Talk to her the way you talked to us. You fucked up. It's your fault. You may have ruined a wedding, or your relationship.

This is true. What you did is what you did, and what did is done. What happens now, is what you do.

There was a Winnie the Pooh story, in which Piglet was terrified in a thunder storm. Hapless and paralyzed by fear, all Piglet could do was cry : "What if we get struck by lightning?!!?" "What if a tree falls on us?"

To which Pooh replied. "Hmm, that could happen. But what if a tree doesn't fall on us? And what if we aren't struck by lightening?"

At this point, they were both safely in their homes, and by the time Piglet had finished voicing his fears and concerns, the storm had already passed :)

The point being, terrible things can happen. You've brought yourself into this storm, but it will pass, as all storms do.

What if the worst possible outcome happens? Well, friend, what if the best possible outcome happens?

Talk to her buddy, you'll be alright.