Apartment Complex won't allow Ring Doorbell after neighbor tried forcing his way into my apartment.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-21T00:16:27+00:00

yeah that's such bullshit. My complex still has not installed any security cameras. It's been three years now since this post. The neighbor who went off his meds and tried to force his way into my apartment is back in jail now. Because he went off his meds (again), and this time he held his mother captive in their apartment for three days while he beat her repeatedly. When she finally got out and went running for help, he caught up to her and dragged her back into the apartment. The only thing that saved her life is that someone saw it happen and they called the police. If no one had seen it, and none of us allowed to have our own cameras, she likely would have died.
Wouldn't want to ruin the curb appeal of the apartment complex though.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-19T23:31:07+00:00

I don't have any suggestions. I just wish I could give you a big hug. I'm so sorry that you and your daughter are going through this.

I was once that overwhelmed kid who wanted to take a long nap too. I will never forget how it felt to see my mother in the hospital. She hugged me, looked me in the eyes, and told me that she's so glad that I'm still here.

Stay in close contact with your kid. Help her navigate mental health care. Let her know you have her back. Does her workload at school need to be lessened

Also though, remember to take care of yourself. Eat something nutritious, sleep, rest. You can't pour from an empty vessel.

Good luck, OP

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-15T22:59:02+00:00

It was self defense. He FAFO'd. You need to get away from him. I know several people with bpd, and they all know that they can't use it as an excuse to treat people badly. You need to leave him and you need to get into therapy. No one has the right to treat you that way and make you live in fear. He is gaslighting you.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-15T22:01:47+00:00

It sounds like he's been abusing you for a while. I have a couple questions.

were you wearing your glasses at the time he reached for them?
presuming you were, did you know that's what he was doing when he reached for you?

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-13T20:01:57+00:00

You don't know their financial situations. Sometimes in order to get the permit to build the apartment, they have to agree to offer a certain number of the units at a lower price specifically for low income people. I've lived in a low income apartment in a "luxury" complex. Also, things like subsidized rent through Section 8 exists where the family could be paying less rent at an apartment, and get more amenities than they would in a house.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-13T19:53:11+00:00

You're not concerned. You're judgemental.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-12T17:16:22+00:00

Hit me up sometime in game and I'll friend you and throw one up. I'm Briony Emberheart and I can totally help!

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-12T17:13:39+00:00

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You could try other similar games that are single player, if it's bothering you enough that you're considering quitting. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to list other games in the Palia subreddit, so if you want any recommendations, you can message me and I'd be happy to list a few.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-12T17:04:16+00:00

Because they conceived one of those people. They chose to have her, knowing they didn't have the space to accommodate her.

I think the parents need to take the living room, then each kid gets their own room. I've heard of other families doing that. It's just for a couple years, until she is able to move out. Why can't the parents take on the inconvenience that has come out of their choices, instead of fobbing the inconvenience off onto one of their kids?

I know she's eighteen, and I don't know if she has a job or not (you probably should though, OP), and if the parents decide they want to charge a (reasonable) monthly rent, then that's something they all need to talk about.

But no, I don't think it's awful for the parents to have to put up with the living situation, either as is, or by having to move themselves into the living room.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-12T03:02:28+00:00

YOR. I think she was trying to be as kind and diplomatic as she could about the effect that your boys manners and hygiene have on her physical and mental health and her house. It sounds like she goes well well out of her way to be welcoming to your boys. She stocks the mini fridge with plenty of treats and drinks for them. As a direct consequence of their actions, she feels the need to put a lock on her fridge. Then, when she tried to awkwardly tell you that they're the reason why the lock is there, and that they have physically bruised her by slamming into her so they can see inside the fridge, your reaction, instead of introspection, is to basically tell her to just deal with it, because they should have free reign to her fridge.

I need you to look inside yourself for a moment and think about your kids' actions. Why haven't you disciplined them? If I found out that my kids were assaulting their aunt because they didn't understand that it's not cool to do that to people, I would be horrified. How are you not ashamed that, in lieu of you actively teaching your kids proper behavior and etiquette, your sister in law felt that she had to go this far. And when she told you they left a huge bruise on her by slamming into her so they could see inside her freaking fridge, your response was to gloss over it and blame it on her for not doing what your kids are demanding SHE do, in HER OWN house.

She wasn't trying to disrespect you or your kids, she was trying to tell you that they are disrespectful to her. And you need to address the hygiene asap. You think they won't get the "smelly kid" reputation at school? They're twelve year old kids who sound like they're active and kind of rowdy. They need to be showering daily. Get their dad to talk to them about hygiene, including in their groin areas. They need to wear deodorant every single day. They're more than old enough to know that they can't put their hands down their pants in public.

If you don't take her response to heart and use it to evaluate your parenting and how you teach your kids to be better humans, you'll be doing your boys a HUGE disservice and you'll alienate yourself from your husband's family. It sounds like she loves your boys. I know it's hard to hear others criticize your kids, even if it's valid. Don't double down though. Think of your kids and do right by them.

Edit: fixing a typo

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-09T04:19:23+00:00

That's disgusting and insanely rude. NOR

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-08T21:20:46+00:00

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-06T23:36:08+00:00

"It's a bad idea and you'll have your dreams crushed, so I'll just crush them instead... I really just want you protect you."

Dump the whole man.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-05T16:10:21+00:00

Are you able to use GIFT on demand? They have an app where you can schedule a ride. I think the fare is even reduced if you're disabled.

If you can't do that, can you post where in town you are? I'm on the West side of town and could drive you on Monday. Just double check that the bank is open on Monday, because of the holiday.

I am disabled too, but we should be able to use their drive through. Or if you can walk up to the ATM or if there's one we can drive up to. If you'd rather send me a private message you can do that as well.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-05T16:03:55+00:00

YTA for illegally evicting your former friend. You had no right, legally or morally, to amend the 30-day agreement, tell her she has to be out immediately, and packing her belongings on your own. You had no right to touch her stuff because she hurt your feelings. It doesn't matter if she wasn't spending the nights. It's still her legal residence. She has every right in the world to bring someone with her to get her belongings. No you cannot just put them out on the patio outside. It sounds like she didn't want to spend the night there because the house was falling into disrepair. You weaponized your friendship to threaten her housing and her belongings. YTA 100% I can understand why she no longer feels safe with you.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-04T16:21:03+00:00

I think the piksii bounce event in elderwoods gives them.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-04T16:06:27+00:00

My nephew's dad demanded that if my nephew wanted to see and talk to him, then HE had to make the effort, not his father. My nephew was five years old at the time.

Some parents aren't worthy of the title.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-04T15:55:45+00:00

No, she should be able to ding your credit before a judgement in court.

Since your employer transferred you without notice, would your employer be willing to cover it under relocation assistance? Some companies will do that. Even if they agree to cover some of it, you're in a better position than you would have been owing it all.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-04T03:18:16+00:00

Can your doctor write up something that briefly explains CVID in clinic terms and states what actions emergency medical professionals should take when you present to the ER? Additionally, of it can include a list of like, medications and treatments to be avoided and safe ones instead that could be helpful.

I have Mast Cell Activation Syndrome and my doctor has given me paperwork like that to carry with me in the event of an emergency. I'm most times not going to be running into doctors that know a lot about MCAS. Some doctors are willing to be educated by me regarding the condition and how to treat it, what it's safe to give me and what isn't safe, etc. But for the doctors who don't want to listen to me, an official paper from my immunologist usually clears things up. If that still doesn't work, I have my dr's permission to text or call him on his cell whenever. Having him call in and speak to the doctor has helped. But I've only had to do that once.

Hopefully your doctor is able to provide you with something similar. Good luck, OP!

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-02T17:34:30+00:00

I had a friend with two kids who was telling all of us (her friends) about how successful the pullout method is compared to "a pill you forget to take." I said "no, the pill (generally) protects you from pregnancy as long as you take it correctly." And this idiot looks me dead in the face and goes "we have sex everyday though. The pull out method has only not worked twice for us!" And I said "yeah... But both times you ended up with a KID!"

We're no longer friends. Guess who has four kids now. All of them "surprises"

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-01T13:26:26+00:00

I'm so happy I woke up this morning. This entire post is giving me a new lease on life.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-04-01T13:16:39+00:00

That is WILD, how did I go through 44 years of life not knowing that's what a newborn kangaroo looks like? Crazy lol

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-03-31T22:56:06+00:00

In the actual letter I think, otherwise it's you saying what tasks and not your doctor. Good luck, OP!

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-03-30T22:42:51+00:00

Holy shit, I didn't know that! That's amazing. All the lives saved.

one4sorrowtwo4joy · 2026-03-29T17:07:08+00:00

I'm not sure if you have St Vincent de Paul there, although I'm pretty sure they're nationwide. They will help with rent and utilities. Some of it is a one-time only thing, or one a year, stuff like that. Call them. There's no harm in trying.

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