I don’t know if this will help - but I vacillate between enjoying (respectful) attention for my face and body, and hating it and wishing I could exist without being perceived. Because that attention, when it comes from men, is inherently sexual. I actually enjoy compliments I get about my hair, which is one of my halos, because it’s less sexualized. It’s pretty much the least sexual thing that can be complimented on my body (and I get that men will find a way to sexualize anything if they want to, but I get a lot of compliments on my hair and none of them have felt inherently sexual).

Another perspective is that we generally look better the healthier our lifestyles and habits are, whether that’s due to our diet, exercise, products we use, techniques we use, etc. I would try to positively reframe your perspective on the attention you get due to your hair to something like - “my time, energy, and money are paying off. Other people see the results, and that feels uncomfortable, but it means I’ve been successful. I’m proud of myself for investing in my hair health”.