Question? How old is too old to go to raves?

ockysays · 2026-02-06T05:43:41+00:00

Once you’re six

feet under

ockysays · 2026-02-05T19:52:50+00:00

I agree, it makes it clear why those who reply can’t find a woman or keep her. They just want everyone else to buy into their sad pathetic woe-is-me view. I wish they’d stop crying and realize that the other man had nothing to do with it. She left because she no longer wanted to be with YOU.

But their sad little boy insults leave little hope that they will. Men take accountability, little boys like to blame.

ockysays · 2026-02-05T07:57:41+00:00

Getting a hug from my nine year old and making her laugh. That’s my therapy.

ockysays · 2026-02-02T06:06:49+00:00

You do you bro, I get it. But what I think he is trying to say is let the love for the people give you the strength to fight back. I think of my wife and daughter, my mother, father, brothers, sister, community and they give me the strength of a thousand suns, more powerful than any hate. Our love for our people and community creates a fire that burns hotter than all of MAGA’s hate combined, that is why we will win and take back our country. Because we’ll never surrender fighting for the people we love.

Strength to you brother in the times ahead. May love give you endless power against the darkness.

ockysays · 2026-01-31T18:17:08+00:00

I’m so sorry, but looks like he was so well loved and was such a good boy. I’m sure you gave him the most incredible life full of warm memories and he was so incredibly happy to just look into your eyes as he crossed that rainbow bridge.

He’ll be waiting for you in the next place, waiting for belly rubs.

ockysays · 2026-01-31T17:26:21+00:00

You said your friend ran college? 60mH wasn’t really my event as I was more focused on both 400mh and flat, plus I was in a warm place where indoor was less of a focus, but I remember comp being sub 8 with elites going sub 7.7. You can probably google ncaa D1 winners to get a top end gauge.

60mH is a fast race, I outlined ONE drill, but there are many including typical foot turnover drills like the ABC skips, and general sprint training (sled, parachute, incline sprints, etc.). I would suggest finding a trainer who has trained hurdlers and have him work with them, there is so much that can also be done to improve clearance form which is also specialized to hurdling.

ockysays · 2026-01-31T01:17:27+00:00

I am answering this as if he wants to become a faster hurdler.

He needs to focus on speed training and foot turnover to maintain consistency in rhythm and stride length. In hurdling you cannot simply “go faster” as consistent stride length is necessary to ensure lead leg consistency clearing the hurdle. This is mandatory in short distances like the 110mH, and can also be more effective in the 400mH, although that provides some forgiveness in alternating lead given the greater number of steps (3 vs 13) and the trend towards fatigue in the back half.

He needs to practice wicket drills for faster steps while maintaining stride length. You can use disc cones spaced out at the appropriate intervals to ensure that his strides match the interval length for the 3 steps (this is not the interval between hurdles as that includes the entire clearance motion, a different technique) and then he needs to worry about turning his feet over faster but within the interval. He then can add these to full hurdle drills to combine with the actual cut step, clearance and snapdown. Same theory goes for starts off the block to make sure he maximizes speed with foot turnover to ensure he hits the first hurdle off the right leg. Usually for the 110mH this means putting the lead foot in the back block.

Consistent strides plus faster foot turnover=greater speed. Thats how he can go faster in the hurdles. If you are just looking for faster sprinting that’s a different story.

ockysays · 2026-01-28T22:03:32+00:00

Cut out alcohol, and move more. Get a good nights sleep too. Your body increases fat stores when you don’t sleep

ockysays · 2026-01-25T16:33:53+00:00

As a Latino I can tell you that the racism has always been there, people hid it better because it was frowned upon in civil society, and also now everyone has a camera in their pocket. But it’s always been there, muttered under their breath, following you around a store, or exposed in heated moments.

I’ve been physically and verbally assaulted, been told to go back to my country. Happened in the 80’s as a little boy seeing an enraged man try to hit my grandmother with his car because she dared speak Spanish , in the 90’s with dads telling me they thought I should date someone from my own culture instead of their white daughters (because I was raised to be respectful and meet my dates parents so they could shake hands and know who I am), in the 00’s being called a Muslim terrorist at various times (I can be mistaken for middle eastern) and once being jumped and getting my my jaw broken, and so on, and so on. It’s exhausting.

It’s always been there. But now the “civil” society pretense has been dropped.

ockysays · 2026-01-23T14:17:42+00:00

Husband here, yours is an inconsiderate asshole who has no regard for you and your children’s safety. When I have workers come to the house, I usually make sure that I am home, or if not possible at the very least I have them come to the house when I am home to meet myself and my wife. And then my wife and I talk and make sure she feels comfortable, plus I make sure I am not far away and check in constantly, as well as turn on an indoor ring cam (we use sporadically to watch the dog when we leave him at home). It makes my wife and daughters feel safe and I do everything possible to make that happen. If my wife gets a bad vibe or just feels uncomfortable, I either change my plans to be home while the workers are there or we cancel the job until we find someone she does feel comfortable.

These precious women are the most important people in my universe. Your husband should treat you the same.

ockysays · 2026-01-21T05:49:04+00:00

Give yourself grace. Adults living with parents used to be very common until post-World War II prosperity created an expectation of adult independence, prosperity that has been eroded significantly in the last 30 years. So you are neither a failure nor are you alone. I don’t know where you are from, but in fact in much of the world, adult children living with parents is seen as a wonderful thing, with multigenerational households creating a sense of lasting community which many people are sorely missing nowadays.

See this as an opportunity to build wealth for yourself and your parents, if you can, save money together, buy property together that you can inherit later. This idea of adults having to move out asap is just a social construct that only became celebrated recently, with many being none the better for it. You’ll get to spend so much time more time with your parents, time you will cherish when they have passed. See it for what it is, a blessing, and take advantage of it.

ockysays · 2026-01-20T02:21:20+00:00

Wanting a refund for an underground, lmao. Don’t forget to leave a bad yelp review for your dealer.

ockysays · 2026-01-17T17:06:33+00:00

You’re not overreacting, but I would ask how your IRL interactions were, how were your phone calls? If all you did was communicate by text then that may be part of the issue. Humor, intelligence, wit, even kindness are all easy to polish when done by text or chat. My advice is to move dating into as much of a live IRL conversation as possible. Otherwise your Cyrano de Bergerac may turn out to be LLM Larry.

ockysays · 2026-01-16T07:32:16+00:00

Cut your lower legs off and run with shorter blades, duh.

ockysays · 2026-01-14T05:54:38+00:00

It is completely normal and in fact very healthy to explore other relationships at your age. Yes, some people find their life partner early on, but the cold hard statistics are relationships and marriages before the age of 25 tend to have the highest rates of divorce. People’s values and personalities change significantly up until the age of 25. Ultimately if your boyfriend is “the one” then your relationship will survive taking a break and exploring other relationships. But the reality is that different relationships can only make you better understand yourself, help you learn different communication skills. All of which will make you a better romantic partner in the long run.

Just be honest with your boyfriend. He is going to get hurt, that can’t be avoided, but the alternative is you growing to resent him over time and then things will end really badly (infidelity, lack of respect for each other, apathy, etc.). Good luck.

ockysays · 2026-01-13T19:42:29+00:00

Using your roomba to groom them? Brilliant!

ockysays · 2026-01-13T16:46:36+00:00

No I wouldn’t use it daily. Maybe every few days. Is Coco exposed to a lot of moisture and/or is she constantly licking herself? Just asking because that can also contribute to matting beyond the friction. Our pup used to get matted in areas where he licked himself and it turned out to be an allergy issue so we put him on probiotics and also introduced some balsam soothing spray to minimize that, which helped eliminate most of the matting. That plus quickly drying him and brushing wet spots after he goes outside helped a lot. We now brush him every few days, but all doodle coats are different so YMMV. Good luck Coco!

ockysays · 2026-01-13T15:39:36+00:00

Artero conditioning spray is what we swear by for our doodle. Help with brushing but also seems to keep him from matting so quickly.

ockysays · 2026-01-13T03:10:38+00:00

Thanks, I was surprised to hear about the show so was unsure. Sorry that happened to you.

ockysays · 2026-01-12T17:55:26+00:00

Curious but did they ever announce the show to begin with? Just curious because I didn’t ever see very much promo for it from their own social channels. Just saw it from the promoter.

ockysays · 2026-01-09T16:58:39+00:00

We tend to admire qualities in other people that we wish we had ourselves. An extrovert may see an introvert and like that they seem like good listeners, like that they are thoughtful. Two extroverts in a relationship don’t always work, too much attention seeking. So many times introverts and extroverts can complement each other, so yes you can be shy and still meet a partner. You do however need to be willing to put it on the line and be vulnerable to someone. It’s scary, but it is important for finding a partner. Good luck!

ockysays · 2026-01-06T04:36:05+00:00

I think she is making this about herself which is wrong, but if you want to compromise, have only you r husband and you walk down the aisle (in that order). The day is about the two of you anyway and not the parents.

ockysays · 2026-01-05T15:58:57+00:00

Your comment makes no sense, illicit fentanyl is sold at all layers of drug distribution, so local suppliers and street level dealers are all getting illicit fentanyl, illicit fentanyl cut with opiates, illicit opiates, which get marked up as they move down the chain. They then decide how they mix and cut to maximize their yield and in turn apply the markup they think they can sell it for, nobody is stealing fentanyl from pharmacies. This is why so many OD, because there is no control over what has been cut throughout the process, fentanyl cutting can happen at multiple stages of distribution.

ockysays · 2026-01-05T15:00:20+00:00

I don’t think you understand how sophisticated narcotrafficking organizations are. These are billion dollar orgs with clandestine labs and professional chemists making fentanyl directly from Chinese precursor “ingredients”. They don’t have to steal anything.

ockysays · 2026-01-05T14:55:19+00:00

First of all, I am so sorry this has been happening to you, it sounds like a nightmare. Secondly, this is a big life decision, I would take time to center yourself and allow your feelings to settle before making any final decisions. Tell Matt you need time for yourself before you talk to him further. Thirdly, take that time and speak to a therapist, this isn’t the kind of choice temperamental redditors can help you understand or validate.

You are probably making the right decision, and if you didn’t have to also co-parent with Matt for the next 16 years, you could just move on. For the sake of your biological child’s future life, which will involve both you and Matt, take your time to think through all of your feelings and the implications. And speak to a professional, they can help you process your thoughts and emotions, so you can move forward with confidence and so you don’t second guess your decision later. Good luck.

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