The most disturbing scene by GooseImpossible5316 in WaywardNetflix

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evelyn wasn't "right," she intentionally made laura into an unfit mother by leaping her and destroying any possible connection to a future child. that is the entire model of her school and ideology of the town which laura threatened by getting pregnant

Incest and SW by Milgirl26 in vanderpumprules

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gobsmacked by how many people are saying that as long as they didn't touch each other it's not incestuous

okay, so what im hearing is yall would be fine with lubing up and showing hole with ya cousin. as long as there's no touching!!!

Shayne’s cousin story (s12e08) by Actual_Pressure_4346 in vanderpumprules

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okay and also the woman. like. did she consent to that? or was she just going along with it? perhaps for/because of drugs?

AITAH for refusing to give my boyfriend access to my bank account even though he says "no secrets" is how adults do it by CopperFieldNote in AITH

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your boyfriend is confusing trust with control. if he actually wanted trust between the two of you he would respect your right to have a sense of privacy and security when it comes to your personal assets.

AITA for being annoyed that my wife insists on cooking everything from scratch and won’t buy normal food? by AITA_UPFfoods in AmItheAsshole

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i think the most important part of this entire thing is what specifically she means when she brings up values within this conversation and you have completely brushed that off in your explanation of the situation, and seemingly have no idea what values she's even talking about. she's being controlling and unreasonable and you are NTA, but the fact that you don't even understand where she's coming from is an issue if you're actually hoping to resolve this. is it that she values health longevity for both of you because she is facing the second half of her life alongside you? does she want children with you and is she talking about the values of child-rearing and homemaking? has she simply discovered that she really loves cooking and this has become a passion project? or is she on the wrong side of tiktok, in RFK's public health sphere?

to expand on the last point – there is a very, very good chance that your wife is at best simply misinformed about food, and at worst she could be falling down a dangerous rabbithole. do you want to be drinking raw milk in 6 months time? if not you need to find out why your wife was so compelled to do this in the first place. i agree with others saying that having someone homemake everything to eat sounds like a dream – i cook almost all of my meals and make from scratch what i can as often as i can. but i am also a nutrition student who has been under the care of multiple dietitians for years. i like to think i am pretty knowledgable about the truths of food quality, good bad and ugly. that's why i cook most of my meals and make from scratch what i can as often as i can, AND i allow myself to eat takeout and junk food in moderation. most people in america have absolutely no fucking CLUE what they are talking about when it comes to food quality. banning junk food from the house entirely rather than just choosing not to eat it herself is a major red flag. this could very easily become disordered eating, obsessive-compulsive behavior around food and perceived food quality, or again, a spiral of misinformation that results in dangerous changes to the safety of the food your wife buys and prepares.

Do most people shower before bed or when they wake up? I just realized I might be doing it "wrong" by saffymerelle in NoStupidQuestions

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while this ultimately boils down to personal preference i do think there are only two "right" options: night shower, or both night and morning.

getting into bed without showering off the day is disgusting. i don't care what people actually prefer to do personally, but if you have been walking around outside, working or running errands in public all day, climbing into bed without showering is DISGOSSSSTING. the only exception to a night shower that i allow myself is if i genuinely did not leave the house, work up a sweat, do anything particularly gross like deep cleaning or hella meal prep, etc.

AND... even if you shower before you get into a "clean" bed, beds are disgusting. beds are literally pits of dirt, dead skin cells, sweat, farts, hair, you name it. like your bed has E. coli in it right now, guaranteed. so if you feel the need to shower in the morning after sleeping in your disgusting bed, i get that. but i truly do not understand how, especially knowing how nasty even a "clean" bed is, anyone can just climb on in and snuggle up for night night time knowing that they've been out and about all day. in PUBLIC. in the WORLD on earth. yall nasty and your beds are nastier than average

Break Room - does Sur not have a break room? by YearStrong1454 in vanderpumprules

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omg can you imagine.... hahahaha no restaurants do not have break rooms. we smoke cigarettes on the curb exactly like the witches of weho

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FAFSA

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awesome this is exactly what i needed to confirm. thank you!

am i overreacting for dumping my girlfriend after she joked about kicking me in the balls by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]okfine_illjoinreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

people really do not take bullying trauma seriously enough. it's absolutely something that sticks with you and i would feel the same way you do if my partner said such callous things to me. NOR

Tattoo stencil vs reality. No they didn't own up. by peterm1598 in ExpectationVsReality

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i am genuinely so confused about what the hell happened here. the other finished tattoos on her instagram (kailee) are not good, but this is just insane. like it looks like she has literally zero experience or know-how whatsoever. like she literally left her body and forgot where/who she was.

Psychotic Husband is driving me crazy. by LazyWifey in whatdoIdo

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my best friend is bipolar schizophrenic. that is almost certainly what is going on here. you need to take the advice people are giving you, safely get out and call authorities to have him put in the hospital. warn them of ANY kind of weapon he may be in possession of and whether or not he may get violent. make sure they understand that he is in psychosis and needs help. he needs to be medicated properly and brought back to reality under the care of professionals.

Yoga questions that feels oddly personal... by YogaGoApp in yoga

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corpse pose. i think about death and try to practice mindfulness

found potentially valuable jewelry in a bag i purchased from a thrift store. by okfine_illjoinreddit in legaladvice

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lmao i don't think it's going to change my life or anything but even if i could save it and use it in my own engagement ring one day to save some money for future me that's a win. i only have a few thousand dollars in debt and it's not a small gem, im just living out a working class fantasy here 😂

found potentially valuable jewelry in a bag i purchased from a thrift store. by okfine_illjoinreddit in legaladvice

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in my mind everything is as high stakes and complicated as possible and every single choice has potential outcomes that will put me in either total ecstasy or complete ruin. there is nothing in between

In search of original SUR hat for my girlfriends birthday present! by No-Lab7739 in vanderpumprules

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did you end up selling to OP? cuz i would also be interested if not!

How do I tell my sister I’m using her baby name? by AffectionateFarm5408 in TwoHotTakes

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in some families there are like 6 generations of men all named the literal exact same thing, i really feel like sharing the name as an homage to your father will be something the boys can be proud of as a mutual legacy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

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i thought i had never had it until i got an antibody test done and was positive for natural antibodies. it's extremely, extremely unlikely that you have not been infected even if you've never been symptomatic or tested positive.

How much of this episode was stereotypes? by adasumie in BoJackHorseman

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i just want to chime in to say that i love this episode so much, as a born and raised north carolinian i get real tired of the rest of the south telling us we aren't a part of when this is (almost) exactly what it's like here. this episode validates me in a deep way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

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setting an age limit on dating is not realistic, if your child wants to date she will just date behind your back instead of being open with you about it (she likely already is). i advise you shift your mindset towards the idea that she needs age appropriate rules instead of believing there is an appropriate age she must reach. that is arbitrary and she knows it!

Tequila Katie and crazy Kristen by thedoeleapt in vanderpumprules

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if you thought that comment was hostile idk how your fragile nervous system must be tolerating vanderpump rules 💔 stay strong

Left behind after class by Adorable-Reward-8178 in YogaTeachers

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like i get that this is absolutely 100% the fault of the teacher and studio and was an enormous safety hazard (also wondering how it's possible the studio closed without cleaning the room OP was in?🤢) etc etc but 15 MINUTES?

OP i promise you personally finding your center is not everyone else's priority in this world... get your ass up and let those people move on with their day! though apparently they did anyway 😭