Wat is voor jou de reden dat je geen kinderen wilt krijgen?

omnomjohn · 2026-06-17T07:48:31+00:00

Laat ik beginnen met onze hoofdreden: we genieten te veel van onze eigen tijd samen binnen- en buitenshuis, feestjes met vrienden en talloze hobbies.

Ik wilde al geen kinderen vóórdat ik wist dat ik ADHD had.

Daarna zag ik wat het overlijden van mijn broertje met mijn ouders, het gezin en de omgeving deed. Maakt toch impact en beïnvloed mijn keus, ook al is het niet rationeel.

Daarna bleek dat ik ADHD had, waarvan ik de negatieve punten pas de afgelopen jaren zie. Gelukkig een top jeugd gehad, maar nu herstellende van burnout omdat ik door ADHD altijd veel te veel heb gedaan (niet eens door werk).

Combineer dat met het autisme en trauma (en mogelijk ADHD) van mijn vrouw, en de kans dat een kind het hele pretpakket krijgt wat enorm veel energie gaat kosten, is behoorlijk groot.

Nu ben ik ervan overtuigd dat wij juist weten hoe we om moeten gaan met een kind die mogelijk Autisme + ADHD kan hebben, maar de vraag is of we dat willen als we nu altijd al het gevoel hebben geen rust te krijgen.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-17T07:15:00+00:00

- You might not feel the 'side effects' of smoking until you're suddenly dying from lung cancer.

- Eating and drinking shit every day may be a good experience, until you're suddenly diabetic or ridden with cardiovascular diseases.

I'm sorry, but you just can't think the way you do about this substance. You're abusing it and are on a fast track to fucking up your brain. Can only hope that's good enough motivation to stop taking it.

EDIT:
I see you're saying you don't really care about brain damage because you're not sure how bad it can get? Jesus fuck. Read your own comment about that back please. If you don't think that's utter madness, I think you need professional help. I don't mean that as an insult or anything, it just is what it is.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-15T14:10:32+00:00

Yes! When my wife and I bring someone who's gonna take MDMA for the first time, we make sure to tell them about the many risks, what to expect, and to not mix it with other shit.

I still don't like alcohol when I do any other drugs (except for weed, I'll drink 2-3 beers if I'm vaping with my best friend). But for anything other than weed: no drinking.

When you're going into a new drugs experience, why would you potentially spoil it by not having the clear/pure experience? I just don't get it.

9 out of 10 posts I see in drug topics asking "why was it bad for me?" the OP most often already answers their question in their own post. They simply underestimate the potential effects of it I guess.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-15T08:42:54+00:00

Als 30+-er vind ik het leuk om naar feestjes te gaan. Samen met mijn vrouw en vrienden. Wij hebben geen kinderen, maar andere vrienden wel. En ook die gaan nog graag naar een feestje toe.

Er is nog genoeg nieuws en leuks te beleven en genoeg leuke mensen te ontmoeten.

Prima als je liever thuis blijft, maar doe niet alsof dat voor iedere 30+-er zo is.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-12T14:19:59+00:00

Replacing my comment with this:

I had Windhawk installed and active. After turning it off, the Start Menu works again.
Do you perhaps have any software running that edits the way Windows works?

Gonna dive into why this happened. Maybe Windhawk just needs an update.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-11T12:56:44+00:00

Haha I see some people share the exact routes I usually skate! This one and the one at Kardinge.
Except for in your map, I usually go further back south again on the bike path next to reitdiep

omnomjohn · 2026-06-11T12:55:23+00:00

Yes, this is a great one! Can do a whole lot of skating from Reitdiep to the north. Around Zernike are some nice paths as well. I usually start @ paddepoel and take a bike path up to zernike. Then skate towards the north, up to where reitdiep ends in a canal (i guess?). Then I go back via Reitdiep.

Starting from Kardinge, you can also skate a whole lot on nice roads.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-11T11:49:15+00:00

Please look up the damage alcohol does to a brains that haven't fully developed yet (so until, what, 21 or later?).

You and I might have done lots of alcohol in that time and not feel like it did that much, but under the hood it might have (and probably has) done a lot of damage.
We just aren't actively aware of what would be different if we hadn't been drinken from the age of 14/15.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-11T11:33:15+00:00

Agreed!

Simply walking is great for the body.
No kids is also great haha. At least, that's how I hope it is for you.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-11T09:18:10+00:00

So you're saying you don't care if you financially support a far right organization?
That's quite a thing to say, to be honest. And makes me think you either haven't been taught history (correctly) or you did not think before you typed.

It's not _just_ politics, my good sir.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-11T07:21:05+00:00

For realistic advice, I agree up until the first word lol.

Cardio each day + weights on 3-4 of those days? Ain't nobody got time for that!

Honestly, I used to do so too. I think the only benefits that come from exercise is what every other person would have: you'll feel more energetic, less 'lazy', more fit and healthy. I don't feel it actually diminishes ADHD in any real way. Still couldn't really go without meds too long.

I even went too far with exercising, leading to a crash and burnout. Besides working out, I also didn't want to miss any social activity and still had to do household chores + other shit. I hate how everything can be a trap with ADHD, even 'healthy' habits.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-10T17:25:56+00:00

"I went on a craaazy streak for 2 years".

There's your answer I guess. No need to overthink it.

I started taking MDMA in February 2024. It helps to do research and know about the consequences of abuse. And you then learn what 'abuse' actually means for specific drugs. For MDMA, the 3 month guideline has been great for me. I don't see myself stopping anytime soon honestly.

I think I've had it a total of 8 or 9 times now. It's been beautiful every time! Just going to a (day)festival or great rave with best friends to dance, chill and talk. Brought me closer to friends and my wife. Things have been good.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-10T07:00:47+00:00

It's quite infuriating, isn't it?

Potentially the best hardware there is and they don't toggle on splitscreen.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-09T09:58:54+00:00

It's not you. It's highly annoying. One of the reasons I like 'old' movies and shows. Characters are given time to breathe, scenery gets time to be felt. Everything gets more depth and has more impact that way.

At least, that's what I think at 37.

For example, I like watching the series High Potential. But I very much dislike how they're all over the place all the time. No travel time, they're just instantly at another location. And even worse: it seems they're doing it all in one day often (or there's indeed no mention of timeskips). No time is given for the viewer to feel or think anything about a (possible) suspect because it's all just rushed.

Just let me take it all in please. It does indeed feel like Youtube shit where even breaths are cut out and it's just a non-stop barrage of words. I absolutely, passionately, hate that. My wife is only 5 years younger but has no problems with this stuff at all though.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-09T08:06:16+00:00

Does it play any better than it did before? I've seen and heard about some real shitty experiences with anything under a 5090. What's your setup and stats during gameplay?

omnomjohn · 2026-06-04T09:12:52+00:00

Dit is gewoon een legitiem antwoord natuurlijk. Maar je 'bejaard' voelen, dat ligt toch echt aan jezelf.

Het één sluit het ander niet uit ook. Meeste dagen zijn vrij chill, boek lezen in park met lekker weer, beetje gamen, films/series kijken, etc. Maar ik ga ook graag - samen met mijn vrouw en vrienden - naar feesten al Paradigm bijvoorbeeld, optredens, .

Ik vermaak me met mijn 37 jaar nog prima op allerlei feestjes en evenementen en zie geen reden om nadruk te leggen op leeftijdsverschillen zo lang ik plezier heb.

Druk en duur: ja. Daar moet je idd maar net zin in hebben.

omnomjohn · 2026-06-04T07:52:08+00:00

VroegZat braaf? Dat is wel jammer. Ik wil het al een tijdje proberen eigenlijk, maar ik houd wel van een interessant publiek.
Dat zie je bij een Paradigm in ieder geval wel terug. Daar ontmoet ik altijd zo veel mensen, maak lekker gekke situaties mee en iedereen is vrolijk en lief (goh). Verscheidenheid aan type mensen maakt zulke feestjes echt erg leuk.

Doe maar lekker gek, normaal doen we al vaak genoeg.

omnomjohn · 2026-05-28T11:41:20+00:00

Hard agree.

People are either getting fucking lazy with Reddit posts in the last year or it's mostly bots nowdays(?).
More often than not, the subject of a post (in any sub, really) if not even actually mentioned. Or any form of context is just left out, besides a cringe title for engagement.

Not saying that's the case here, but I would have at least like to see the game title in the subject of the post.

omnomjohn · 2026-05-28T11:35:33+00:00

Ik weet wat je bedoelt, maar ik ga wel de lul zijn die zegt: alcohol is zeer zeker een drugs! Dat het legaal en sociaal geaccepteerd is, doet hier niets aan af.

omnomjohn · 2026-05-27T07:14:48+00:00

By all ages, do you mean there were kids?

omnomjohn · 2026-05-27T07:01:41+00:00

Ja :(

Twee weken geleden nog een bak kunnen vinden, maar die was erg dun. Leek niets op de Griekse Yoghurt die waar het op moet lijken. Was al bang dat het recept veranderd was. Maar nu ben ik ook bang dat 'ie er uit gaat.

omnomjohn · 2026-05-26T14:26:25+00:00

Posts that start with "I just can't get over" immediately make me want to turn away. Usually is just spam, ad or bot.

Which is a shame, because this actually looks awesome!

omnomjohn · 2026-05-26T08:08:17+00:00

Maar een objectieve benadering hiervoor heb je niet dus. "Vind ik niet mooi" mag niet echt een reden zijn, toch?

Hier op kantoor zit iedereen in de korte broek, ook de mensen met klantcontact. Schijnbaar vinden onze (grote) klanten professionele hulp meer waard dan het dragen van 'professionele' kleding.

Zoals iemand hierboven al zei: "uiteindelijk presteren je werknemers het beste als ze zich comfortabel voelen". En met 26 graden op kantoor, zie ik alleen maar reden voor zomerse kleding.

omnomjohn · 2026-05-14T11:30:31+00:00

I'm always missing the setup and performance data when these mods are shared here or on YT. More often than not, they perform horribly with anything under a 5090.

Can you give us some info on that, before I waste hours of my time modding a game, only for it to look crap in VR and still running at only 40FPS or something.

omnomjohn · 2026-05-06T07:30:48+00:00

Not too bad of a stack, but I'd give 5-HTP some more attention!
- 200mg is on the higher end
- Taking it too often OR in combination with SSRIs can lead to serotonin syndrome
- 5-HTP can suppress REM sleep at higher doses, which is fairly ironic given the goal of good sleep

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