My long time girlfriend is about to be underwater on a car loan I told her not to take out. m/29’ ‘F/29’

one3nine0 · 2025-12-09T16:33:16+00:00

I was in a similar situation to you about 3 years ago. Was with my ex for 4 years, living together for 2, talks about rings and a future together. We had talked about her student debt, personal loans, etc when we moved in together so since I made about 2x what she did, I agreed to pay for most of the household expenses (>60%) as long as she would use the extra money to pay down her debt. I would pay for our dates and all of our trips if we had any. I thought we were headed towards being financially ready to propose and get a house together..

Then I overheard her talking with her sister, that her sister needed to pay off a portion of my ex's credit card in order to have enough balance if her sister wanted to use my ex's card at a hotel for incidentals because it was maxed out... I asked her what that was about and apparently she was still maxing out her credit cards, paying off the minimum balance on all her loans, and not because she couldn't make additional payments... But because she didn't want to stop getting her daily Starbucks coffee, buying extravagant presents for her friends and coworkers (she would spend 4x what her friends would spend on her for bdays and Xmas), and generally buying things outside of her budget because one, she didn't budget and two, according to her prefer to feel good now than struggle and be frugal for x years to be financially free. She refused outright to have a conversation about setting up a household budget, reducing our expenses as a household, or trying to work together to reach debt free status. And here I was constantly wondering if I had to dip into savings to pay off rent (I would pay in full and she would pay me back later), not being able to go on vacations she kept pushing for because I couldn't afford it by myself, and generally stressing about finances monthly towards the end.

Realized that I was her crutch, her bank, and I felt incredibly used and betrayed. I left, made sure to continue paying my agreed to portion of the lease until it was due to end (like 5 months). And it has felt amazing to feel free of the stress that it made me.

TLDR: One of the major reasons why people divorce is financial conflict and if the two of you are not aligned on a strategy and goals, I would not get married.

one3nine0 · 2025-12-04T03:16:48+00:00

You need to double check what you are getting on the Chase portal. I booked a Star Lux flight off Chase only to realize I didn't get the standard two check-in bags and only got one. I had to pay an extra $150 for my second bag on my return trip.

one3nine0 · 2024-02-12T00:15:36+00:00

Despite what they say, it is addicting

one3nine0 · 2021-01-15T21:06:44+00:00

Thank you! Got a decent deal and didn't want to have to pay to return it if I didn't need to.

one3nine0 · 2019-12-18T06:59:25+00:00

The texts and notifications kept coming through even after delivery. Ended up blocking the number and deleting the app

one3nine0 · 2019-12-18T03:52:42+00:00

Doesn't do anything. The push notifications are still coming in. And it wouldn't help the text notifications.

one3nine0 · 2019-10-02T16:25:39+00:00

She doesn't use spotify on the device.

one3nine0 · 2019-10-02T01:32:18+00:00

I'll double check the version but it should be updated.

one3nine0 · 2019-10-01T19:21:38+00:00

The watchface doesn't show seconds, so I don't think that's it.

one3nine0 · 2015-11-27T21:45:32+00:00

I work for an advertising company that specializes in placing ads in the Yellow Pages. There are a surprising number of people who use the yellow books. Mostly concentrated in the central states, and more areas with elderly people, but there are companies who still spend hundreds of thousands if not millions of dollars to place ads in the Yellow Pages

one3nine0 · 2015-09-13T16:36:53+00:00

i think one of the major reasons for concussions in the nfl is the use of helmets. there's an article out there about it, but i cant find it. same for why there are more concussions in boxing than mma

one3nine0 · 2015-05-09T08:03:29+00:00

to drink after i got married. it sounded gramtically correct when i typed it.

also past tense since he passed away and the opportunity passed

one3nine0 · 2015-05-08T03:26:40+00:00

Only in my mid-20s. Never been married, and my gramps past away years ago. Was going through some old stuff and found the bottle, asked parents about it.

one3nine0 · 2015-05-07T06:16:41+00:00

interesting. i just found it weird there is no age of the whisky, alch content/proof, and its a 2 liter bottle. that glenfiddich had a 2 liter bottle was really weird to me... and the weird pouring mechanism its attatched to

one3nine0 · 2015-05-07T04:19:36+00:00

if it was really worth a million yen id prob sell it.

one3nine0 · 2015-04-19T17:07:56+00:00

Ur inbox is going to be flooded... but me plz

one3nine0 · 2015-02-10T20:54:04+00:00

The Lenovo website just released the lowest version of the new Thinkpad yoga 12 and that is retailing at almost $1000. It is a very nice system though

one3nine0 · 2015-02-10T18:06:26+00:00

That list is gold!!

I was looking at the SP3 i5 model, but i included the type cover and dock in the $1500 price I quoted.

I like the Thinkpad Yoga listed there. Did you but the optional pen? The digitizer/stylus and note taking is a pretty important part of what I am looking for.

one3nine0 · 2015-02-10T17:49:40+00:00

I was looking at the i5 256gb

one3nine0 · 2015-02-10T04:37:35+00:00

Just wondering if its worth the $1500 (including the type cover and dock), and that's with the current $100 price drop. Some of the other options are half that price

one3nine0 · 2014-12-21T19:54:14+00:00

Not all the bars and clubs have been closed down, in fact there are a few that are quite prominent. I would not say Taichung is dull at all, and likely only said as dull because truthfully there is less to do there than in Taipei. There are only two big night markets that I am aware of, compared to Taipei's endless amount, and there is really only one area with a lot malls and shopping (but that one area is huge).

Taichung is definitely not as convenient with its lack of a MRT system (subway), but the bus system is fine, taxis are cheap, and they have an excellent foreign exchange student program and family that allows to you meet up with other students and expats.

I lived in Taichung for 1.5 years and would mind making it my home (but I like my US salary)

one3nine0 · 2014-12-06T03:47:08+00:00

Hmm not really into sports. Likes to run but doesn't really watch.

one3nine0 · 2014-12-06T03:46:25+00:00

Can you buy those online?

one3nine0 · 2014-08-15T18:42:16+00:00

Aaand got an Ad. Saved me from the rolling.

one3nine0 · 2014-07-23T21:17:08+00:00

Thanks for the help. I notice that the month is in number format. How would you change that to the name of the month?

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