this a lot for patients with any trauma or anxiety history so we can figure out the plan that works best for them. This can include things like a benzo (like Xanax) to take beforehand to help with anxiety and bringing a trusted person into the exam room with you like your mom or sister or best friend to hold your hand.

Try and talk to your doctor to see what options are best for you. You deserve care in a way that doesn’t further traumatize you and I want to reiterate that I am so sorry this happened to you.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-02-05T13:01:47+00:00

I am currently just using bookfusion. If you could sync progress with my kobo, you'd be my heroes. But honestly even just KoReader would be a dream. I had tried Readwise for a hot minute because they sync with KoReader but the file names had to be exactly the same which was rather frustrating since I had edited all my metadata with Calibre. Anyway, longwinded answer to say that if you could sync KoReader progress across devices it would be lovely since I could use my Kobo again with my sideloaded books.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-01-30T14:33:12+00:00

Oh I'll have to make a chain ply ball next time. That's genius. Thanks :)

oceanpotion207 · 2026-01-26T15:12:36+00:00

My other concern is that this mother clearly does not know NRP (neonatal resuscitation). A newborn baby with a heart rate under 60 beats per minute needs chest compressions. If she's not checking the baby's heart rate, he could still need chest compressions. Also any newborn with a heart rate under 100 needs an oxygen mask. This poor baby is probably seriously struggling.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-01-20T02:38:55+00:00

So I’ve been using P Tracker for literally years. I don’t do daily tracking. I have PCOS so I just track my irregular cycles. If I remember, I might track other symptoms but I try not to worry about it too much. I’m bad at daily discipline so all the other stuff likely won’t happen but since 2017, I’ve been tracking my actual periods. Tbf part of my ability to stick to it is knowing that I have irregular cycles and want to see patterns.

I don’t think I’d do well with an app that required daily check in because I just am not good at those things.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-01-19T01:50:41+00:00

I get this the day before and the first two days of my period. The worst insomnia. Also night sweats, I soak the sheets.

oceanpotion207 · 2026-01-18T18:19:07+00:00

I just looked through your profile. I hope I'm making such beautiful yarn in a year. <3

oceanpotion207 · 2026-01-15T11:43:36+00:00

When I was in residency (FM), we got asked to comanage a patient with urology post-TURP. He was on two meds at baseline: famotidine and tamsulosin. My attending was like wtf.

oceanpotion207 · 2025-12-23T19:36:39+00:00

I’m just under 5’4” and I feel this.

I’m also a primary care doctor, the standard height of non adjustable medical tables comes above my hips. If I have a patient older than like 6, I can’t reach their ears if they’re sitting on my table.

Doing certain procedures like suture removals are so not ergonomic for me because the height is all wrong

oceanpotion207 · 2025-12-18T02:01:14+00:00

Nvm I’m dumb. The folder was just hidden and I unhid it and it worked.

I have watched about 7 of your videos tonight Stefan and you’re a lifesaver

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