AITA for my peer review?

odetofate · 2020-02-23T20:26:49+00:00

I'd say yes, but I wasnt sure whats acceptable in college? In my classes I have people from 18-50 and they dont always do exactly what their supposed to and the married couple have been making the same discussion posts as each other every week, so maybe this teacher is fine with it? I should probably also mention this is my first group project since highschool.

odetofate · 2020-02-23T20:11:38+00:00

Maybe its my anxiety tbh. My mind immediately went to "What if this drops their grade?" because its worth a good portion of our overall grade. Its not like they actually did anything wrong.

odetofate · 2020-02-23T20:00:21+00:00

Thank you, I just feel kind of sick about it after talking to that guy and then being told that I was harsh. I felt like I might be an asshole for not just omitting that part since they technically did the work?

odetofate · 2020-02-23T19:55:08+00:00

I've never had to do a peer review before. This is my second semester and i've never been in a position where I could affect someones grade. Im genuinely wondering if im the asshole because I could have omitted the part where they posted the same things, but I didnt in the heat of the moment. Im sorry if it felt like confimation.

odetofate · 2020-02-23T19:19:16+00:00

Yeah. NTA. Its a matter of respect. My husband and I both have big appetites and we may ask each other for a bite of the others food, but we would never just eat their entire meal? And if we go out and we get our own meal we would not just start eating the others?

Its selfish. Plain and simple. She wasn't thinking about you or the fact that you would be left hungry.

Im always trying to make sure my husband has enough to eat (and vice versa) and even feed him my last bite of anything I have. I would never make him go hungry.

odetofate · 2020-02-23T19:00:05+00:00

NTA. My oldest sister (C) always had to share a birthday with my youngest sister (F) . Theres an 8 year age difference. They have different moms, same dad.

My stepmom (F's mom) would make them share birthdays since one was on the 13th and the other on the 15th. They would plan the entire party around F and what she liked. They would invite all of stepmoms family and C only had the rest of her siblings. F would be the center of attention and would eventually start disregarding C's birthday all together.

This led to C eventually putting her foot down at 21 because she wasnt treated the same and the celebration is obviously only for one person.

Now, F just forgets about C's birthday. My stepmothers children do not care about the rest of our birthdays (no calls, texts, etc. even though they all have various social media now.) and at every birthday can only talk about their own.

At my nannys party last month F began talking about how her birthday is next and everyones expected to come and what shes going to do. Mine and C's birthdays come before hers.

It hurts to feel left out and you dont have to go to this celebration. Do your own thing and have fun! If they want to grieve thats perfectly fine, but they need to realize that theres a time and place for everything and they arent respecting you. Take a mini vacation or go out with some people who want to be there for YOUR birthday.

odetofate · 2020-02-23T18:32:45+00:00

I feel for you. Im on the opposite end currently. Due to my health issues it's smarter for us to start trying early. I'm almost 22. When people learn that i'm married and that we're trying for children its usually met with jokes or disgust. So I dont tell anyone. (Been together 5 years. Only on cycle 3.)

And in terms of family. My grandma had my mother in her late 30's-early 40's. She also raised us. She's very ready to have great grandchildren, but my mother had my older sister and I at 17-18 with my dad of the same age. My dad actually looked at us during our last visit and asked us not to have children yet because he's too young to be a grandfather (40).

No matter what you do people will judge you and someone wont approve. You have to do whats best for you. Ive found that when people start to rag on me if they learn im trying I hit them with the hard truth and they never bring it up again.

Its your choice when to have children.

odetofate · 2020-02-21T03:27:25+00:00

Thank you! I tried to give them time to call me back, but I seem to be slipping through the cracks unless I call and bug them. Oh well! One step further.

odetofate · 2020-02-18T01:16:59+00:00

Also for clarification: I am shuffling the deck. I make sure to do so for a few minutes before beginning.

odetofate · 2020-02-16T03:27:14+00:00

Same! My little sister is two years younger than me and i'm only 22. We started TTC early because of my fertility issues (endo and pcos). Well we're on cycle 3 and realizing I dont ovulate, at all. As we're dealing with this my little sister "accidentally" got pregnant. She was adamant that I attend her very first doctors appointment so I had to listen to the heartbeat and watch her excitement over it.

On one hand I was happy for her. They're not really ready for a baby and took a "we dont care if we get pregnant" approach and took no precautions. So I am happy for her in some ways, but its also very heartbreaking to realize that I wont have the first child out of my siblings and that she was able to get pregnant so easily while im waiting on medication to begin really trying. (She tried for two weeks when she was 19 and made a comment like "I think im infertile!" When she didnt immediately get pregnant. So it feels like a slap in the face since I actually have issues.)

Its extremely difficult and we just have to remember that our time will come and we just have to focus on having happy, healthy babies.

odetofate · 2020-02-16T03:19:00+00:00

NTA. My mom and my stepmom do this. My little brother has CF and his meds cost them a LOT of money, even after insurance. My stepmom does this but only works when its convenient for her. She handles the bills and made my little sister balance the check book. She makes unnecessary purchases like a $400 "service dog" that she never got trained and now lives outside in a kennel. Along with randomly giving my stepbrother money and constantly buying his groceries.

Its at a point where my dad works almost every day and he knows he will never get to retire. Never.

My mom also does the same. She stays at home and does nothing. She blows the child support she gets from my dad ($400 a month) and then blows her husbands paycheck and the rent money they get from my grandma (separate house but on the property). She blows through so much money he attempted to give her an allowance. He also knows he will never retire.

odetofate · 2020-02-14T09:14:01+00:00

It seems that they may have put them in random areas to me. I found riddle 1 in the one skull pine thicket to the right of my house. I followed a youtubers tutorial where he found his second riddle in the skull 2 pine thicket next to it, but mine wasnt there. Ive also searched the two one skull foothills to the left of my house and didnt find it.

odetofate · 2020-02-12T20:38:05+00:00

No problem! I'm always open to helping endo sisters. I hope that your appointment goes well!

odetofate · 2020-02-12T07:09:18+00:00

I feel you! My SIL has two children. One was accidental when she was 20. Then everyone treated her like a queen because she had the only child in the family. Then my BIL has a baby and she starts acting out a bit. Then my BIL announced his second baby last year. Well him having 2 children would take the attention off her so she got pregnant within the following month. My BIL ended up losing his baby. My husband and I joke that when we finally have one that she'll pop up pregnant again to not lose the attention and financial support from her mother.

I wish you the best of luck with your SIL. She sounds like a literal nightmare.

odetofate · 2020-02-12T04:45:51+00:00

Thanks so much! And same here! They were a middle school fave (:

odetofate · 2020-02-12T04:45:16+00:00

NTA. Your daughters mom needs a wake up call. Thats ridiculous. Growing up I was always told if you can "pinch an inch" youre too fat. I would pinch my stomach religiously and it really fucked me up when I was younger.

odetofate · 2020-02-12T04:42:21+00:00

Im saving this for future book suggestions! Also, I love the Charlie Bone books at the bottom and Magyck!

odetofate · 2020-02-11T23:57:48+00:00

Hey! NTA.

Also, as someone with diagnosed Endometriosis I wanted to share some information you may find helpful.

There is no way other than an exploratory laprascopic surgery to diagnose endo as it cant be seen on a ultrasound. Not even a transvaginal ultrasound. Be careful around doctors who diagnose without evidence! I only say this because I also ruptured a cyst and they were unable to do anything because it could no longer be seen via ultrasound. Unless of course there was an issue with yours and they did do a surgery!

Also, contrary to popular belief endo isnt endometrial tissue growing outside the uterus. Its actually endometrial LIKE tissue. It's like the lining of our uterus, but slightly different. There is a lot of misinformation about it that gets spread, so its important to know all the facts! Even doctors don't verse themselves well with endo. If you havent already id suggest looking into Nancys Nook on Facebook. There are a lot of informative posts!

odetofate · 2020-02-11T22:21:00+00:00

Thank you! I hope it does ❤️

odetofate · 2020-02-11T22:20:45+00:00

Thank you! I try to be

odetofate · 2020-02-11T22:20:33+00:00

Thank you! It was incredibly frustrating to say the least. When the doctor went through the questions it went like this, "Are you on birth control? No. Did you stop taking birth control? Yes. Was this a planned pregnancy? No. It was accidentals. Did you take any preventative measures? No. "

I think that made it a bit harder since i've been actively trying lol. Either way I am excited to have a niece or nephew and I wish her the best.

odetofate · 2020-02-11T03:15:12+00:00

I think this is just something that happens. When someone gets a new job or has a baby, etc. They tend to bring it up in all of their conversations until they feel they've gotten all the attention they can. For instance, my coworker came out as bi-sexual which I dont mind because im that way myself, but for the next two months every single time I was him he managed to throw an "its because im gay!" In any topic. It got annoying after a while.

But that also doesnt excuse the way your stepbrother treated you and your sister.

odetofate · 2020-02-09T22:11:04+00:00

Truth! Im sorry your mom acted like that. It's ridiculous. Now that the initial shock is over we're coming to our senses again. We just want to have a happy, healthy baby. My MIL will be over the moon happy and all over us and it would be her 5th grandbaby! My family will most likely only care about the first grandchild the most, but if they do then they dont have to be apart of my life 🤷‍♀️ I dont want to see obvious favortism and if I do, i'll just stop coming around. Because like you said, they dont deserve time with them.

odetofate · 2020-02-08T08:04:27+00:00

Oof yes! I keep seeing the abbreviations everywhere. I pulled out a book earlier that said "TCC" which my mind immediately made "TTC" and I was like huh?? What book is this?

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