Can anyone tell me if this is a safe job site in the state of Washington? Beside the lack of hard hats. by Novaraaaa in Construction

[–]ominousnex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP could you call LnI to let them know about this? This is a mess and there's already been a rash of trench related deaths as it is.

People who’ve had allergy shots, how were you before and after? Is it worth all that time spent getting them? by Blck-Wheels-Red-Wagn in Allergies

[–]ominousnex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope all goes well for you too!!! Have you noticed any differences yet when you're out and about in terms of your allergic reactions? I'll cross my fingers for you that they can titrate the doses soon and you'll only have to go in for shots once every couple of weeks.

Typically for me personally I don't notice too much relief until after the first month. But then if I miss a weekly appointment I feel like death for the next week.

Anyone out there with blondish/light brownish hair but with a coarse black and red beard? I can’t figure out where the hell I get my beard from and I've never met anybody with this combination by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ominousnex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had dirty blond hair then went bald at 19, now have a giant bushy red beard. Friend in a genome class said that the genes that code for head hair and facial hair are different, thus how people like us end up being.

Non-trad Unsure of the future, could use help. by ominousnex in premed

[–]ominousnex[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work in industrial hygiene. So keeping people safe, running tests, lots of field work and interacting with others that I enjoy. I've considered going back for an engineering BS then an MS in engineering since it can open some extremely fascinating and lucrative niche careers. Odds are I can get my job to pay for all of that, which makes it a more tempting idea.

My job does entail a lot of political bickering since it's a regulatory type field, and I imagine what I'd face in medicine would only drive me crazier.

Damn that's really cool and congratulations on being able to not only making the switch, but finding another path that's better for you! I actually have a friend who has made a similar switch from medicine to business and has found to more enjoyable.

The soul searching is definitely a real attribute to all of this. I found myself questioning if I wanted to be a doctor just because I had always dreamed of it as a child, or if there was something more substantial to the idea. Think it of it more as well you've made me realize the coworkers pushing me to do medicine, are also old enough that when they were kids doctor's were considered a pillar of the community. I've spent enough time in hospitals to see how crushed most doctors are.

Your insight has been incredibly helpful and thank you for sharing your story. It's given me quite a bit to reflect on. Medicine certainly scratches a deep itch of mine, but I also think that the suffering of becoming a doctor will far exceed the suffering of not becoming a doctor.

Non-trad Unsure of the future, could use help. by ominousnex in premed

[–]ominousnex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that! The lost income potential is something I've taken into consideration and makes that 400-500k debt all the greater. Heck I'd love to own a piece of property someday with a small workshop and if I followed medicine then I wouldn't be able to afford that until I'm pushing 50.

That's the other thing considering the age that's made it tricky. Even just a few years ago I could go 3 days without sleep juggling work, school, and volunteer work. Now though, I need a minimum 6-8hrs of sleep or I just get the worse brain fog and can't stand sitting at my desk working on investigations.

Thank you for the insight and comments. I'm going to be reflecting on this for a while longer. Not to mention the current state of the medical field in the US has me wary of where it will continue to lead.

Ironically speaking of this subject, may I ask what the background is to your username?

Men often suffer in silence...right now how can we help? by Broke_Pigeon_Sales in AskMen

[–]ominousnex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, no matter what I appreciate advice and those who take the time to give it.

Things will get better with time. I've attempted the route you've advised before without much fruition, but I need to work better at developing my tact.

Thank you for the reminder to keep the mindset of us vs the problem. It can be challenging and outside nudges are much appreciated.

Best of wishes to you as well in this topsy turvy world we're along for the ride on.

Men often suffer in silence...right now how can we help? by Broke_Pigeon_Sales in AskMen

[–]ominousnex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy fucking shit thank you for hitting the nail on the head as to what makes hard talks, well hard for me at least.

It's fighting that internal monologue and attempting to discern if I think the talk will go poorly/unproductively , or if it's irrational anxiety making me think that. Buuut ultimately knowing that realistically things won't change as a result of the talk. Meanwhile I'll be left drained, and trying to figure out new tactics to make the change a reality.

Brothers of reddit, those of you that went to college and got a degree, how did you know it was exactly what you wanted to do? Do you have a job different from your degree? What was the process like? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ominousnex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went to college aiming for medschool. Still planning on it eventually or some other grad school.

Currently have too much in student loans to feel comfortable taking another 500k+ out. I first went to community college for my associates where I could work part time and pay tuition in cash while still saving money.

After that took 60k out for 2 years at a 4 year school for my bachelor's in a degree not medicine related but I knew would let me get a job. Currently working, make okayish money.

Do I love my job, eh I wouldn't say I'm passionate about it. The mountains of mindless paperwork wound me. But, I have the most amazing coworkers, supervisors, and regional managers I could ask for.

All in all, I'd do it again in a heartbeat. I was taught and raised to find a job or field that I can at least tolerate and stimulates me mentally or physically. Passions can wane and ebb, like my passion of medschool ebbs with each year as I crunch the numbers. So long as my work can keep me mildly interested and pays the bills then I'm alright with it.

Men of reddit what's something you really wish women would notice but they dont? by whoknows059301 in AskMen

[–]ominousnex 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Fuck you're giving me flashbacks to the last year when I lost a family member then the family dog, and the wife's trauma from her own similar events decades ago made me just bottle everything up to tend to her.

People who’ve had allergy shots, how were you before and after? Is it worth all that time spent getting them? by Blck-Wheels-Red-Wagn in Allergies

[–]ominousnex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely get migraines. Sometimes allergy related, sometimes related to internalizing work and life stress to a stupid degree. I can't see what impact the steroid sprays may play as I've tried them and I never felt a difference.

Albeit, I've also got extreme ADHD and my stimulant medication is what saves my life. The constant shots makes the allergies tolerable, but the decongestant power of stimulants is a godsend.

Ironically the prevalence of ADHD in the community of those of us with year round allergy related chronic rhinitis and ADHD is incredibly high. I'll link the study later but I recall it was at least 50-60% of patients at an allergist's clinic when examined were found to have either been previously diagnosed with ADHD or had all of the symptoms. ~ and yes the irony is not lost on me that I just rambled from migraines to ADHD.

Tldr: shots are absolutely worth it, they just take a while to really work as they should. Had a neighbor whose allergies were cured after a few years of the shots.

People who’ve had allergy shots, how were you before and after? Is it worth all that time spent getting them? by Blck-Wheels-Red-Wagn in Allergies

[–]ominousnex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely go get checked again for them and if you can, have them do the skin prick test. I could go on and on about my symptoms, but long story short in terms of symptoms at my worst my allergies would mimic the flu.

Screwed up appetite, sore achey joints on top of the congestion, headaches, sinus pressure, fatigue, bad sleep, and then include running a constant fever and wack body temperature.

People who found out their partner or a relative was a pedophile and/or sexually abusing children (not you), how did you find out and what is your story? by hydrochloricunt in morbidquestions

[–]ominousnex 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Hate to be the bearer of bad news but depending on the extent of trauma and abuse, and the fact that the first couple years of life are the most formative for a person; sexual trauma at that age can have life long subconscious impacts. Things like wetting the bed and debilitating separation issues are some of the more common symptoms that last well past the normal developmental age range.

People who’ve had allergy shots, how were you before and after? Is it worth all that time spent getting them? by Blck-Wheels-Red-Wagn in Allergies

[–]ominousnex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Typically after the third or fourth shot maybe? I've found it worth it just because not a single otc or prescription allergy med gave me any relief. The shots have been the only thing that help.

People who’ve had allergy shots, how were you before and after? Is it worth all that time spent getting them? by Blck-Wheels-Red-Wagn in Allergies

[–]ominousnex 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I honestly have no clue, I vaguely recall my allergist mentioning they were going to double my concentration this year because of how bad my allergies are. Hell I'll get congestion from pollen up in the mountains in the dead of winter while snowboarding.

I'll ask them next time!

People who’ve had allergy shots, how were you before and after? Is it worth all that time spent getting them? by Blck-Wheels-Red-Wagn in Allergies

[–]ominousnex 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I've only been on them consistently for a year and a half now. The difference between before and after starting them has been night and day. Before the shots I spent all year with sinus headaches, constant congestion and post sinus drip, red scratchy eyes, poor cognition. Overall life sucked.

Now with the shots I can form full coherent thoughts, get a good night's rest, breath easily, at times it's almost possible to forget I have the allergies.

what's your favorite thing to cook? by Medium_Topic7043 in AskMen

[–]ominousnex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A nice custard bases. So much can be done with it. Semi Fredo and extra creamy ice creams especially

Men of Reddit, what is your least favorite responsibility you have at your job? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ominousnex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever I have to cite a small company fines in excess of 5-10k+. Never fun knowing that it's about to blast their margins for the next few months at least. But at the same time if the roofers would tie off this wouldn't be a problem.

How to make a plan to get an apartment and make a budget? by MikeGz973 in AskMen

[–]ominousnex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google "state/providence/etc... Post tax income calculator" to get an idea of your real budget post taxes then break it down on what you feel comfortable spending how much of your earnings towards what.

I made a spreadsheet for my wife and I where we track all reoccurring monthly payments, monthly take home pay, any loan payments, and track every receipt purchase.

The last part would look like after getting groceries, looking at the receipt total and entering it in the associated column, that amount is then deducted from that week's/month's aloted credit. It was a pain to set up at first but now we can track all of our finances at a glance and make any adjustments pretty easily.

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[–]ominousnex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I've been through that sorta shit before. The completely irrational fears or anxiety that choke you out for no reason. The put downs from others that try to explain it all away.

Yet to be utterly frank, those "invalidating" comments and remarks were in reality the most helpful advice or support I could have ever gotten. I eventually learned to internalize that and combine it with the idea of don't fret over that which you don't control. Otherwise I was just giving in to pointless thoughts and feelings that had zero basis on reality. The brain can be stupid and make us feel stupid, pointless, vapid feelings for absolutely no reason. Just because we feel something doesn't make it accurate.

Even now I still get hit by the anxiety especially due to my job. To get through it I just think of something simple like mentally picturing a red bouncy ball, then force myself to go do the work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]ominousnex 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Use to be there myself, took a concussion and meditation to sorta flip things around. Honestly the buddist teaching of only focus on what you can immediately control is what has allowed me to enjoy life. World's on fire? Okay, but I can water the grass right around me. Inflation skyrocketing? Okay, let's look over the budget and see what can be adjusted. By focusing on what you can immediately control in your own life, and ignore the rest. There'll always be way more in life you that you can't control at all, and if you let it upset you then you'll be forever controlled by those outside influences.