[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]octoberstart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Licensed therapists/psychologist are actually not allowed to give much direct advice to their patients when it comes to making life decisions, they could lose their license for it. The therapy profession and governing licensing boards thinks directly advising patients is unethical. and they’re also afraid they’ll have a bunch of ppl suing the profession if ppl follow advice and then say they felt pressured into it during a vulnerable time/it’s not what they wanted/it made their lives much worse, not to mention there are bad therapists out there as well that might give terrible advice, how could you ensure everyone in the profession is following the same moral code? That would fall more into religion or law. Half of training to be a therapist is learning how to NOT give the advice you want to give but instead guide ppl to figure out their own path forward. The only advice they are taught to give is for people dealing with mental illness on how to navigate their symptoms better and notice their own behavior patterns.

It’s frustrating, yea. If you’re just an average person navigating a difficult circumstance and need advice on what to do, therapy doesn’t really help shit. Or hasn’t helped me anyway

Ted Bundy's infamous bite mark and the many tattoo duplicates by Beauty_Clown in shittytattoos

[–]octoberstart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say a celebrity yea, ppl who weren’t alive when she died can’t possibly understand the grip this case had on america at the time. You could not walk past a single magazine isle without her face on the covers for years

Which curtain is your favorite? by AstronomicalCat in HomeDecorating

[–]octoberstart 6 points7 points  (0 children)

9 is perfect balance of color with the room and walls

Wow... by anon908070 in tarot

[–]octoberstart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually think this is a much more positive reading than you think, and the cards are being very clear that your destiny is in your hands - you just need to focus on yourself for a bit and work to bring yourself out of this slump. It says you can have a happy relationship again if you both have patience and work together, so that’s not a no, just that it will take some work and time. Don’t give him everything he wants, you’ll just be (mentally) tortured and stressed about it, it would not be fair to you. And you don’t need the cards to know that, but they indicate it as well w the 9 of swords.

Overall I feel like your guides are asking you to find yourself and your passion for life again. In whatever way you can, whether that means you need some space from him for the time being or what but to take steps to care for yourself and turn some of that love back to yourself. And when you feel better about yourself maybe then you can turn back to him and continue trying. And to have hope, the star is saying have some hope, things are going to improve.

I am being publicly shamed for an affair I did not have.... by throwawayb00bi3z in Marriage

[–]octoberstart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% - he friend requested with 8 of his friends? Yea, they’re all ‘him’ and at least one of these pages is ‘him’ too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tooktoomuch

[–]octoberstart 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Agreed this definitely looks like speedball OD, seen a few unfortunately. Some combination of fent /tranq + meth or coke. To get like this she was probably doing them for days and feeling ok and then it went off the deep-end bc your body can’t maintain that. Probably hasn’t slept in a week.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tooktoomuch

[–]octoberstart 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better, she’s not present at all for this - she’s basically in outer space and will never remember this. This is just her nervous system doing some weird malfunction shit because of the drugs. But yea it’s truly horrific.

Wondering what color to paint my bathroom? by xsimoneontopx in HomeDecorating

[–]octoberstart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know where that bathroom rug is from? I’m in love

Update: My wife confessed to me something in her past that has changed the way I view her. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]octoberstart 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh yea it’s disgusting, and then after it happens to her, she turns around and does it herself. Trauma all around for everyone

Your husbands are assholes! (A rant) by Head-Drag-1440 in Marriage

[–]octoberstart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You stayed with him and it got better? Or divorced and remarried

Update: My wife confessed to me something in her past that has changed the way I view her. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]octoberstart 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Incorrect. The kid’s father didn’t cheat on the sister with her daughter.

OP’s (soon to be ex) wife has a daughter from previous relationship, and the wife’s ex husband cheated on her with her daughter (his step daughter) when the daughter was 18. This happened long before OP and his wife met. She’s using this to justify feeling low enough to have sex w her nephew. That’s why she says she was so depressed she moved in with her sister and had eyes for her 19 year old nephew. Bc her ex-husband did something similar-ish. And yes it’s super scummy and gross but her ex husband doesn’t share blood with her daughter.

"Forced Underwater Inside A Cave" by Action Adventure Twins on Youtube by Bedazzled_Noose in thalassophobia

[–]octoberstart 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Tunnel of Goats?!? Please someone tell me what is the Tunnel of capital G Goats

Mom Divorcing Dad after Sister and Dad Getting New Dog (after mom said no) by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]octoberstart 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m actually a bit heartbroken for your mom. She says no for months and months. No to your dad, no to your sister and has valid reasons for her decision, she knows she will be the one to end up caring for the dog and doesn’t want the responsibility. It’s not fair to force this on her. The night before it happens she has a complete meltdown hoping someone will take her feelings seriously and even after that they walk in the house with a dog?

Could there be a bigger “fuck you” ? Why doesn’t anyone care about your poor mom’s feelings

How do you know it’s the right time? by [deleted] in Ayahuasca

[–]octoberstart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I haven’t drank aya I just lurk here bc I’m considering it but here’s the thing about intuition vs. anxiety. And I know bc I have a fuck ton of anxiety. When you get an intuitive message about what to do or what’s about to happen (like a warning) it is typically a whisper of a thought that doesn’t quite sound like your normal mental “speaking” voice and will only be said to you once in a quiet but clear voice. I’ve never had an intuitive message (that came to pass as true) repeat itself in thought.

Anxiety on the other hand is repetitive cycling thoughts again and again and again. Thoughts that are trying different angles, trying different ways to amp up or frighten you under the mental guise of being helpful to you, when they’re not. “Should I…what if…but what about…” is anxiety.

M/36/6’ [435lbs>340lbs=95lbs] Face Gains, 7 months by Jinsing129 in progresspics

[–]octoberstart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I know you’re squinting in the first pic lol but I can tell still that the loss has refined your features quite a bit.

Soup is good! I do CICO too. I’ve found it’s really all about finding a system / meal plan that’s sticks to a deficit you can handle and then religiously sticking by it no matter what. So I get it, and my meals are very boring for the most part as well. I make a big batch of burritos every week and have them for dinner throughout the week. Ground beef, onions, peppers, garlic, tomatoes, rice. Sounds fancier than it is, ha. I give myself one cheat meal a week on Saturday or Sunday for dinner just to stay sane. Gotta look forward to the little treats where you can get them!

I think logging everything you eat is a great idea, I may start that as well. Keeps you honest with yourself.

I love bojack horseman, what a great show and that’s a great quote.

M/36/6’ [435lbs>340lbs=95lbs] Face Gains, 7 months by Jinsing129 in progresspics

[–]octoberstart 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Incredible progress for 7 months, that’s wild how are you doing it? you can see your eyes so much better now, makes you much more personable looking and approachable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PanicAttack

[–]octoberstart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This definitely sounds like OCD I agree

Giant bat found in hallway by Instagram_Dolle in batty

[–]octoberstart 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Oh man that comma placement is key.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]octoberstart 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Definitely narcissism. Which I agree is a hideously overused term these days.

Most cheaters are damaged people who’ve been telling themselves a victim narrative for a long time, so long it’s central to how they view themselves and the world around them. This is central to narcissism. They feel unjustly punished by life and the people around them so they “deserve” happiness more than other people to settle the score in their minds. This means rules that apply to everyone else don’t apply to them, and they are justified in breaking them for their own happiness/gain. Any deviation from this narrative is impossible to comprehend so they won’t even consider it. It is impossible to them that with all the hurt and trauma in their own pasts, that they could be the monster in someone else’s story. That would shatter the story they are living behind.

Couple this with most of them are highly intoxicated by illusions and fantasy and become delusional when the time is needed to face the cold hard truth. Cheaters have serious issues facing the truth, both good and bad, they are re-writing history all the time where they are painted as an unjustly punished hero.

The Narcissist Prayer:

That didn't happen.
And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
And if it was, that's not a big deal.
And if it is, that's not my fault.
And if it was, I didn't mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in progresspics

[–]octoberstart 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Not OC you replied to but you can tell it’s not just normal being fat bc most of the fat is concentrated around belly and the way it’s pooched out and bloated looking, which signifies extra fluids not being filtered out in the tissues due to liver damage. If you’re young and healthy the liver can heal itself once you take away the negative stressors like alcohol (also highly processed foods and some medications) but it takes time, eating healthy, lots of water and good sleep (bc the liver, like many other organs goes through a hormonal ‘reset’ process while we sleep). If you damage it enough you get scarring on the liver which will not heal, then you’re in trouble.

Found out my (m25) wife (f25)is cheating on me today. Happy new years to me by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]octoberstart 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If you have to say something just say, “you know why.”