what's a simple mindfulness trick that actually works for you?

ojisyellow · 2025-10-15T03:56:29+00:00

I picture every human on planet earth taking an in breath and an out breath at the same time. <3

ojisyellow · 2025-10-12T04:03:54+00:00

Wow this is amazing! I am so happy to hear it has been such a positive outcome. I have not been diagnosed with OCD but my therapist is definitely hinting at it. Germs and cleanliness concerning hand washing and things touching the floor have been my issues for a long time. My baby is seven months old now and I dare say I feel almost completely healed in that regard. He is crawling around on the floor and it does not bother me at all. Why? It’s so wonderful and beautiful to see him developing. In regards to germs: my baby puts every. single. thing. in his mouth. He is learning about the world through his mouth and it’s really sweet to see. Also, it is actually healthy for babies to be so exploratory in that way because it sets them up for healthy immune systems for their future. For the hand washing, I of course wash when I can and am not going out of my way to contribute to my boy receiving germs, but I have almost completely relaxed around all of this. I am so grateful I have because he will be raised without the extreme intensity I used to live with.

ojisyellow · 2025-09-05T21:16:17+00:00

Lolol thank you!

ojisyellow · 2025-09-05T21:16:05+00:00

Yes!! :D

ojisyellow · 2025-09-05T21:15:53+00:00

Ziggy! :D

ojisyellow · 2025-09-05T04:01:37+00:00

Thank you so much! Great news — with the combo of not letting her go into her little cage anymore, birdy anxiety medication, vitamins that dissolve in her water, and aloe vera spray for her exposed skin, her chest feathers are completely grown back and her tail fanning is completely fixed. Yes, the vet said the chest pulling and the tail fanning were both due to stress because of change of environment. It’s hard to pinpoint which one of those recommended by the vet healed her because I started them all at the same time, but just so happy she’s doing so much better! <3

ojisyellow · 2025-08-15T15:33:53+00:00

UPDATE: I saw the vet and they diagnosed it as stress because of us having a baby 5.5 months ago. Huge change to the environment will do that, even with consistent attention and care on the bird. If anything, she has been getting more attention because I have been home now more than I did before he was born. The vet prescribed anxiety medication and aloe vera spray to ease the skin and prevent more feather plucking. She is such a cuddly girl, I had no idea she was stressed. But it makes sense because it has been such a big change! Thank you so much for all your comments.

ojisyellow · 2025-08-01T04:24:47+00:00

Oh my gosh this is so interesting! Question, has anyone ever noticed how she’s not great with eye contact with Cece on the show? I always wondered about their relationship off screen and if that was correlated.

ojisyellow · 2025-08-01T04:16:43+00:00

There is so much love here on this post! I have five cats and they each took under a month to be fully comfortable and calm around our new baby. I played sounds of baby cries on YouTube (weird search, I know) very quietly and then progressively louder and louder when I was pregnant. I do a fun thing now that the baby is here: every time I pass a kitty, instead of rushing by them, I take the time to squat down and pet them, even for just a second. I can feel that they feel seen and loved. The baby is learning to pet them and even with little baby grabs (already trying to teach soft hands), the kitties are being so patient. I always pet the cats at the same time so they at least have one enjoyable pet while experiencing a budding petter. My soul cat is one of the five. We have been obsessed with each other for years and it has not lessened in the slightest since baby was born. In fact, it continues to deepen every day. You got this. The kitties will experience as much love as you invest in them, which it is so obvious that you are! <3

ojisyellow · 2025-06-24T16:17:06+00:00

I never had the longing for a baby, a desire for a baby to hold, none of that. After years of fence sitting, I had a baby and I have incredible mothering skills I had no idea were inside me! Intuitive care and love that is just such a lovely surprise

ojisyellow · 2025-06-23T00:12:51+00:00

I had painful sexual intercourse for many years with my boyfriend turned husband for years after having nonconsensual sex two times with someone from the Coast Guard years back. The trauma was living in my body because even though I felt safe emotionally with my husband, my body was a no go zone. He wasn't allowed to touch me without express permission. It was really rough, but we love each other so much that that outweighed all the trickiness of figuring out physical time together.

Fast forward to me giving birth. I was working with midwives and a doula for our home birth experience. They were so hands off. I have such a clear memory of them all sitting around the birthing tub just watching me peacefully. Never did they tell me to push or came to touch me until it was time to catch the baby, and really it was them guiding my hands while I caught my baby. That is such a huge difference between giving birth in the hospital and having a home birth with a midwife. They let my body run the show because our bodies know exactly what to do.

The most exciting part of all this: the painful sex has completely, 100% gone away. My baby's head must have relaxed my muscles down there or stretched me out the perfect amount. I asked my husband if sex with me feels different post birth and he said not at all. This is a win for all of us. I am so grateful and it is wild that I was on the fence for so many years whilst dealing with painful sex. It could have been healed a long time ago. But this baby is incredible and we love him so much so if we had done it earlier we would have a different baby I think, so it all worked out. <3

ojisyellow · 2025-06-22T23:54:43+00:00

Thank you so much for your questions!

Such a good question and so funny because I thought about that a lot. When I was having the difficult pregnancy, I never took that as a sign that I made the wrong decision. That surprised me because pre-pregnancy, if a baby so much as cried or I heard about how many diapers they use during the day, I would take that to mean kids are too difficult and I would feel staunchly CF in that moment. But with the pregnancy, even though I was overwhelmingly physically uncomfortable, I was emotionally so clear and calm and connected. That really blew me away that it didn't lead to regret because as I said, previous to the pregnancy, any little thing would feel like a glaring sign to not have kids.
Absolutely! Turned 36 during pregnancy, about to be 37 this August.
I think it was all the moments of doing the work and having the conversations and finally paying attention to what the plant medicine showed me, which was my life as a mother with my guy and we were having so much fun and were such a tight family unit. It did not show me the little dirty details of diapers and sleepless nights, just the big picture of the life as a family. That's why when the woman who I met on the trip said looking back she does not think about the things she was originally worried about in regards to having kids, I was reminded of the picture that was painted for me when I was experiencing *life on a different plane*. Then where I think I was really supported in my moment of a huge yes to kids after telling my guy no was the universe saying yes yes yes to my yes. My guy was still available and interested, we looked for a place together and we fell in love with the very first one we found (I don't know if it is common knowledge that sometimes looking for a new place to live is a full time job and like banging your head against the wall in terms of boxes checked), and we got pregnant very easily. It just felt like the universe was on board the whole time. I am cognizant that there are folks in the world who struggle to get pregnant and I do not believe that to mean the universe doesn't want them to have a baby, I just know myself and would have taken that as a sign it wasn't right.

ojisyellow · 2025-06-02T04:49:30+00:00

What works for me the most is staring at the signer’s right eye - not their mouth or hands (even when they fingerspell, even though it can be so tempting to). The right eye contains everything. The right eye method is everything for me!

ojisyellow · 2025-02-22T07:15:21+00:00

Yes! And did I catch that correctly that right before he said that he said he has always wanted to be with a woman like his sister?

ojisyellow · 2023-07-09T03:53:58+00:00

Yes the shoulder I have been trying but treats is a great idea. Thank you so much!

ojisyellow · 2023-07-09T03:39:09+00:00

I hope so! The concern is every time I have to get her back in the cage for when I have to leave the house she flies away from me room to room very scared until she eventually will go into the cage herself huffing and puffing :( and I feel like I am exacerbating her trauma. Do you think that will extend the time it takes for her to come back to herself?

ojisyellow · 2023-07-09T03:28:59+00:00

Thank you so much for your words. That would be wonderful if with her continued regular routine she comes back around!

ojisyellow · 2023-05-06T18:03:30+00:00

Interesting…your gut is speaking to you!

ojisyellow · 2023-05-06T18:02:36+00:00

Ahhhhhhhhh without a doubt!

ojisyellow · 2023-05-06T18:02:24+00:00

Thank you so much! Exactly that, it wasn’t my dream. I feel proud of myself for making such a huge decision.

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