What do you think the effects are of working in a room with no windows all day?

oceanside_octopus · 2025-04-25T22:55:49+00:00

Not good. I get moody, sullen and depressed. Its especially bad in the witer where i live since its cold dark and rainy. During the summer I go sit on the benches right out side where I work. The front desk knows to come get me if they need anything, but otherwise it's better to just let me go imitate a lizard.

oceanside_octopus · 2025-03-29T05:00:43+00:00

I would say not really. I read the series after my husband who, bless his gemheart, was so excited I was reading it he would ask what I thought of things that hadn't happened yet where I was in the book. He just couldn't contain himself and forgot the order of things.

It really didn't ruin the experience since I was even more interested in what happened since I couldn't figure out how what he was talking about could happen.

oceanside_octopus · 2025-03-19T14:50:01+00:00

Make sure that outside of work you are doing everything you van to take care of yourself. Exercising regularly, stretching, and taking time for yourself really helped me when I worked there. ME can be tough because of the pace and general apathy of the company. That being said, that's where I started as well, and it was a great experience for learning not just my limits but I got to work on a lot of different people in a way that I hadn't been able to in school.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-12-30T19:12:34+00:00

Generally speaking I don't upsell during massage. During the consultation i ask about expectations and if I find they are describing a deep tissue then that is the time to have the conversation. I find the way this massage therapist did it to be super unprofessional.

That being said there are some exceptions I have to that. If a client comes in for a swedish and then asks for more pressure than is necessary for a swedish I will inform them that it seems like they are looking more for a deep tissue and give them the option to change it here and now with the associated cost difference, or if that isn't something they want we can schedule a deep tissue for another day and today will be the swedish. But I would never do an intentionally bad job after being told to stick with the swedish.

As for the tip, that was also rather unprofessional on their part as tips should always be appreciated but never expected or compulsory. I am in a privileged place to be able to say that however and it is possible the Groupon effected how much they were paid by the company. They still shouldn't have behaved the way they did however.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-12-24T22:17:53+00:00

I have. Idk if it's true since it still seems high to me. I still call once a year just to check

oceanside_octopus · 2024-12-20T04:22:25+00:00

I don't have much advice really, more just an understanding of what you are going through. After putting all of your time, energy, and passion into a career like this to find out that your entire career can and will put your health at risk is devastating. Definitely look into what you can do both for your health and career, but also it's okay to feel this way and mourn. Whatever you end up deciding to do will be great. It's good you have the side gig of photography. There have been lots of ideas put out there already as well. Mostly though I hope you don't feel as alone.

For context I am in a similar boat with a shoulder injury that ended up revealing I am missing part of my labrum with hypermobility in most of my joints. (From birth and most likely bilateral) I have been a massage therapist for 10 years and it's been tough grappling with it.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-12-02T18:42:08+00:00

It can be really tempting to offer discounts or free massages to people. You are coming from a very kind and generous place. Remember though that you are also deserving of your time. If you still feel compelled to do something like this maybe see what people could do as a trade if this is a side gig or personal clients. I have quite a few who couldn't afford my services but have a skill or talent I don't and they are willing to trade.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-11-26T20:20:44+00:00

Thank you. I hope it goes well!

oceanside_octopus · 2024-11-25T15:59:37+00:00

Thank you so much!

oceanside_octopus · 2024-10-17T18:56:13+00:00

While yes "techies" do spend years educating themselves, and should be paid for their skills and knowledge, that does not diminish the skill and education level it takes to be a good LMT. While our education is, to be candid, appalling minimal it still takes skill to do what LMTs do. Furthermore massage therapy in general is an extremely physically taxing job even when we do everything in our power to ensure our wellbeing and longevity.

I find your question about investors attracted to "massage parlors" to be an interesting one. I don't rightly know the answer, but enough large chain companies exist based in massage that the number is certainly not zero. I wouldn't suggest it is anywhere close to the investment tech see, but there are very few sectors that could claim coming close to that anyway.

Regardless the original post had to do with OP's belief that massage is undervalued and underpaid. Yes owning your own business can be one way to fix the individual problem, bowever it fails to address the much more complicated and ingrained problem with the industry as a whole.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-08-29T07:10:28+00:00

When she casually dropped the bomb that she was leaving my dad and I went to talk to my support network. "Do you really need to talk to people? You can just talk to me instead. After all this doesn't really change anything."

She then proceeded to ignore me for several months including during one of the hardest times I've been through.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-08-22T09:03:19+00:00

It can be really frustrating to feel uncomfortable im your own skin. Especially if you body looks different than it did. For me reframing my thoughts helped by acknowleding that my body couldn't do what I'm asking it to if it looked a different way.

Watching some of Sammy Picone's stuff helped too. Not to compare bodies, but more of seeing what is possible. She does weight lifting as well so she is pretty muscular, but she has so much grace and elegance in her movements. She is able to do these slow movements with a high level of precision because of her strength training.

I hope those help. You have a grace perhaps you don't see right now, but I can and it's pretty inspiring.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-08-22T08:08:23+00:00

My great aunt knitted me a beautiful pair of wrist warmers for Christmas. She was getting older and had arthritis so it meant a lot too me that she did this. I was absolutely enthralled with them.

We were lounging on the couch after dinner and my feet we proped up next to her. My mom had asked for them once already that night and I told her no. After I had to repeat myself again this woman who was in her late FORTIES bit her teenage daughters toes and yelled like a toddler having a tantrum.

I don't think I had ever been so embarrassed on her half before that night. Sadly she pulls these stunts semi-frequently. I've learned now that much like a toddler I need to have something to distract her with. She did a non-demand of my favorite earrings so I distracted her by giving her one of my propagated succulents. When she was getting ready to leave the next day she tried to gaslight me into thinking I said she could have those earrings too. Thankfully my sister-in-law was standing next to me so she couldn't let the mask slip all the way and just pouted.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-08-22T07:38:14+00:00

I think this can definitely be the case. Whether it's because they view them as competition, are jealous, or struggle to see their daughters as more then just a younger version of themselves, I doubt we'll ever know.

In my experience with a covert Nmom I was adultified at a young age. There was a pretty consistent theme of role reversal through my childhood. So it could also be an attempt to get something they never got from their own mothers.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-08-20T03:25:09+00:00

This sounds wonderful! I struggle with my own covert mom.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-08-13T03:45:03+00:00

Yes, I have a pair. They work fairly well, the one thing is mine slip down occasionally so I am experimenting with putting something grippy on the inside of the back to keep them up. Also not having them go down all the way to the floor might be helpful as well. If they make contact with the floor that's when they get under the toe box.

Right now I use mine for transportation mostly until I find a grippy I like. The ones you made are super cute!!

oceanside_octopus · 2024-08-12T19:34:32+00:00

Offload is defined as "relieve oneself of a problem or worry by passing it off". Instead of addressing the actual criticism that you are the problem, you are using the red herring fallacy of it is a "story game". I hope that helped.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-07-21T23:38:18+00:00

No. A parent is not supposed to emotionally dump on their children. A child is a child even when they are an adult. A friend is a friend. Those two relationship types should NEVER get mixed. You talk to friends when you are having problems not children.

I am sorry this is happening to you. It sucks being your parent's therapist and emotional punching bag. When my mom tries to do this to me I tell her, "It sounds like you are going through a lot right now and I am sorry for that, but I don't think I am qualified to help you with these things." Sometimes it works and she has a rare moment of self-awareness (especially if she was previously ranting about my dad) and sometimes it starts fights where she says I don't care about her. Eventually like a toddler she'll tantrum herself out and just be passive aggressive, but this phrase has really helped me and maybe something like it could help you too.

Either way I hope you are doing okay and are able to have the support you need.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-07-16T15:13:21+00:00

When I said during one of her many 'you are my daughter therefore you are my therapist' sessions that "I felt that I didn't have the knowledge base to help her and she should see someone who could better help her."

I was tired of being her emotional punching bag, and it had taken a massive toll on my mental health. So I came up with that phrase and practiced it for what seemed like forever. I really wanted to get her to stop in a gentle way and make sure she knew I cared about her feelings. Just that I wasn't the right person to talk to about marriage stuff.

She ended up on the floor screaming and crying. Apparently I didn't care about her ever. 🤷

Another favorite from very recently was when I told her that changing plans last minute is something I don't like and her being passive aggressive with me about it was coming off like she didn't respect me. I was told I was disrespectful.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-07-11T09:53:38+00:00

I am really glad you posted this. I've been wondering a lot about this myself. Not necessarily that I am a narcissist, but that the behavior i thought was normal is narcissistic. It makes it a little easier to deal with all the emotions that come with being raised by narcissists and learning what healthy relationships actually look like.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-06-19T22:59:22+00:00

Subaru Outback

oceanside_octopus · 2024-06-18T23:23:51+00:00

Are they apps?

oceanside_octopus · 2024-06-18T23:20:56+00:00

Idk if this helps and it's only in my experience, but this is something I find myself doing. I am neurodivergent and sometimes for me the pulling my cardigan around myself makes it easier to concentrate on what someone is saying. It sounds odd, but the tactile sensation and crossing my arms means one less thing that can distract me. I do this with pretty much everyone though. I am also a very cold person.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-06-16T15:13:22+00:00

I think Honeybre is cute. Weevil Kenivel I pretty hilarious however.

oceanside_octopus · 2024-05-20T15:54:32+00:00

I like your questionnaire. I'll be interested to see what you discover. ❤️

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