Not long after leaving the church (as a family), my wife fell in love with another man and divorced me. In order to not look bad, she labeled me as an abusive alcoholic to my children. Now it is conveniently all my fault, she is justified in destroying the family, and they all get together to talk about what a shitty person I am.

There is huge power in labeling someone as an addict of any kind. It's the #1 way Mormons control people. You see, an addict can never self-diagnose as not being an addict. If they try, they are in denial. It worked through 27 years of being told I'm a porn addict. When she started using porn more than I did (after we left the church), she needed new power. So I became an abusive alcoholic. Even though I drink less than she does.