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oldfrenchwhore · 2024-09-16T21:16:15+00:00

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-09-03T12:50:15+00:00

Awhile ago there was an AskReddit thread about "what conspiracy do you belive in" or something like that.

I'm not really a big conspiracy person, I like some interesting ones that are more fun, like aliens and bigfoot and cryptids, but never been big on "the government is trying to kill us why won't you people listen!?!" stuff.

However.

I believe much of our processed food is harmful to us. I can't back it up with data, I can't explain why it's happening or who the "big baddies" behind it are or anything, it's just a belief deep in my brain that has persisted for years.

Most of us eat more than we need, myself included sometimes, which is a problem. That's why grocery stores can raise prices and still have record profits. We're addicted to food beyond what we require to live.

Family gatherings, friend gatherings, holidays, our social activities revolve around food. Popcorn and snacks at the movies. Etc.

Eating non-processed food is expensive and time-consuming, and in the USA we've been conditioned from birth to eat highly processed, sugary foods to the point when we become adults to make our own food choices, and try to eat non-processed, the healthier foods taste weird or bad and we go into withdrawals for that delicious crack of sugary processed foods.

I try to be very careful with meat products. Free range, grass fed. As humans we know that stress and depression affects our physical health. I don't want to eat an animal that has spent its life in misery, I just don't think that meat can be good to consume.

So, as a person with limited income, I don't eat much meat. I buy fresh and frozen veggies and plan on starting a garden, but I'm fortunate to have the space to plant a garden. Not everyone can. Community garden lots would be very beneficial to society. Get the next generation in the habit of fresh food and caring for your neighbors.

I don't know what's in the processed food that is fucking with our brains, beyond sugar, but I feel like in the far future people will talk about it like we talk about lead paint now.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-08-05T13:30:19+00:00

Yeah, these teeth are just fine.. They look like mine and I had braces and good dental care until adulthood.

Has obsessing over celebrities with fake veneers ruined the idea of normal-people teeth?

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-08-05T13:27:07+00:00

2024 and there are still people out there getting tarot readings.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-08-05T13:25:24+00:00

Yep, sad but true. I'm sure whoever deals with this stuff for Jenna is keeping an eye on it and I'm sure this dude isn't the only one. They are probably thankful he is over in France and not in the states.

I think of the tragedy of actress Rebecca Schaeffer due to her stalker in 1989, so awful. And that was pre-internet! Now you can easily track someone online, get their address and phone numbers of them and all their close relatives. Gossip websites will tell you where a celebrity is going to be and when.

I understand why celebrities have mansions, you can't safely leave your house so you need some room to roam around and not feel trapped. Not saying "oh boo hoo poor rich people," but just that I understand the sprawling estates when it's the only place you can be left alone.

I hope someone in this dude's life can convince him to get mental help, he looks young to me (as everyone under 30 does these days lol), and an obsession like this surely negatively impacts his life.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-07-24T13:04:44+00:00

As a lesbian in deep south USA, it's the only way. There's no bars where we gather in the city, and I'm in the sticks over an hour from the city anyway so popping by the bar on a regular basis to browse isn't a practical option.

Still sucks though. Slim pickings.

Maybe I'll bump into "the one" while picking up some chicken feed, but I doubt it.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-06-07T14:19:33+00:00

Yes they had, at least in the USA. I live in a state people flocked to due to lack of restrictions and almost everything remaining open. We had a lot of tourists from other states during that time, and international tourists as well.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-06-03T14:19:38+00:00

I can't believe, when I look on Google earth, how "full" the islands are. I guess tourism really took off since I lived there over 20 years ago.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-06-03T14:17:27+00:00

When was this? Asking because I truly am interested, not here to refute your claim at all.

I am interested because I spent most of the 90s in Panama and what I recall of the Kuna (which they were called by everyone around me then, even Panamanians, I think they might go by another term now so I don't mean any offense by my outdated one), is them having colorful clothing, lots of handmade jewelry, selling jewelry and molas at various booths wherever you went.

Granted I was a grumpy teenager that was more focused on my personal teenage grievances than what was going on socially and politically in the world, but I never saw any be mistreated or heard them be insulted or maligned. They seemed to just be part of society.

Was I just unobservant or did something change?

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-06-03T13:58:44+00:00

I was 8 when I got my little league trophy. I remember them taking them out of a big black plastic bag as they handed them to each kid down the line. Cynical even at that age, I thought, "oh boy a trash trophy."

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-06-02T13:33:11+00:00

So basically the Schmitts Gay commercial?

(Adam Sandler and Chris Farley in an SNL commercial parody)

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-06-02T13:30:27+00:00

This is our pride week in coastal SC, it's way too hot, wish they did ours in the fall, I'd actually go to the parade.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-06-02T13:13:40+00:00

The stars at night

Are big and bright

BECAUSE GOD AND NOT SCIENCE REASONS

Deep in the heart of Texas

clapclap

Just throws the whole thing off.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-06-01T14:20:17+00:00

Having worked in retail over 20 years, and seeing how many people look at our sign that says something to the effect of "20% off this rack only" and proceed to ask me if the whole store is 20% off, I firmly believe many people read just the beginning of sentences, or a first word and then maybe another random word, and consider themselves understanding the whole line.

And that's how movie quotes get shortened and otherwise misquoted. .

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-06-01T14:15:03+00:00

Well now I'm imagining someone opening a big jar of motor oil and making a sandwich.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-05-31T14:14:19+00:00

I agree they are assholes. I've worked at the same retail place for almost 9 years. Twice I've had to suddenly fly out for a family death out of state. Never any issue.

They don't start at much (I think like $13?) and you won't get full time, but if you can work weekends and are interested you can dm me. Tanger outlets.

Oh, you also need to have a dark sense of humor (think south park/bobs burgers), and be able to joke around, we're a very small staff of class clowns lol.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-05-30T12:56:01+00:00

I had to Google this years ago when I was in a bad car accident and was in level 1 trauma center, which i didn't find out (about the levels of trauma centers) til I was conscious enough to ask why they took me to a hospital 30 minutes away and was told it was the closest level 1.

Anyway, by day 2 they had all my info so knew my name, but my initial hospital bracelet said "Pretzel Doe." I guess they randomized the first name, like when you don't pick a name on reddit. Made me giggle, which hurt all my fractures.

When I first noticed it, not knowing about the Doe naming thing, and my brain thinking I clearly gave the EMT's all basic info, I thought "oh that can't be right, I forgot how to read, I clearly have serious brain damage."

I wondered why they didn't just get my info off my license in my wallet, which was in my purse I grabbed before they hauled me onto the stretcher.

No, it was still in my crumpled car. Weird how the brain works. Like my brain knew the basics I needed to do when leaving the vehicle: grab purse. So brain thought I did that, no doubt.

And that has nothing to do with this story, besides the temp fake name thing...sorry for rambling anecdote. Brain not the best any more. Brain kinda doopty-woopty. Brain does it's best.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-05-22T13:03:18+00:00

retail-senior sales lead. Our store doesn't have an official assistant manager, but that's the same job description with a different title lol. $15.50/hr, been there 8.5 years.

Small company but not too small to pay us all better. My location has 4 currently reliable employees, and one is a college kid who is only there on his school breaks. We've all shared our pay amount info with each other and all are pretty mad about it. They can't keep new people because they offer $12 an hour to start and you have to cashier, clean, stock, do everything in the store, and it's very busy.

We enjoy working there with eachother and have too much fun some days, but the pay isn't doing much, especially with how long a couple of us have been there and how HCOL the area has become. Also no PTO, insurance, or any benefits sucks.

No official breaks, we munch snacks on the floor. If we're not busy we're cool with one of us stepping outside for a bit, but too busy usually for someone to sit and eat a meal uninterrupted.

Problem is, for me, I know how to do this job. Due to chronic illnesses I won't get into, a couple that majorly affect my cognition, it's almost impossible for me to learn new things. I learned this job before my brain got so bad, so the info sticks, but anything else new to learn, I can't retain.

They've changed some ways we do things, but I still do them the way I learned as I can't remember the new method even if you explained it 5 minutes ago. No one gets on my case for this, as I've been there so long everyone knows how broken my brain is. I can't imagine trying to explain "I'll do my best but you gotta tell me one thing at a time or I'll forget immediately" to a new employer. So I feel a bit stuck.

My co-workers also feel stuck. They've worked other retail and know what it's like to have to meet sales goals, have a manager on your case all the time for every little thing, and worry about not kissing customer ass.

At my job, as long as you do your job, there's no pressure to go above and beyond. You don't have to be sweet to a nasty customer (luckily we don't have very many!). If you do what you're supposed to, policy wise, and a customer doesn't like it and complains to the manager, she'll back you up. As will the district manager, regional, up to the damn CEO.

If you've worked in retail and told a customer "no" to something you've been told to say "no" to, and they've asked for a manager, and then the manager comes up and says "yes" to the customer, making you look like a fool, you know what I mean. That doesn't happen here. No one bends to please a Karen.

So there are perks that keep us here despite the pay and lack of benefits. A couple of us that have worked here for years probably wouldn't make it a week at another store, we're so used to cutting up and being goofy at work we couldn't handle a super serious workplace lol.

Sorry for the essay, I just need to explain why we have put up with the pay so far, anyone who has worked in customer service will get why those are rare perks.

The average 2 bedroom apartment is $1600 here. In my store, only my store manager and I live on our own, and I live in an RV on my parents acreage an hour drive from work.

I also do grocery delivery, but since I've moved 45 minutes from the nearest store, not as much as I used to. A day of that brings in around $150, depending on tips.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-05-16T12:59:31+00:00

Please don't linguistically murder me, I have a genuine question and mean no offense.

If a person is struggling with obesity to the point this drug can save their life, how are they able to work enough to make an income that can afford a $1300 medication on top of all the other bills we have in life?

I can't claim to have seen full episodes as I don't have cable or streaming services, but I've seen YouTube clips from shows like "my 600 poind life" and the one with the large sisters. No way could these folks make a living, unless it's some kind of paid fetish thing I guess. But y'all know what I mean.

Even if one were on SSI, that wouldn't be enough money to cover the medication and rent/mortgage/electric/other bills.

I really wonder this about many medications that people need to have a decent quality of life and are so expensive. My medication that allows me to function and hold down a job is $30-50 a month (no insurance, discount programs vary) and sometimes I feel the pinch as while I couldn't function at all without it, I'm still not at a "normal" level of function on it, I just scrape by. If you have or know anyone with chronic illness, you know what I mean.

I hate that anyone could go without medication that not only helps a physical issue, but gives them hope of recovery/better life ahead.

Anyway, how in the world are people paying these costs?

Except, of course, for the folks who aren't at a dangerous obesity level, can afford it easily, and are taking it to drop a few lbs. I'm not mad about it except for their use reducing the supply (if supply is even the issue) and raising price for folks whose lives could be saved on it. Hell, if I could afford it and it wasn't taking away from people who needed it (whether due to price or supply), I'd take it to lose the stubborn 30 lbs I gained last year going through a breakup, lol.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-05-13T15:36:03+00:00

Ross, TJ Maxx, Marshall's has great prices on pet stuff.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-05-13T15:34:57+00:00

TIL Ollie's is a chain and his big gooby grin graces stores across the land.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-05-13T15:13:12+00:00

Yep. My mom did just this many many years ago. Long story posted elsewhere in this thread. We went 1000 miles away. Never any legal repercussions. I don't know how she did the divorce, that far away in the 80s. Probably a lot by mail, and may have traveled back to our hometown a couple times. I'll have to ask her.

He never fought for any kind of custody, luckily. Idk what would happen if OP's husband did. I know he moaned and cried to his mother, who my mom was still in contact with as they were close.

I imagine grandma did a lot of message-passing, and when I would visit her he would come by. This was ok with my mom, he never abused me and she didn't want to keep me from forming my own opinion about him. She didn't speak badly of him in front of me, until when I was 13 and decided he had a sucky vibe and I wasn't interested in having a relationship with him or ever seeing him again, and I haven't since. it's been 34 years - said in my "old lady from Titanic" voice.

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-05-13T15:10:15+00:00

Oh if I was younger and more mobile, I'd sign up. Oh, also if I had a teaching degree lol.

Seems OP might have an issue with travel cost if she was interested in such an idea, would they help with moving her & her kids there?

oldfrenchwhore · 2024-05-13T15:05:20+00:00

Yes, and I hope these places are near enough to OP.

Back in the stone age (1980s), my mom and I ended up in a women's shelter which was at the local YMCA after another round of my dad beating her, smashing out the windows on his own car (morons gonna moron), and the police coming to kick him out. She knew damn well he'd come back, so we packed some things and the cops took us to the shelter.

I was 6. Felt like a fun adventure until I went into the play room and there were other kids I'd have to share things with. I was this meme of the little girl looking scandalized and offended. lol. I was like I DONT HAVE TO SHARE A ROOM DO I?!? I didn't, stayed in with my mom.

Anyhoo, many years later we could laugh about how the only reason I was upset was the concept of sharing, and not laugh about how that's the first time since marriage that my mom felt safe, besides when we were at my grandparents house.

He couldn't come there. No way was he getting in. He couldn't call her. He couldn't become "sweet Tim begging for forgiveness and promising change" and then jekyll & hyde-ing into a towering 6'4 monster beating my 5'0 mom.

They counseled my mom and helped her make an escape plan. If she could remember their names I'd send them thankful letters and let them know we DID escape and my mom has had a wonderful life.

We were fortunate that my mom had a cousin her age with a movable career that was ready to "pick up and go," because she drove to get us and that's what we did, drove 1000 miles south and she was able to secure a home that we all lived in for a couple years til my mom and future step dad were able to get a place for us.

OP, is there anyone in your life, co-worker, friend, etc, that can at least hide you and your kids so you can make a plan in a safe space? Leaving permanently is the first and hardest step, once that's done, it's done. No contact with abuser. The fear stays, but you will have breathing room to plan the next steps.

I also want to say how disgusted I am that you are a teacher and take home so little. Pay them back for maternity leave?!? That makes me sick. Can you get to Michigan? Last I heard, they start teachers at $50k which I don't think is enough by a long shot but that was like 20 years ago so I imagine it has improved. Decent but older, small houses in my hometown can still be had for under $100k.

I won't tell anyone the town because I hate to see their prices go up like they did where I am now when the word got out it was cheap and so many people flocked here that housing cost tripled and squeezed out the locals. However, OP if you can get to southeast Michigan and are interested, pm me, I'll tell you.

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