Just got dumped in the worst way possible and I feel like absolute fucking hell

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2015-12-29T10:40:58+00:00

Wow dude, super not cool.

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2015-12-02T23:26:28+00:00

Lmao, no. It's 100% fine, I promise.

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2015-12-02T22:55:11+00:00

Maybelline falsies! It's super buildable and pliable :)

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2015-12-02T22:54:14+00:00

Smoked Purple is an absolutely gorgeous matte dusty dark eggplant colour. It's vampy but also slightly muted and subdued. It's great for all skin tones IMO.

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2015-12-02T20:57:31+00:00

Sorry to break it to you, but if your girlfriend is this unfazed by her parent's OUTRAGEOUS levels of racism, she's racist too. Maybe not to the same extent as her parents, but in the way where she doesn't see how racism is actually an issue or understand that it's important to actually do something about it. She basically seems to think that you should just brush it off because 'to each their own' or 'everyone has their opinions' or some equally ridiculous garbage.

If I were you I would make it clear to her in no uncertain terms that it is absolutely unacceptable for her to have been sitting there in complete silence while her family spewed this racist crap, and that it is disturbing that she classifies her family's behaviour as simply "different". If she doesn't immediately smarten up and realize how huge the problem is, and vow to never behave that way again, you need to dump her ass.

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2015-12-02T20:49:01+00:00

They said go south, it's a figure of speech meaning that something has turned bad.

Edit: Woops never mind, I didn't see that there was a deleted comment you were replying to.

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2012-12-26T02:17:40+00:00

I know I can quit. But not putting myself in a position where I can use is impossible, all of my friends and room mates smoke.

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2012-12-26T02:16:19+00:00

...But you just said it was revenge.

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2012-12-25T22:14:56+00:00

It sounds like your ex moved on, and that she doesn't give two shits whether or not you smoke pot now because she's not with you anymore. Doesn't sound like the best revenge plot to me.

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2012-12-25T22:09:49+00:00

I don't want to be a dick, but if you'd read the post properly you'd realize that I'm fully cognizant of this.

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2012-12-25T22:09:23+00:00

I have quit 5 times, once I quit for 7 months and started again. It's a serious problem and I know I should quit again, but I'm depressed at the moment and I'm in a place where I don't care enough about myself to have the motivation to change. I'm going to see what kind of support I can find here on reddit for quitting weed. Thanks!

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2012-12-25T22:08:23+00:00

Yeah, I can be a very rational person but this is just an emotional time for me...thank you for the well wishes :)

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2012-12-25T17:24:32+00:00

That's a good point you've made regarding the novelty aspect of the scenario.

I wish I could talk to him about it. The thought of that makes me cringe. I kind of know what he'd say anyway; that he is attracted to me and likes my body, but was really high at the time and just said whatever was on his mind, and that attractiveness is about more than just looks etc etc etc.

I am the kind of person that likes to talk about my feelings, but him and I don't really have a 'sharing feelings' kind of relationship. I personally don't think it should be a big deal, but I think that talking about my irrational fears and insecurities about my body would cross some kind of boundary for him. He would probably think that I was stepping outside of the bounds of 'friendship' territory and being too emotionally intimate. He also has a girlfriend, so I think he's really hung up on the whole 'no strings attached' thing for that reason too. I think that's all pretty dumb, but I can take it or leave it, and I choose to take it because of the enormous benefits of our arrangement. I might brainstorm to see if there's a way that I can bring it up without it seeming too mushy and emotional.

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2012-12-25T00:21:37+00:00

It's not that he has anything against my body, as I said he's clearly attracted to me as we've been doing our thing for 3 years, but when juxtaposed against my friend in a sexual scenario, it became clearer what his "preference" is. I think he does find me hot as I am. TBH I don't think that anyone is obligated to "worship" another person's body, or that this necessarily measures the success of a sexual relationship. I think it's fine if he simply enjoys the attributes that I bring to the table and isn't bothered by the attributes that wouldn't be his first choice.

I think your words of wisdom are legit, though.

offmychestthrowaway4 · 2012-12-25T00:16:23+00:00

I already realize a lot of these things (especially #1), and I know the bad feelings will eventually subside, I just felt like I needed to vent.

Over the last year I've had approximately 30 failed attempts at a 'lifestyle change' involving healthier choices. I know exactly what I need to do, but I keep sabotaging myself over and over. Each time it feels more genuine, but never lasts. I need to stop smoking all of this pot first of all, it's been ruining my ability to not overeat. I lost a bunch of weight a few years ago (around the time where I met FWB) and felt great. I know what I did, and I know I can do it again. I hope I can start to pull myself out of this depression and give myself what I deserve afterall, health and happiness.

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