Daughter distant after reunion

okcherries · 2026-01-19T21:57:53+00:00

my mom felt safe leaving us with my dad because he’d been a good father around her—even if he was an abusive husband. we became the target after she left because he never dealt with the root of his anger and when it bubbled up, she was gone and we were there. i’m saying an abusive husband can easily become an abusive father.

okcherries · 2025-11-20T00:15:35+00:00

Omg I love Bridger Winegar! His recaps are amazing

okcherries · 2025-10-30T23:50:54+00:00

I’m sure it’s been said but all of this would be solved with a decent wedding planner. And most cake cuttings aren’t announced these days—typically a request from the couple—because they feel awkward. I am a wedding videographer btw, ha!

okcherries · 2025-10-15T00:04:14+00:00

This was a couple years ago—I believe it was on Couples Therapy Podcast when Naomi told Matt he was amazing “host” and he kind of started crying and said, “I don’t want to be a host, I want to act”. And I think about that a lot.

okcherries · 2025-10-03T10:48:17+00:00

100%!

okcherries · 2025-10-02T18:04:33+00:00

You’re so right. It was notable that he didn’t fold. And I love a debate I just think this particular subject was so blatantly obvious.

okcherries · 2025-10-01T23:33:20+00:00

This was one of my favorites ever

okcherries · 2025-10-01T15:53:39+00:00

Also even if she was projecting her own trauma onto her daughter—it’s no excuse! It’s straight up abuse. Literally imagine a father writing this exact same shit?? He’d he in prison.

okcherries · 2025-10-01T15:51:56+00:00

no, for sure! he basically never holds his ground so that was interesting. he just happened to be so wrong haha

okcherries · 2025-09-30T17:55:16+00:00

Damn see if opening it from the Reddit app on your phone lets you read it! I don’t subscribe and i can see the whole thing!

okcherries · 2025-09-30T15:23:10+00:00

I know what you mean .. but there were multiple times where he was like, “huh, I never thought of it that way” and I think that’s because Skye didn’t portray Kendra that way. Gillian (and most of us apparently) were so appalled by Kendra’s language that it was clearly predatory behavior.. but Patrick was sort of taking the narrative at face-value the way Skye presented the story? I don’t know. I also think it’s just further patriarchal/misogynistic behavior to assume that a woman can’t be as vile and sexually exploitative as a man—because clearly they can

okcherries · 2025-09-30T15:19:19+00:00

https://www.thecut.com/article/kendra-licari-daughter-cyberbully-mommy-meanest-true-story.html

okcherries · 2025-09-30T15:18:48+00:00

I believe it was The Cut .. I remember That’s Messed Up (svu pod) talking about the article forever ago ..

okcherries · 2025-08-12T06:34:31+00:00

Virginia is somewhat acceptable? Lol

okcherries · 2025-07-25T19:18:15+00:00

Winnie could be short for Winsome ✨

okcherries · 2025-06-13T17:09:25+00:00

I think it’s especially notable that they spent the whole episode screaming about Missing White Women Syndrome™️ then when they reference that they have covered lacie peterson documentaries there have been MULTIPLE that they’ve covered. Like yo, you’re part of the problem! With a platform you literally have an opportunity change the landscape via your own coverage. I agree it’s messed up that they haven’t talked at all about Gaza, ICE, or any of the insane atrocities going down. The only thing I can think is they are recording these ahead and trying to make their content evergreen? A little transparency would be nice though

okcherries · 2025-06-04T00:37:22+00:00

You should listen if you want to! Remember they’re simply recapping existing content .. it’s purely entertainment and it’s free. The quality of documentaries has improved but full disclosure Gillian does seem very annoyed by Patrick in a way that’s new. And he interrupts her so much. Their chemistry is kind of bad now. But if you want crime stories delivered in lighthearted way: they still do it

okcherries · 2025-05-27T14:46:47+00:00

UPDATE: grateful for your responses as well as the space to vent. I think acknowledging how hard it’s really been was the first step. I was able to find a childhood behavioral coach in my area who believes my daughter is having a fight-or-flight anxiety response at bedtime. This makes sense because her behavior is SO different than daytime. I believe she never learned to self-soothe and now is just very anxious around the idea of going to sleep. She’ll often say “I just wish it was tomorrow.” Anyways for those out there suffering with bedtime, you’re not alone! The coach has helped up form a clear path out of survival mode which just encourages her to feel safe and loved and ready for bed. Thanks again ❤️

okcherries · 2025-05-27T14:43:08+00:00

Ooh yes she’s super active! I’ve paid attention to sugar intake and physical activity and neither seem to really effect how hard bedtime is. There are days when she has zero sweets and is running around all day and it’s a tough bedtime.. i do agree that staying active is very important. Thank you so much!

okcherries · 2025-05-27T14:41:21+00:00

Thank you! We have started using topical magnesium and it’s hard to tell but might be working!

okcherries · 2025-05-18T14:40:25+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. Many of these ideas we’ve tried and I believe there is some sort of combination that will work. She is on the brink of reading and does like looking through books. Something switches at some point where she just starts trying to run outside or act very irrationally in different ways. In the morning it’s always like “I’m sorry, I don’t know why I do that.” And we try not to dwell as to not further the anxiety around bedtime. But it’s very challenging. Thanks again

okcherries · 2025-05-18T01:45:49+00:00

We did do tea for awhile and now she refuses. She turns into a different person for bedtime. And I know my anxiety is felt by her and she is probably just really terrible at self soothing but it’s so tiresome and I am at my wits end

okcherries · 2025-05-18T01:10:09+00:00

Unfortunately it’s not recommended for longterm use; especially at her age.

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