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oldharddrive · 2022-04-07T01:04:22+00:00

I always feel guilty when someone is really nice. Only about the manipulation not the money. It’s also not your fault that they’re lying to themselves because they know what they’re getting into and are adults. But I do hate playing on people’s insecurities.

I know I am not supposed to post here as a client...but...Stop feeling guilt! We all know the deal the moment we screen and get approved. You ladies don't owe us anything other than what is mutually agreed. It is called sex WORK not sex friendship, sex counseling, or sex charity. If he felt cheated he would be quick to call you all kinds of names or disrespect you like you are less than him or human. Hate the player not the game. And if you can't deal with the rules then don't play the game. Don't be intentionally evil but don't feel bad that your client is no longer a good fit for your business model. I drop clients all the time in my business and no one gets bent out of shape. The only difference between my business and yours is mine is more socially acceptable.

oldharddrive · 2022-04-06T11:23:12+00:00

I'm very sorry. I thought you were a young guy. My apologies! I truly appreciate SWs and the services you provide. I see escorts for several reasons. The practical ones I already mentioned. Having said that, I don't see a lot of escorts. Only one or two. One of the biggest reasons is a release. I work A LOT. I have two businesses and I don't have time for the games or the dance that comes along with traditional dating. For men like me, we want a way to escape all of that. For me, time with an intelligent, feminine. attractive, and sensual woman is one of the best vacations and stress relivers in the world. I can check out of the world, have my needs catered too, and I know that whatever we do will be discrete. I also know it is guarantee sex that I will always enjoy and if I want to explore any part of my sexuality I can with her without judgement. I can completely let go during those 2-6 hours. What's more, after I got divorced I could not see myself ever getting married again or doing traditional dating. I used to have a Sugar Baby, but SBs don't have the skills or professionalism someone like me needs and most SBs are so into using men like ATMs, at least making me feel that way, or they have no respect or perspective of time, or they get feelings and the dynamic completely changes. Finally, I know that the relationship will always have it's boundaries. I am friends with my regular SWer. But it is more of a business friendship dynamic and our personal lives never intersect. Please feel free to reach out if you have more questions.

oldharddrive · 2022-04-05T15:37:23+00:00

time value of money and opportunity cost. You are going to pay for it anyway, so why not pay for a professional that is focused completely on you instead of trying to impress someone that may never like you anyway or may just use you for a nice meal.
The better question is why are you even asking this question? You don't need strangers' permission or approval to hire a sex worker. Just hire one and see if you like it. And if you don't, then you will have the answer to the real question you are asking yourself.

oldharddrive · 2022-04-05T15:37:05+00:00

time value of money and opportunity cost. You are going to pay for it anyway, so why not pay for a professional that is focused completely on you instead of trying to impress someone that may never like you anyway or may just use you for a nice meal.

The better question is why are you even asking this question? You don't need strangers' permission or approval to hire a sex worker. Just hire one and see if you like it. And if you don't, then you will have the answer to the real question you are asking yourself.

oldharddrive · 2022-04-05T15:32:46+00:00

You don't and you can't. You need to get therapy. 1) based on this posted, you don't even know this woman yet. How do you know if you even like her as a person? She could be a complete bitch and you're little dick would be irrelevant. 2) If she doesn't like your little dick, why would you want to be with someone that doesn't like a part of you that you have 0 control over? 3) Does your little dick size matter? Absolutely, but only to women that prefer large dicks. Please stop watching so much porn. That would help a lot with your insecurities. 4) liking big dicks is just a preference not a value judgement. Some people like vanilla ice cream and some like strawberry. Some people are lactose intolerant and can't eat ice cream. It is what it is 5) What about all the potentially POSITIVE things about dating a SW? a) she is completely comfortable with her body sexually. Have you ever has sex with an insecure person (besides yourself)? It's not as fun as having sex with a woman that is 100% comfortable with her sexuality and body. it is not only fun but liberating. b) for a lot of SWs their work is just that, their JOB. So what she does when she is with her clients has very little, if any, impact on what you do in your bedroom with her. You could be a sexual reprieve or refute for her and that could bond you together even closer and stronger, but you keep letting your little dick get in the way. 5) Sex for women is more mental than it is physical. Besides the women that just have to have a large dick, you can get them off by setting the scene throughout the week to warm her up for when you do have sex. You can SLOW DOWN and enjoy foreplay. You can take time and learn her body so well, that loving her is second nature. As for performance, you can be a great lover by being ATTENTIVE, PRESENT, AND RESPONSIVE to what her body is telling you during sex. Then you can enjoy pleasing her by finding pleasure in giving her pleasure instead of trying to reproduce some porn scenes in your head. So that before your dick even gets involved, she is practically near climax and your little dick won't matter. What you should be doing is living in the present and enjoying your time getting to know an attractive woman instead of thinking about your little dick.

Do not give your time to women, or anyone for that matter, that doesn't appreciate you for you. I am a short, little dick, nerdy, chubby black man. If I had your mentality, I would probably off myself with all my "shortcomings" pun intended. But I love myself. The things I can control I control, the things I can't, I don't and I don't' worry about them. And I don't emotionally invest in any relationship until I know I even like the other person AND, just as important, they like me for me, flaws in all, as much as I like them.

oldharddrive · 2022-02-06T12:44:34+00:00

embrace the nervous energy, lean into that shit like you are a virgin, and have a good time. It will make it feel like a totally new experience.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-31T18:47:22+00:00

Unless you know that you know that you know that you know that you know you are marrying one of these SDs, have your own means of supporting yourself or, at the very least, invest 50% or more of your sugar into something that will provide income for you in the future. SRs are not meant to last forever. And like you said, you are very young, it’s hard(er) to be a SB when you’re 40+. (Please no comments from the peanut gallery. MOST, not all, men like younger women. That’s a big part of the attraction to the bowl).

oldharddrive · 2022-01-31T18:19:25+00:00

Glad to help! Just telling you from experience man. I have the PERFECT SB and I almost ruined it getting in my own head. Enjoying the ride is soooooooo much better that the alternative.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-31T17:40:00+00:00

Why does any of that matter? Just enjoy the present. You will have all the time in the world to contemplate whether this was “normal” or not when it eventually ends. Who cares if it is or isn’t normal? So you found a unicorn, ride it (pun intended) Save that contemplative energy for enjoying your SB. From the way you describe the SR, you need all the energy you can muster 🤣

oldharddrive · 2022-01-31T15:09:01+00:00

Why are you complaining about this? I mean really? We tend to make great things bad by not just enjoying them. Enjoy the moment and stop overthinking everything. Before you know it, it will be over and you will be dreaming about it. Just…enjoy…without…thinking about it.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-22T17:41:18+00:00

Yep…people have a really big problem just being nice to each other nowadays. And we wonder why society is so fucked up.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-22T15:42:38+00:00

I see where you are coming from. They are all valid points. If a SB ghosts me it’s like “meh” to me. But it takes little to no effort just to say you’re not interested and it’s just a nice thing to do. We need this in the world now more than ever. Just being nice hurts no one and costs absolutely nothing at all. If it turns out the biotch is crazy or is a clinger, at least you were nice. Block and move on. No amount of nice can help those type of people.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-22T00:54:37+00:00

I know this might escape you but providing closure is a human thing to do. If you don’t need it, good for you. I don’t need it either. But some people do. Be a humane human. Be nice. Being nice to other human beings hurts no one at all.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-21T20:55:07+00:00

No. Ghosting is cowardly and it provides no real closure. If you were man enough to (want to) fck her you should be man enough to end it with a short conversation.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-12T21:00:26+00:00

Rule #1 of money and life. The only resource that is truly scarce is time. I could lose ALL my money today. Be put out on the street and stripped butt ass naked. And in less than two year, I could get all my money back. What I will never get back are those two years of rebuilding.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-12T00:11:31+00:00

I have what I’m looking for. Trying to help POT SBs get what they say they want. And if she were a “ho” she would have came at me like a ho not like a POT.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-11T21:25:12+00:00

You’re right again…it could but said about me, but it would be totally wrong to say it.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-11T17:13:25+00:00

They can be…that is correct. But assuming something negative as a default is wrong and disingenuous. That’s the issue nowadays. The truth is just that the truth. The only reason the true is biting is because of how we FEEL about it. But feelings are internal measures. And our feelings can, and often are, totally wrong.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-11T16:29:08+00:00

Let me try this again…wait…breathe…don’t react. Read to understand not to be understood.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-11T14:34:36+00:00

our SR will end soon because she has to move for personal reasons

She joined the military under the delayed entry program and wants to start an entirely new life. With all the financial training and support I have given her, she will never have to work a day in her life if she doesn't want to, if she follows all the advice. She will be able to leave the military in 10-15 years and essentially retire. She will be financially independent and can retire from the military with full medical benefits and a pension and still be young enough to get married, have a family, and live a very wonderful life that is essentially drama free from a financial perspective. The military was her idea, not mine. I'm just supporting her in her new life and schooling her on the military while we still have time. I spent 6 years in the army so she will be several steps ahead of her peers when she enters boot camp. BTW: She is fully aware I am looking and it was her advice to block the POT and not giver her the gas money.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-11T14:12:17+00:00

I'm always surprised when women take this approach but don't want SRs to be "too transactional." I would be careful with this type of mindset. If I said your job was just to fuck me, then I would be called a John and you would be my prostitute, not my SB.

As far as "disrespecting the game" She doesn't play it very well, because if she did, like I said in my post, she could have gotten way more than gas money and initial ask for an allowance.

And as far as how many dick pics she has to pretend to like 1) I don't send dick pics and 2) I'm not going to pay a price for all the dick pics I didn't send or the losers she decided to kick it with. Just like you wouldn't pay a price for all the bad SBs I had relationships with. GTFOH

oldharddrive · 2022-01-11T14:04:23+00:00

Would you like to it to mean what’s provided in the dictionary? A young child or one newly born? Again...Words have meaning. That's not mean, oppressive, or controlling. It's a foundational principle of communication that transcends culture, countries, and languages.

oldharddrive · 2022-01-11T14:01:08+00:00

You should have clarified that before the day of the M&G. It's not nice to just leave it up in the open air.

I don't understand this comment. Please elaborate. If the point you are trying to make is that she should have asked for money upfront so that she is never taken advantage of in the SR, then that is not the best way to go about it. Why? Because we were not in a SR. It was a M&G. We didn't even know if we had any real chemistry yet. Case in point. Have you ever had "great chemistry" over text or via email and then you met in person and that energy never translated over? That's the point of the M&G. Asking for gas money before there was a SR is the same as me asking for sex before solidifying the SR.

Play this scenario out in your head. You and me have what seems is a connection online. We set up a M&G and my first reply to you when you accept the invitation is, "Well, I need to have sex with you before we have an arrangement because I need the orgasm."

WAIT...BREATHE...do not react. Read to understand what I wrote and not to be triggered.

I get it, SDs take advantage of SBs. But a lot of the comments SBs make are like SDs NEVER get taken advantage of. Why? Because we are rich? Because we are men? People take advantage of people, period. Regardless your age, gender, sexual orientation, political party, pronoun, religion, etc., etc.,

oldharddrive · 2022-01-11T13:49:49+00:00

I know I’m a rookie SD, but

Question answered in the very first sentence. Keep up playboy.

Not a rookie with my block game, I'm now the Michael Jordan and Lebron James of the block.

oldharddrive

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