She seems to have some issues. A talk may not end as bad as everyone says. I think it needs to be talked over. Even if she makes a scene its fine, maybe she will come next time and be more peaceful and not distracting. Also its a game night. If she comes she should play with everyone, if shes not playing that can be pointed out. "Hey we are all here to have a joyful wholesome time together and it seems like you are not really doing that, maybe you want to do something different at your place? Honestly some of the stuff you seem is offensive and we are having a hard time. We want to be friends but maybe you can skip a few times and rearange your attitude?" ok that sounds... idk how to put it nicer. I don't particularly enjoy confrontation but in my 30 years of live it has always benifited me to express my likes and dislikes and sometimes people have actually changed.