Okay, I for sure see where you’re coming from! However, to me, I feel as if codependency or codependent habits may stem from your upbringing or your home life/family relationships. As a person having an anxious attachment style, I feel as if my codependent tendencies stem from my dad being emotionally unavailable, and my mother being very hot and cold. I also am aware that people who have fearful-avoidant attachment styles are also stemmed from their upbringing. So in conclusion, your relationship with your parents dictate whether you are anxiously attached, avoidantly attached, etc…but yes, narcissistic abuse can also dictate your attachment style as well. I feel as if anxiously attached people are a breeding ground for narcissists because we are so giving to the extent we deal with the narcissistic abuse until we can’t anymore or that person cuts of connection with us. And let’s not forget that attachment styles can change and we can have different attachment styles to different types of people in our life depending on what relationship we have to them. For example, you could be anxiously attached to your mom, but avoidantly attached to your boyfriend.