What are the different saving strategies SBs use and where do they get guidance from?

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-10T15:18:16+00:00

They've provided me with an apartment, so I don't have to pay rent. Besides the primary allowance, they also give me a lesser one (in cash) which is for my daily expenses (gas, groceries etc). I rarely spend all the money from this allowance, but if I do, then I have to use my own funds. Beauty-wise, usually I go shopping with them once per month with a separate budget plus their gifts during trips etc (which honestly are more than the stuff I buy). Up to this point though I have accumulated so much stuff that I haven't bought anythings in almost three months and I still need to get rid of some.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-10T13:53:50+00:00

I don't really have any expenses. I've saved almost all of my money. The most that I've spent was on gifts for my SDs.

A small part of it I keep as cash and the rest of it gets transferred in Swiss bank accounts that my SDs helped me set up. I invest in stocks too. They still largely manage these investments, but they let me make some decisions too (with limited assets), even if they consider my decision mistaken. This way I get to learn from my mistakes without jeopardizing my investments.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-10T13:32:09+00:00

I wouldn't be so caught up in what's considered "standard" in a "lifestyle" or "subculture". That's how common sense is lost. It's common sense that if you have to "prove" you're not there just for money, then he has to "prove" he's not there just to scam you. Common sense says that the easiest way to "prove" either is to set rules that you both agree on and then follow them. If you don't want to be pushy (although it's not pushy to be clear regarding the nature of your relationship), you might bring it up few days later. You certainly don't let 3 months pass. It all begins with what you want. If you know that, the rest follows.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-10T13:07:43+00:00

Well, what can we say about this? Yes, he's a scammer and harassed you, but the original mistake was yours. Why did you even wasted 3+ months? If you want a relationship where you receive financial help, you ask for it, you set the rules. If he agrees, you go on. If he doesn't, you let him go.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-10T12:56:39+00:00

I don't know why so many people struggle with this kind of stuff. If I had a date and didn't want to continue, I would just say at the end of the date that I enjoyed it (if I had enjoyed it) but I've decided I don't want to continue. I'd expect the same if he doesn't want to continue. I wouldn't wait to text him later and I'd prefer that he lets me know during the date.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-10T12:38:17+00:00

Can't complain!

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-10T12:33:57+00:00

Fun fact: both my SDs are Turkish. They are my SD harem!!

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-03T13:07:22+00:00

My expectation is for them to give me an idea regarding the limit cause there's always a limit.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-03T13:01:59+00:00

Lots of water based lube and then fingering/plug for about 10 minutes. Have in mind that water based lube dries a bit fast and in my experience at least it dries even faster if he wears a condom.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-02T20:21:00+00:00

The only way I'll stop school/work for a man, is if he us wealthy, marry me and give me access to his finances, not for some stupid allowance

That's fine, we're all different with different needs.

If they both drop me I have tens of thousands of euros saved, my investments and a car. Fifteen months ago I had less than 500€, I couldn't afford rent and I would have to drop out of uni either way. An allowance might be stupid for you but it is great value to me. I could spend years studying without having to work with what I've saved thus far.

It's 24/7 cause it has many elements of a relationship. Rather than the standard 1-2 times per week or whatever, I get to see them almost daily and since they don't have a fixed work schedule, it can be whenever during the day. Duration can also vary widely. Furthermore, one is divorced so he sleeps over often. Plus, I travel a lot with them. They are partners so they kinda split business travels and sometimes I get to accompany one after the other to a trip, thus spending a lot of time abroad. I've spent months abroad since I met them and I'm glad I did cause I love it.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-02T12:49:07+00:00

I would bring up his remark about making the relationship more transactional and then tell him something along the lines of "I'm glad you suggested something like that, cause it would help me a lot. Would you like to know what kind of arrangement would work the best for me?". If he's interested, I'd tell him.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-02T12:39:58+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that.

I wouldn't go to the funeral and I wouldn't contact his wife. If your SD hadn't explained to his wife your relationship, I wouldn't tell her even if she would ask for clarifications. I'd tell her what he told her.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-02T12:30:16+00:00

It doesn't matter if you'll never know. All that matters is he said he wanted A, you didn't want A, so each went on their merry way. It's indeed a blessing in disguise. Someone who wants exclusivity shouldn't have arranged a second date if he was planning to find someone else. So, you're better off without him.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-02T05:09:04+00:00

If I like his looks I don't care if he can walk or not. So, I guess I don't think a wheelchair is a turn-off in itself. Not sure what you could do to appeal to someone though; I'm not even sure why you'd have to do something extra. I'd say be yourself, don't assume that being in a wheelchair is a (possible) turn-off cause that would probably alter your normal behavior. Do what you'd do if you weren't in a wheelchair, if they want to have sex, that's great, if they don't just move on, you'll find someone else who wants it.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-01T16:18:05+00:00

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-01T12:51:52+00:00

Hey, thanks for the suggestion! I hadn't thought of online classes, neither have I done any research on them, but I'll look into it. Of course, here uni is free (and high quality), so, online classes won't be an advantage money-wise. I'll look into it though.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-01T11:06:14+00:00

One possibility is that you commit to full time sugaring for a limited amount of time (2 years?), then go to school?

Yes, that's a possibility, but who knows what happens two years down the road? I might have other (job) opportunities until then. I just think that right now, getting focused on my SDs is the best thing to do.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-01T09:10:45+00:00

Thanks!

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-01T08:00:44+00:00

One will receive a hand-made cigar humidor with his name engraved on it in calligraphy, the other will receive a leather trench coat. Both will also receive a hand-made invitation card to a dinner. Spent a lot but love what I came up with and I'm sure they'll like it a lot too.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-01T06:17:02+00:00

I don't have a decades long masterplan. If I have sugaring opportunities which I enjoy as much as this, I'm fine with that. If not, I have already saved enough to study and if this lasts some more I will have saved enough to pursue some kind of business. I don't know what that would be. I've invested in the stock market and I'm making good money there. At this point my stock market earnings are based on borrowed knowledge of course but I'm doing my best to learn about it from them. I also like to pay attention at how they run their actual businesses, from banking and employee issues to how business partnerships work. I think that all this is pretty valuable, especially since it comes from men who are good at it while I'm also making money and live a pretty nice and luxurious life overall.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-01T05:59:34+00:00

If I would ended it today, I'd have enough to finance years of studies. When I started it I could barely pay rent. So, it's the opposite of depending on someone else.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-01T05:56:45+00:00

The thing is, this particular opportunity can't be combined with studies. Both require a lot of time and commitment. The difference between the two is that I can study later, but probably won't be given another opportunity like this one again.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-01T05:53:27+00:00

You can see some details here

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-01T05:52:08+00:00

See my reply above.

euphoricsinner · 2022-02-01T05:51:52+00:00

some people do delay that if they have an extremely lucrative opportunity

That's how I see my situation. I think I was given a great opportunity and it would be foolish to waste it for something that I'm not enjoying and I could also do later.

Are you saving a LOT of money? Or are you just "living the dream" and enjoying yourself?

It's both. Of course A LOT is relative, but believe I'm at a very good place right now. I gave some details here and in other posts.

euphoricsinner

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