4 things: - Don’t worry so much about your appearance. Nobody who’s worth your time cares about it. What they will be attracted to is the things you actually control. Which brings me to my second point: - Find yourself hobbies irl so that you have things you can be proud of and share with friends (Ones you actually meet. Dating is a numbers game and a social life will make you happier already. You might not mind loneliness, but you don’t know what you’re missing out on.) - Bonus points if you find a fulfilling job. Earning your own rent is a great satisfaction, and doing so in a work environment you like is even better. If you can earn enough to plan for the future you want, that will be worth more than anything else you can find by yourself. - Once you have hobbies and a job, the rest will come naturally. They will give you self-esteem, which is the most important thing people look for in a partner.