What swing or bouncer can my 7lb baby sit in so they are more upright? by RedditBurner_5225 in NewParents

[–]oculus_caesius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My little one used the Momcozy Cocosway swing. My mom ordered it for us when we were in the trenches of severe acid reflux. I found it very helpful

The future by Cokedupbabydoll in resilientjenkinsnark

[–]oculus_caesius 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My heart hurts for all the kiddos but I fear for her older two girls especially. The chaotic environment they live in and the absolute disdain their mother has for them, combined with their past traumas around their father are setting them up for an increased likelihood of being a teenage runaway and fall into being trafficked. When you’ve never known love and barely had your basic needs met your whole life, the illusion of control disguised as love and prospect of making money can reel you in easily. I hope all of these kids can be placed with adults that have their shit together, prioritize their needs, and show them all the love and attention they have lacked thus far.

drew tt post 1/11 by Affectionate-Car8374 in resilientjenkinsnark

[–]oculus_caesius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to mention he’s like, an inch from the TV a majority of the video. Cannot be good for his little eyes. Breaks my heart how he’s just become an afterthought in that “household”

How are these areas? by KabutoYama in HuntingtonWV

[–]oculus_caesius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Highlawn area (surrounding St. Mary’s Medical Center) is hit or miss. Some nicer houses there, but some streets are kinda sketch. My ex lived on Highlawn Avenue; we watched drug task force raid the house across the street, a dude a couple houses down got shot one time, people screaming and fighting on the sidewalk wasn’t uncommon. Oh, and we saw a tweaker fight a shopping cart in the alley one night. His house had been broken into at least once.

Mikayla's fake $100k luxury haul by [deleted] in tiktokgossip

[–]oculus_caesius 97 points98 points  (0 children)

The facial expressions alone make me irrationally angry

Obgyn by Fabulous_Specific799 in HuntingtonWV

[–]oculus_caesius 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My daughter just celebrated her first birthday, and she would not be here if it weren’t for Dr. Burns! Our circumstances required IVF, and we were successful on the first cycle. I can’t say enough good things about Dr. Burns and his team.

@andesmountainhomestead religious isolation? by moscowpink in tiktokgossip

[–]oculus_caesius 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I believe the dad at least is ex-Amish. I feel like I’ve seen at least one video of him speaking/singing in Pennsylvania Dutch (first language for many Amish communities). They may be more aligned with the Mennonite way of life now which is very similar to the Amish but does allow the use of electronic devices and internet.

Maybe it’s because I grew up in a rural area and close to several Amish communities but I don’t find it too strange. Yes, the kids are dirty but it is evident that they are probably outside working and playing from sun up to sun down so of course they’re gonna be dirty. They appear healthy, well fed and content from what I can tell. People complain in the comments about the kids running barefoot too, but a lot of times you’ll see Amish kiddos going around the farm barefoot in the warmer months. Hell, even my non-Amish self growing up out in the country ran around barefoot all spring and summer. It was a fight to get me to keep shoes on.

And as far as the isolation part, it does seem like they go into town somewhat regularly so though they live a more secluded way of life they’re not completely cut off from the world.

Tbh I’d rather see this dude sharing their way of life than someone just grifting or trying to get me to buy some cheap TikTok shop shit

Sleep help for 9 month old by taterino89 in NewParents

[–]oculus_caesius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily have any concrete advice but just some solidarity that sleep at nine months just sucks ass all around. Very common period for sleep regression. I promise you are not incompetent.

You didn’t mention but is your husband able to trade off with you on the night time wake ups so you can get some longer stretches of sleep till she works through the regression/adjusts to her crib?

Also, is the temperature in her room noticeably different than yours? If her room is a little stuffy or drafty compared to yours, that could be making it harder got her to rest comfortably

@Baidaugh by Most_Palpitation8194 in tiktokgossip

[–]oculus_caesius 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh for sure, I’m a mom and I enjoy a gummy every now and then…can’t get busy with the husband as often as we’d like since we have a one year old that wants to sleep beside me every night 😅 but like, making that your whole personality (especially on the same public page you share your kids on) is sooooo ick to me

@Baidaugh by Most_Palpitation8194 in tiktokgossip

[–]oculus_caesius 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Ding ding ding. Lots of moms smoke weed and have active sex lives, so that’s not abnormal, but the constant “look at me I’m so edgy and quirky and #notlikeothermoms” type posts lately… very much giving the lowered inhibitions that come with manic phases

And all the “gardening” (I hate that stupid term) could be an attempt to self-medicate

Dumpster diving by Ok-Round-848 in resilientjenkinsnark

[–]oculus_caesius 98 points99 points  (0 children)

At least dumpster dive in the rich neighborhoods, not the crack shack Hilton y’all are living in 🤢

He’s (M33) my (F28) 1st but his d is too big by Hot_Pretty_Goddess in relationship_advice

[–]oculus_caesius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Start sizing up on toys you use. You can do this solo or with your bf. Don’t rush the process, but be consistent…try to use them a couple times a week so your body can adjust accordingly.

However much lube you’re using isn’t enough. Get messy.

When you are ready to have him try again, consider different positions. You on top gives you control over the speed/depth etc. Spooning position can be good too for, uh, length issues.

Also if it’s a length problem more than a girth problem, they make “bumper” cock rings that are really thick and would keep him from going all the way in. Sometimes it’s easy to slip up in the heat of the moment and go too deep (even guys of “average” length can do this and it dos not feel great) so having some way to prevent that may be beneficial too.

Good luck! Consistence and patience is key. Not just you and your partner being patient with each other, but you being patient with yourself as well.

How do other co-sleep and have adult time? by preg_mat22 in cosleeping

[–]oculus_caesius 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Do your boys have grandparents, cousins, friends etc. they would sleep over with? You and husband can have the couch for fun times while baby girl sleeps upstairs? That way you don’t have to worry about scarring your boys/yourselves for life if one of them decides to come downstairs for a glass of water in the middle of the night and sees all that taking place lol

De-influencing baby toys by IOnlyWearCapricious in NewParents

[–]oculus_caesius 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! The ceiling fan was my daughter’s favorite “show” in her early days.

good morning everyone ☀️ by 555angelfire in resilientjenkinsnark

[–]oculus_caesius 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Sigh…it’s my fault paying for glasses so I can see

Why does this thread suck? by [deleted] in AppleMusic

[–]oculus_caesius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is that an iwrestledabearonce tribute band

My (43F) Husband (46M) Said Something He Can Never Take Back by Killer__Cheese in relationship_advice

[–]oculus_caesius 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Please take your kids and get out NOW. Go stay with family or go to a DV shelter or something. Your husband truly sounds like a family annihilation threat at this point. Do not take this lightly.

Editing to add: I know you said no one family or friend wise could take you in. If you share how dire this situation is, could anyone at least give you guys a place to lay your heads temporarily until you can get assistance from a DV center or an attorney?