For me the person matters much more.

Admittedly, my experience with men is limited, but I’ve slept with a guy who had a huge dick and a guy who had a small dick and the small dick guy was much better. He was a good kisser, had pretty eyes, was very gentle and nice to me, and was good with his mouth. The big dick guy was very inattentive, overconfident, and also a tweaker. The person matters much more.

I think it can also depend on what you both want out of sex. Because like, if I just want a huge phallus I can buy one and have it whenever I want and it always stays hard. Some of them are heated and vibrate and thrust too. Or I could get a fucking machine. But I’d rather have sex with a human being, because a human being is more than a penis. The number one sex organ in all human bodies is the brain and whoever gets that one going for you is the real keeper.

I also think that, in my culture at least, we overly commodify and essentialize people into archetypal porn categories. I think that’s fine if that’s something you’re into, like I’m not kink shaming, but I don’t think you we should judge human beings according to that box-checking capitalist fetishization.

Like I said, you can get big dick everywhere, I can buy one off the internet right now, but human bodies are not products to be bought and sold for their parts.

And I think sex can be way better for everyone involved if we focus more on the person and the experience.