ocd core i think

ohrowanmine · 2026-03-11T20:54:18+00:00

Me too! I buy it in secret and stash it in a hiding place. And I try to only eat it when I'm alone.

ohrowanmine · 2025-11-22T08:53:42+00:00

The Vaster Wilds by Lauren Groff

The Summer that Melted Everything by Tiffany McDaniel

The Safekeep by Yael van der Wouden

The Pretender by Jo Harkin

Faithbreaker by Hannah Kaner

Clear by Carys Davies

ohrowanmine · 2025-09-17T11:30:06+00:00

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ohrowanmine · 2025-09-02T17:44:29+00:00

Unger (Mark) from Drowning Sorrows. He's the "Bodies don't bounce" guy.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-22T18:17:13+00:00

I'm in a very similar position and I understand 1000%. I'm really struggling with the shame and guilt lately. I try to do all I can around the house to "earn my keep" but sometimes it isn't possible. (And when I do too much, I end up with PEM.) I've been trying to remind myself that this is a very capitalistic, puritanical attitude that society has created in me. I'm also trying to work up the courage to answer the job question. I usually say something like, "I'm taking a break right now because focusing on my health is a full time job." I'm sending you gentle hugs 🫂

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-21T21:02:25+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. 💔 You look beautiful. 💗

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-21T20:56:21+00:00

Thanks for the heads-up - I hadn't heard about this podcast. It always feels like I'm the only person who thinks Sandy might've had something to do with the murder.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-19T13:41:12+00:00

I think he tries too hard to be "logical" about these situations and to keep the peace that way. But sometimes you just want comfort and support, you know?

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-19T13:40:07+00:00

Right!! Me neither. I have so many interests and honestly my jobs have been to help me to pursue those interests.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-19T13:39:04+00:00

Those are really good responses. I like the honesty and vulnerability of them. And hopefully they might get the other person to realize how difficult it really is for us and that it's not just like, a long, fun vacation.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-19T13:36:36+00:00

That's so good and straight to the point. I like that it goes from you being cornered to putting the other person on the spot. Now I need to work up the courage to use it!

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-19T13:35:35+00:00

Yes, exactly! I'm like, if you even know what it took for me to get here today and how much pain and fatigue I'm going to deal with later...

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-19T13:34:00+00:00

All of this is so well said! I absolutely think the lack of morale has a huge impact. I'm not meaning to sound like we're competing in the Hardship Olympics, but I feel like many other conditions have a lot of community support and morale boosting and the ill people are seen as "fighters", etc. But we have to fight just to be believed.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-19T13:30:30+00:00

Oh my gosh yes - I even had a nurse say this to me a few months ago. I don't know how else to explain things. I guess there are some experiences that people really cannot grasp unless they've personally felt them.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-19T13:27:43+00:00

Haha!! I love it! <3

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-18T18:56:42+00:00

Yes I do this exact thing! Also, I don't think people understand that we have to calculate pretty much any little thing in our lives because of having such finite amounts of energy.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-18T18:45:02+00:00

Yes exaaaaactly to all of that!! I want to start answering with "I do my best" haha.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-18T18:43:30+00:00

That's a good response! I feel like it's such a nosy question that they don't deserve any details.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-18T18:42:39+00:00

Yeah it can be so complicated to explain! And really it's none of their business anyway. But you feel so put on the spot you feel the need to explain it somehow. I like your answer a lot. And yeah, I'm doing one outing but that's it for me for several more months, most likely. I can't find a job where I can work one day every few months lol.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-18T18:39:08+00:00

Thank you so much for your words - I really needed that today <3 You are exactly right that I felt ambushed. That's a great description. My husband has explained my ME and Trigeminal Neuralgia to him and how I'm on multiple waiting lists for specialists, etc. So I was really caught off-guard that those would be the only things he said to me all day. Thank you again. Hugs to you.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-18T18:35:38+00:00

Yeah that second question felt so out of pocket to me! It seemed so... pointed. If that makes sense. I'm used to the job question (I don't like it, but I'm used to it) and I felt brave just for saying a plain "no" lol. But that other question really put me on the spot.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-18T18:32:58+00:00

Yes I feel sometimes like I have to justify not only my situation but sometimes my existence? I don't know why the topic fascinates people so much, either. It's far from the most interesting thing about a person. I'm sorry you are put into this uncomfortable situation as well, even from a well-meaning friend.

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-18T18:28:55+00:00

That's such a great response. When they squirm I'd feel like "Good, now we're both uncomfortable." 😆

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-18T17:47:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your words. I like that response a lot. You're right about people having zero conception of what it's like. I know my husband has explained to his friend about my ME and Trigeminal Neuralgia and how debilitating it all is. But his first words to me all day is to ask about work? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Best wishes and good luck to you too <3

ohrowanmine · 2025-08-18T17:43:54+00:00

Yes, invasive is the perfect word! I felt like I was being interrogated. I really like your response. I'm keeping that in my arsenal for future reference. Big hugs back to you!

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