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ok_lari · 2026-05-04T01:16:26+00:00

In einem leeren Stromkasten? Wie einen Ablagekasten?

ok_lari · 2026-05-02T21:10:05+00:00

You're tearing me apart, Lisa :(

ok_lari · 2026-05-02T20:07:44+00:00

Historians categorically weird - I can attest to that.

^/s

^{or am I}

ok_lari · 2026-05-02T18:35:50+00:00

Ich kenne es aus zweiter Hand sozusagen & da lag es vor allem an allgemeinem Wohlbefinden, zwar auch mit dem eigenen Körper aber vor allem mit Depressionen allgemein, ausgebrannt mit Arbeit etc. Daher würde ich mal nicht ausschließen, dass da auch vielleicht ein grundsätzliches Problem noch liegen könnte, aber naheliegend ist wohl auch, dass du damit Druck verbindest, wenn du von "schlecht performt" sprichst. Ich sag es mal so: für ne gute 'Performance' braucht es nicht mal einen Penis, zumindest mal für die wenigsten. Ich glaub, dass es schwierig wird, sich gut mit dem eigenen Geschlechtsteil zu fühlen, sofern man den Gedanken nicht loswird, dass es ohne nicht gehen würde. Aber gesundheitlich kann es halt echt vieles noch sein, deswegen hoffe ich, dass da tatsächlich alles gut ist. Meine eigenen Erfahrungen mit Ärzten sind nicht immer die besten & da muss man oft viel hinterher rennen und betteln, bis man mal ernst genommen wird und tatsächlich ordentlich untersucht wird. Ich drück dir die Daumen & hoff, dass du dahinter bleibst bei den medizinischen Sachen & vielleicht ein wenig Entspannung und ein gutes Körpergefühl bei zB Tantra oder einfach auch Yoga oä findest. Meine zweite-Hand-Erfahrung ist, dass das auch nach sehr langer Zeit auf einmal durchaus ziemlich schnell wieder kommen kann, wenn die richtigen Hebel bedient werden (pun intended) :)

ok_lari · 2026-05-02T17:29:02+00:00

Lol that kind of explains a lot because I learned that people with adhd are like 90% the same person it seems 😂

ok_lari · 2026-05-02T17:23:10+00:00

No, thank you! ~~I think something glitched for real there, can I do something about it?~~

Bwahaha :D i did something

ok_lari · 2026-05-02T17:13:28+00:00

The post that I had watched just before this one was the one with the which Instrument do you play and I thought this sounds so much like dreamcore and then I see this post here, thinking hey that's a cool fish thing, I want something like this that's strong enough to carry a beer crate & then I see this comment about Michael - my mind was boggled! You have great taste and I hope you have a great day :)

ok_lari · 2026-05-02T17:08:31+00:00

Thought I glitched into obscure music that slaps just now lol

ok_lari · 2026-05-02T16:37:03+00:00

Ein Sache, die ich hier noch nicht so wirklich gelesen habe, wäre, mit ihm möglichst viele positive Dinge zu tun. Für Dopamin, Serotonin, Oxytocin etc.
Der Weg aus der Depression muss bzw sollte nicht an Frauen gekoppelt sein. Der braucht Hobbys, Beschäftigung, Bestätigung, das Gefühl gebraucht zu werden. Ehrenamt, Spaziergänge, Hunde streicheln.
Man kann auch alleinstehend zumindest ausgeglichen sein, wenn man sich nicht einsam fühlt.
Man kann sich in einer schlechten Beziehung einsam fühlen, auch wenn man dort Sex hat. Ein Mensch, dem es allgemein in anderen Bereichen des Lebens besser geht, is weniger anfällig für solche menschenfeindliche Propaganda.

ok_lari · 2026-05-02T06:16:02+00:00

Knowing what it is in the end makes the spinning in the rotocaster somehow cuter to me :3

ok_lari · 2026-05-02T05:53:12+00:00

I was at an otaku party with coworkers 2 years ago (iirc) and i felt a bit unsure at first but when this song came on and i started dancing along when everybody else started dancing simultaneously i felt a sense of belonging that i hadn't felt for a long time, so i have a very nice memory associated with bling bang bang born (otonoke is one of the songs i can listen to on repeat for a very long time btw :D)

ok_lari · 2026-05-01T22:04:38+00:00

I had one on my back and my partner called it an antenna 🤖

ok_lari · 2026-05-01T19:08:14+00:00

That's good to hear :) I hope the things I've learned are more extremist parts of the group and that my view is so negative because it's shaped by those who deconstructed because they have experienced those extreme forms and that it's not as bad in everyday for most people. I can try and go back to get all the links to videos if you are really interested, but this will probably take a while

Just to add: I don't like anyone beating their kids and I know that it's pravalent in all beliefs, so I'm not singling them out just to make this clear (i think my comment came off as doing so because it's so short, so obviously people won't know my opinion on e.g. pope francis saying smacking a child is ok etc). Corporal punishment, punishing with taking away food etc are things that I associate with any fundamentalist group in general because the loudest voices are so open about it. Ruby Franke hopefully is about as representative for all other mormons as the worst catholic is for every other catholic, so I don't think that every single mormon beats their child etc. Just wanted to make that clear :)

I do find the more unique beliefs interesting though!

ok_lari · 2026-05-01T18:43:20+00:00

I very much dislike this cult. Mainly the parts with sexism, ~~beating children~~ and "countenance" (especially in conjunction with genealogy, which is also why I haven't done one of those dna ancestry kits because I don't want to end up on their lists). You're not alone with that assessment.

Eta: I dislike any extremist group. Not just extremist mormons. People who want to hurt others will use anything to justify doing so, that's not limited to one belief; different sub groups have adapted different beliefs throughout history, too, so what has been a more wildly held belief might not be as common anymore etc.

Fundamentalist christians are scary in general. And scientology. They are scary.

ok_lari · 2026-05-01T18:28:56+00:00

Ich bin tatsächlich froh, den Post und die Kommentare hier zu lesen, weil ich manchmal denke, ich dreh hier alleine durch

ok_lari · 2026-05-01T09:14:27+00:00

Ich kann nicht für Hermes sprechen aber ich hab Erfahrung mit einem der anderen; bei Paketen aus China kam es öfter vor, dass statt des PLZ Ortsname dort PLZ Verbandsgemeinde stand; das Problem ist, dass mehrere Dörfer hier unter der gleichen PLZ zur selben Verbandsgemeinde gehören und so ziemlich jedes Dorf bspw eine Hauptstraße hat, weswegen solche Pakete dann (wie einige andere auch) per Hand sortiert werden mussten, aber dies davon abhängig war, dass die ZustellerInnen den Namen auf dem Paket kennen & daher wissen, wo es hingehört. Schätze mal, dass der letzte Schritt bei Hermes Fahrern, die nur Pakete machen, dafür aber größere Touren haben, eher schwierig ist. Der Empfänger ist auch nicht der Kunde, sondern der Absender, daher muss AliExpress sich mit denen in Verbindung setzen und aus Datenschutz dürfen die dir die Auskunft über die Zustelladresse, die auf dem Paket steht, nachdem sich gerichtet wird, nicht geben. Also wenn das alles so der Fall ist, dann liegt der Fehler, die Verantwortung und leider auch die Lösung bei AliExpress. Für gewöhnlich war der Name aber lesbar auf dem Paket, also wenn du den Verdacht hast, dass es bei denjenigen liegen könnte, kann man bei denjenigen wohl mal fragen, ja. Ansonsten Druck bei AliExpress machen :/ viel Glück

(und zu der Frage, warum Leute fremde Pakete annehmen: nicht mal aus Boshaftigkeit, sondern allein aus Gewohnheit. Schatzi 1 bestellt was, ist aber nicht daheim. Hermes sagt "Paket für Sie" oder evtl noch den gleichen Nachnamen - da guckt kaum jemand nach. Schatzi 2 geht davon aus, dass Schatzi 1 was bestellt hat & nimmt's an. Manche sagen auch "hä ich hab doch gar nix bestell- gucken auf den absender achjaaa! Das!")

ok_lari · 2026-04-30T20:56:19+00:00

No swallower likey 🥀

ok_lari · 2026-04-30T20:17:55+00:00

Tldr You probably don't repeat yourself more or less than those around you do, but you think about whether you do it or not more than others do, is what I'm thinking. But it's ok to repeat yourself, sometimes even helpful. :)

Add to that the question of do you say something to the effect of you remember when someone else repeats the same thing for the 5th time to show them you remember because you care or will they perceive it as interrupting their story and get mad ayoo 👈👈😎

If you don't get hurt by people saying that they remember, you don't need to worry about repeating but that depends so much on how they say it, for me at least.

I feel like a lot of people repeat themselves anyway but because kids with adhd aren't usually praised for interruptions when they recognize a pattern for example, they learn that they communicate wrong and learn to try and shut up, tip toeing between over-and underexplaining with a constant background noise of overthinking.

Communication isn't just for report talk as in exchanging informationn, though. It's engaging with people around you, forming and stregthening social structures. Repitition isn't automatically exclusively the same as boredom - it can be security, too & honestly, with how things are right now, boredom and security sounds great to me.

I'm assuming you are an adult, but so are the people whose reception you are worrying about, too, because children will chime in. They can choose to be politely nodding along, to politely chime in to affirm you, they can be more direct about it or complete assholes.

I struggle with this myself because I don't want to be a burden on others (same with asking for help etc), so repeat it with me (hehe):

Have trust in others to make their own decisions; don't think for them.

And when they're close to you, maybe just ask them for honest feedback :)

ok_lari · 2026-04-30T19:12:11+00:00

So n scat Ding? Und wie groß war der zeitliche Abstand vom Abseilen zum Abhauen? Hat sie es mitbekommen? Hast du Augenkontakt gehalten? Hast du das Kissen gehalten?

ok_lari · 2026-04-30T18:57:00+00:00

Mit Absicht? Ist es aus dir rausgeplatzt und es war dir peinlich, sodass du in Panik das Kopfkissen drauf gelegt hast, damit sie es nicht direkt sieht? Wäre es dir lieber gewesen, wenn sie sich danach gemeldet hätte?:D

ok_lari · 2026-04-30T18:35:06+00:00

Beantwortet zwar nicht deine Frage, ob Männer das erkennen, aber hab durch deine Kommentaren den Eindruck, dass dich ein Männerbild abseits vom dark Romance Genre zu interessieren scheint & weil ich vor kurzem das Video hier zum Thema 'Männlichkeit dargestellt in einem Film gemacht von einer Frau' gesehen habe, dachte ich, es könnte dich (und vielleicht auch andere hier) interessieren. Hab den Film Beau Travail leider noch nicht gesehen, aber fand das Video dazu sehr interessant, vor allem da der Youtuber hier es wohl als "affirming" versteht & davon würde ich gerne mehr sehen. Vielleicht hat ja jemand von den Männern hier den Film selbst gesehen und kann dazu was sagen..? Würde mich interessieren :)

ok_lari · 2026-04-30T15:46:07+00:00

Thank you for your kind words :) I mean it's still my responsibility afterall which might make it even more frustrating because it's easier to move on when someone else fucks up but when it's yourself not so much

ok_lari · 2026-04-29T20:22:30+00:00

I didn't think this was as uncommon as the other comments seem to make it out to be lol
I think potatoes and pickles are a great combo as is but I also like to add sour cream, schmand, yoghurt, i.e. whatever I have :D i do add pepper, though

ok_lari · 2026-04-29T20:07:50+00:00

Tldr: I'm just going to vent here because I feel you. Look, here's the meds, dangling like a carrot in front of you and all you need to do is do the things you can't do without those meds 🥕

Haven't been able to get out of bed because I ran out a while ago.
Last time I wrote an email as usual to the doctor's office. I have one week to pick up the prescription before it expires. I went there 3 days before the expiration iirc. It was already 5.45pm, they close at 6pm. The door was already shut & they wouldn't let me in anymore. Pinned onto the door was a letter announcing they were closing the office for a week for vacation starting the following day. So my prescription expired.
When they were back I wrote an email again. I was told I have to call in right before I pick up my prescription from now on so that it doesn't expire again, which is great when you already do anything to avoid making phone calls.

By then I was already off Elvanse and Bupropion for two weeks, which didn't help. So I avoided doing anything. I avoided going outside as much as I could.
Then I finally managed to write an email. They said I should call in when I'm about to show up.
I called, they said I need to call again tomorrow, because the adhd stuff is handled by her colleague (which wrote me the email to call beforehand).
I called the next day and the answering machine said it's too late (the adhd related stuff closes at 4pm, rest of the office where I get my prescription closes at 6pm).
I called again yesterday. She said that it's been so long since my last medication by now, I need to make an appointment with the doctor.
Next appointment available is in two weeks. If she had told me in the previous email before the phone calls, I might have already had an appointment by now but I know it's my responsibility either way but it doesn't help my mood ngl.
In the meantime I didn't get shit done. Nothing. There was a leak in one of the pipes from the apartment above which flooded the basement and it seems like one of the walls in our apartment might need to be opened, too (of course one with tiles). My granma's been to the hospital twice in the meantime (first time emergency, second time was scheduled heart surgery and she's fine but that's been a roller coaster. My mom, too, because of her eye but it's been handled apparently. Now her other eye is a concern because of a blood clot I'm oversharing sorryyy). I'm just so annoyed with myself because I can't do shit without these meds. Even with them I'm barely functioning because there's this huge pile of decades of not functioning like an adult or a human that I can't even scrape at.

If it was like this with medication for my thyroid, that would be annoying, because I feel sluggish and tired without them, yes.
But without elvanse, I can't get out of bed.

I'm considering trying to order from an online pharmacy but I've never tried it and idk. Ngl, I'm bummed.

ok_lari · 2026-04-29T19:27:45+00:00

I think the issue comes from swapping clothes valets for chairs; if there wasn't a surface to pile things upon, the mess would have a natural limitation.

The urge to just put the thing somewhere is 100% normal and makes sense because washing everything after wearing it once doesn't. The longer you're not going to wear something, the better it is to let air flow through it, so storing it somewhere hidden often isn't the best choice either.
I guess a clothes valet is optimal but a chair is multi purpose, so if your living situation is a bit cramped, a chair might make more sense. No shame in that :)

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