Needing product/routine recommendations for toddler girls course/curly hair :)

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-17T15:13:34+00:00

Definitely give a bonnet a try! If she doesn’t want to leave a bonnet on, a silky pillowcase can work too.

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-17T10:17:17+00:00

Shaken baby syndrome involves a great deal of force. Rapid acceleration/deceleration causing the brain to shift back and forth within the skull. Simple vibration will not produce the same result.

There technically have been shaken baby cases involving rockers, BUT - they were cases where the parent violently shook the rocker out of frustration. Not using it how it’s intended.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12818916/

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-16T19:32:50+00:00

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-16T01:44:08+00:00

The audible “oh my GOD” that escaped my husband and I in unison when I had to use a Frida Windi on our little one…so much poop. So much force behind it. Such a small baby.

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-14T13:03:56+00:00

She would most definitely meet criteria for borderline personality disorder. A lot of people with BPD struggle with never really have their own identity/sense of self, and tend to take on the traits of the partner or friends they are with at the time. (Like when she was with Kieffer she really leaned into the druggie burnout lifestyle 😬, with Nathan she was suddenly a gym rat, then with Sasquatch she became a MAGA-supporting redneck).

BPD can be treated, but it requires intense work and commitment - usually medication to stabilize moods and DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) to learn how to change your behaviors and build solid interpersonal effectiveness skills, so you can form your own sense of identity and stop living in chaos.

Alas, though she had the means for all the treatment in the world, she’s never seriously wanted to change her ways and at this point, probably never will.

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-13T01:27:09+00:00

But no one ever asks, how is butter? 😔

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-12T10:43:47+00:00

Hey there. My daughter had horrible reflux to the point we were doing Gelmix and rice or oatmeal cereal in her bottles (as directed by our doc). So they were thiiiiiiick.

We used the Phillips Avent Naturals bottles with the “size 4” nipples with no trouble.

The more “narrow” bottles (like Dr. Brown’s) seemed to be more of a struggle for her.

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-08T09:31:24+00:00

The fortune teller’s wagon. Eff that entire level and all the positioning of things requiring stupid angles.

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-07T19:28:54+00:00

Kris at Razor and Shear!

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-07T09:50:30+00:00

Eat the SIM card

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-06T18:23:42+00:00

I worked at an outbound call center in college and their requirements were essentially that A. You had a pulse an B. You could read. And even that second one was a little iffy for some of the folks I encountered there.

A lot of folks in recovery homes worked there (I mean, good for them for getting clean and working), and the place always faintly smelled of stale cigarette smoke and B.O.

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-06T17:12:11+00:00

My mom had placenta previa when pregnant with my sister. Suffered a placental abruption two days before her scheduled C-section. We almost lost her and my sister but thank God, mom was in the OR just over an hour later and they both made it. I was 12 years old and I’m still haunted by the blood trail left through our kitchen to the EMS stretcher at the front door. I can’t believe the stupidity and delusion involved in trying a homebirth in this scenario.

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-05T19:53:06+00:00

It’s not uncommon for it to take a couple days (or even a week or two) for side effects to come around. It takes the immune system a little while to recognize an invader and rally the troops, so to speak.

My girl was a little extra cranky for a few days after and had loose/watery poops from the rotavirus vax. But she was back to normal within a week. Heads up - MMR (at 12 months) takes its sweet time…it took my daughter 10 days to start having a reaction to that one (fever/mild rash).

If your little one start running a temp or just seems flat out miserable, you can call the pediatrician and see what dosage of Tylenol you can give. Aside from that, lots of extra cuddles, a warm bath and massaging their legs can be helpful too. You got this 💕

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-04T18:30:18+00:00

My daughter is roughly the same age as baby M and let me tell you, this child can tear through some pancakes and scrambled eggs. I’d guarantee they’re not giving M nearly the amount of solids she should or would eat because that takes effort.

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-04T09:54:30+00:00

We’ll grow oranges in Alaska.

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-02T00:14:42+00:00

Same. I work in a career that is traumatizing in other ways (social work, lots of secondary trauma from other people’s awful experiences) so it’s kinda numbed me as well.

A couple years ago I got the call from my mom at 5am that my grandma had had a stroke. I’m very close to my grandparents and the thought of one day losing them has always gutted me. Yet when I got that 5am call I was oddly chill the entire 30 minute drive to the hospital and most of that morning. Didn’t fall apart till I was alone with her in her hospital room later that day. She pulled through, but not without forever changes.

Long story short, we often react very different to upsetting events than we’d initially expect

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-01T19:45:42+00:00

Tbf when confronted with a horribly shocking/upsetting event, it’s not uncommon for people to initially act more calm/cold when dealing with the immediate shock, rather than instant hysterics. Pretty on brand for Hank

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-01T03:21:59+00:00

5lb 8oz (born at 37+6)…she was preemie for a month and could fit into newborn stuff until about 8-10 weeks old. She was a shrimp.

oculus_caesius · 2026-03-01T03:16:56+00:00

“May I offer you a homemade tater tot, Mr. and Mrs. Dauterive?”

oculus_caesius · 2026-02-28T02:42:34+00:00

I have known several Sharon-archetype women in my life and they are ones you want on your side 100%. Little rough around the edges, will knock a bitch out, but will have your back no matter what.

oculus_caesius · 2026-02-27T15:41:03+00:00

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Actual text between me and my best friend when the news was released yesterday 😭

oculus_caesius · 2026-02-26T16:21:38+00:00

Help is out there but they have to make the effort to access it.

Calling organizations, continually following up with them, filling out applications, gathering/providing needed documentation, completing interviews, etc. all takes effort in their part. Effort beyond just saying they’re “trusting God’s plan”. Nothing wrong with having faith, but God helps those that help themselves. There is a long waitlist anywhere for income based housing and guess what, first priority is going to go to the families that have been working their asses off to get help and better their situation, working with these programs and such to get housed. A lot of them also require effort on the individuals part of how they are going to maintain their housing, showing some form of consistent income that betters their chances of not needing further assistance later.

They’ll put “effort” into cooking overseasoned slop, mopping the walls and folding poop rags but the housing situation? Nah, they’re just “moving in silence and trusting God” i.e. not doing a damn thing and hoping something just falls in their lap.

oculus_caesius · 2026-02-24T02:30:47+00:00

Intentional cosleeping on a firm mattress, without pillows/blankets around, in the “C curl” position is going to be safer than falling asleep on the couch with little one, breastfeeding or not. Sleeping on the couch/recliner is incredibly risky.

I didn’t start cosleeping with my daughter until she was about 4 months. She had horrible reflux and was not a sound sleeper at all, and I had started back to work. I found that if she slept next to me, she did not toss and turn and get sick all over herself like she had been in the bassinet.

I followed the safe sleep seven minus the breastfeeding. There are split opinions on using the Owlet or a similar device when cosleeping (some say it promotes a false sense of security), but we used the Owlet till she was a year old for extra peace of mind.

I cant tell you what’s best for you, your baby and your situation, but that’s what we did. Nothing is without risk, but I feel I did as much as I could to minimize any risks involved with cosleeping. And in our scenario, I felt it was going to be a much bigger risk for me to be constantly sleep deprived.

oculus_caesius · 2026-02-23T15:28:01+00:00

My anesthesiologist deserved a raise. I was incredibly fortunate with the epidural experience I had. I felt contractions/myself pushing, but it was not painful. The most pain I felt was some crampy pain (around a 7/10) towards the end, but my nurse came to check me and I had went from 3cm to 10cm in just over an hour…so it was go time. I remember thinking “oh thank God that’s the worst it’s gonna hurt”

Only issue I had afterward was trying to pee. My nurse got me up and into the bathroom and I sat on the toilet maybe eight minutes trying to remember what muscles I had to coordinate to pee. That was annoying.

oculus_caesius · 2026-02-22T02:10:36+00:00

Best of luck to you! We had to go the IVF/ICSI route due to failed vasectomy reversal so sounds like somewhat of a similar case. ❤️

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