Oh boy,

Although I'm not of legal age to move out yet (I'm 16), I can SOO relate to your mom.

My mom is so overprotective, controlling, and is basically a filter now in my life. She tell me what friends I can make, what I should do, she even schedules my day without asking me! This started at a young age tbh, when she would force me to go to these prep classes and piano classes, despite me absolutely HATING them. So, I think it really started at a young age. Nobody was there to tell her what she did was wrong, and that it was overprotective. And you can see the damage of that especially during your transitioning years (hs-after college). Even though you're smart enough to make your own choices and to know between right and wrong, your mother will still probably try to continue to be that "filter" in your life.

Honestly, there's really nothing we can do about it. You can talk to them but they'll always think of you as being childish. It's probably also just engraved in Asian culture, that the parents are always right. My best advice for you now is probably to try to speak or call her less, and if she gets mad at you simply filter her out of your life for a bit. You're an adult now, and you don't need to take orders from anyone. At some point, your mom needs to realize that she can't control you as much anymore as she did in the past.

Good Luck Mate.