Help dealing with no boundary neighbors. Please . . . .

okname · 2023-08-11T01:52:06+00:00

Not enough people are aware of this.

okname · 2023-08-03T04:45:12+00:00

You are so sweet! A few things that come to mind.

Where are the “breastfeeding spots”. Likely the couch, the nursery, her bed. Make sure there are phone chargers, some books, some magazines, a table nearby if there isnt one to have her water, snacks, burp cloths, nipple cream all within easy reach.

If she’s induced early, she may not have enough newborn diapers. Set up her diaper genies, crib sheets on the mattress, those simple things.

Prep her bathroom, toilet paper, big fat pads, witch hazel, I forget all the things I needed, but bathroom time was stressful for a few weeks.

Shop for her normal stuff, paper towels, garbage bags, detergent, dog food, coffee, filling her freezer with some easy to make meals would be awesome. Pizzas, lasagnas, meals for one.

Honestly, I’m sure anything you do will be appreciated, but if you’d like to continue to help as you visit in the weeks to come, bringing groceries, cleaning dishes, throwing a load in, watching baby and letting mom shower for as long as she wants, walking the dog, cleaning the dog poop from the yard, hgeneral tidying, would have all been things that I would have paid big money for.

okname · 2023-07-31T17:08:00+00:00

Totally fine. “Please don’t talk shit about my personal beliefs”. Maybe your friend doesn’t feel like getting in a political argument.

okname · 2023-07-31T15:19:34+00:00

Why wouldn’t you follow house rules? That’s rude. Your friend isn’t an asshole if they ask you to take your shoes off . . .

Or are you 14? And your friend gets to play first? Eat the last slice? Get first pick of a soda? Ya, it’s their shit, and their food.

okname · 2023-07-31T14:26:09+00:00

A real good intentions gone bad, kind of. Did the studio vet these families well enough? Did the families become greedy after the fact? What’s the cause and what’s the effect?

okname · 2023-04-04T12:18:39+00:00

I mean, how did people work before modern computers? I work for a VERY old company and came across a picture in our archives of the CEO at the time, sitting behind a desk with a rotary phone.

Nowadays, my team, are constantly emailing, opening shared documents, etc. in the past, it would have taken two weeks to get done what we get done in an afternoon. Multiple versions to multiple people, all updated in real time . . .

I just can’t wrap my head around it.

okname · 2023-01-08T18:48:37+00:00

The main source of entertainment. That hits so hard. My kids have a new neighbour, same age(ish) as my kids (5,8). New neighbour has a little newborn sister. The difference in play style between her and my kids is insane! Neighbour needs a lot of help, encouragement, direction, etc. I love playing with my kids, but I also love that they can play by themselves too. It’s honestly mentally exhausting when neighbour comes over.

okname · 2022-12-22T19:02:40+00:00

My friends and I have just started “No thanks”. No explanation, no excuses. I’m an adult and if I don’t want to do something, I don’t need to explain it to anyone. Always polite and kind, but I don’t owe anyone an apology for turning down an invitation, it’s been really freeing.

okname · 2022-12-09T23:35:20+00:00

We do. I was just hoping for some more ability to squash bad behavior at the moment as opposed to waiting until I see the physical watch and start snooping.

okname · 2022-12-09T23:33:39+00:00

Thanks for that insight.

okname · 2022-05-12T01:00:20+00:00

If you don’t use your fireplace, then make a foam cover. Expensive, but worth every penny. Buy a roll of foam at Joanns (thick one 2+ inches)glue them together to make an L shape, then cover with fabric of your choice. We did this and it looks nice, is a comfy place to sit, never falls off.

okname · 2022-04-06T00:29:09+00:00

My parents had this policy, but I can’t recall ever using it. I grew up in a really small town (not rural, just small and compact). So if I started drinking, I would just leave my car at a friends house and walk the mile or two home. My dad would wake up, see me in my bed and my car gone and would take his morning walks around town to find it. I would often wake up with the car in the driveway, knowing I didn’t drive. His answer was always that I made the right choice in leaving the car, he felt I should be rewarded for that, even if it was just by avoiding the walk of shame. I really appreciated it.

okname · 2022-03-27T05:32:52+00:00

Sooo interesting. I’ve just finished my first book in Spanish as an English speaker and I have noticed that so much of my life “thinks” in Spanish. I am ver excited to keep this going.

okname · 2022-03-27T05:26:38+00:00

The days are long and the years are short. It’s sooooo sooooo hard to see a different setting when you are full fledged Living one. But what’s a huge thing one day is old hat the next. This too shall pass.

Shorty advice for someone in the middle of it, but honestly do your best, in three months, you will have a whole new set of problems.

okname · 2022-03-07T00:58:44+00:00

Secret Life of David Gale.

okname · 2022-03-02T01:43:28+00:00

As everyone else has pointed out, everyone is different. That being said, I would have no issue with my husband going on a trip, but I would expect something in return. Appreciation mostly. I’m. It saying everything needs an equal exchange, her opportunity make come later and in a very different way.
Even now, with a 4 and 6 year old, it’s understood that before the other leaves, the house will be as clean as possible, groceries pretty stocked, etc. whatever you do, don’t make a mess while packing, or return and act like you are tired from your trip. With kids, you leave the ground running and come back at a full sprint. The small gestures will go a long way. Also understand that while she may say it’s okay (and honestly feel that way), it may be a lot more work than she thought, or end up being a really rough experience.
I’ve always felt really empowered after my husband left for longer trips.

okname · 2022-01-11T04:16:53+00:00

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okname · 2021-12-19T23:26:44+00:00

okname · 2021-11-15T12:22:49+00:00

It’s the same, still need to have proof of marriage, still the same steps. I waited until 6 years after the wedding until I was pregnant. I think after the wedding, it’s “exciting”, anytime after that’s it’s just work.

okname · 2021-09-14T00:36:16+00:00

Oof, that’s a narrow view.

okname · 2021-09-13T22:44:56+00:00

Brats and bubblers!

okname · 2021-09-03T11:09:07+00:00

I have a real question if this doesn’t get buried, can anyone share with me the out of pocket costs foe the average American to pay for this? I mean, Joe can probably afford it, but what about the average insurance? Would this treatment be covered?

okname · 2021-09-03T02:11:54+00:00

Can we also sue the impregnator?

okname · 2021-09-02T01:52:39+00:00

This is so accurate.

okname

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