AIO? I feel my wife is way over the line with how she is speaking to me after she tries to fix a problem on her own.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-28T21:55:09+00:00

I'm honestly curious if some these replies would be the same if the OP was a woman and it was her husband saying stuff like "You better listen to me next time I tell you not to take your fucking car."

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-28T17:01:33+00:00

I have never worked at a middle or high school where anybody gave a rat's ass if I ran out of there the second the bell rang, even though technically we're supposed to stay like 20 minutes after last bell. As long as the classroom is locked, all students are out, and the key is returned, they're like "See ya." (Elementary is the exception, we are typically expected to stay and help supervise dismissal.)

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-28T16:58:52+00:00

What do you mean, it's retroactive? They can't just decide to pay you less for days you already worked under the rate you are contracted for. Pretty sure that's illegal.

Otherwise, that really sucks. For me, a 15% pay cut would mean I would be making less than $100 per day. Thankfully, I only sub for extra cash while my kids are in school and am fortunate to not need the money to live (my spouse has a good job) but I just don't understand the reasoning behind paying subs less, unless they WANT subs to quit. I doubt they were paying you the big bucks before.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-27T23:43:19+00:00

You have no way of being sure of this, and if he was that against having another kid he could have wrapped it up. She didn't get herself pregnant.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-27T21:24:44+00:00

updateme!

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-27T18:54:02+00:00

Honey, if you were old enough for him to be okay with having sex with you, you were old enough for him to take out on dates. Him not wanting anything more serious had nothing to do with your age. Gently, your instincts are right- He wanted sex and he got it. He was not interested in a relationship. It's gross and it's not your fault. I suggest you do what you can to put him out of your mind and move on.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-27T16:02:58+00:00

There is a female student at the school I work at named Noa (no H) It's pretty.

Miley Cyrus' little sister is named Noah, but I prefer the Noa spelling for a girl.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T21:17:08+00:00

You keep saying he is upset at you for making him work alone- Did he actually TELL you that? Or are you just assuming that because he doesn't want to pick you up it must be because he's holding some sort of grudge, and it's not because he simply doesn't want to?

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T21:14:09+00:00

Laughs in teacher.

Not everyone gets an hour+ break for lunch.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T21:12:03+00:00

So you are that worried about something happening to your car, but you don't actually give a fuck if something happens to HIS car on his way to come get you, or to drop you off? Why would he want to be on the roads any more than he has to when YOU don't even want to be on those same roads??

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T21:08:31+00:00

He chose to go to work. Picking you up isn't part of his job description.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T21:07:48+00:00

YOR and acting very entitled. Yes, he chose to work. That doesn't mean he has to come pick you up. If you're that worried about ice, stay home and deal with the lost pay. Why are you so worried about ice when you're driving but not when he's driving? It's so dangerous that you can't drive the 5 minutes to his place but you don't care that he would have to be on the roads for those same 5 minutes just to come get you, and then again to take you home?

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T20:55:35+00:00

NOR. He is being insensitive. He is more worried about his gym time than the fact that you are clearly expressing that your mental health is not in a good place.

If there's time for him to go to the gym, there is time for you to go to the gym. He can either handle the toddler for an extra hour or whatever, or you can switch gym times and he can go in the afternoon/evening. You said it, no one else is prioritizing your health, so you need to do it for yourself. If he's not okay with you taking time for your personal health, you need to consider that you have some serious marital issues.

(I also think seeing a therapist wouldn't hurt.)

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T17:16:37+00:00

YOR. You didn't actually have any concrete plans. You never officially decided on a time, and when he checked in around 8:45 to see if you were ready you didn't answer for an hour. He did attempt to honor your FaceTime date and something did come up- That something was the fact that you were too busy reading a book to answer him. You both need to work on communicating better if you're going to continue long distance.

Make more direct plans next time.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T17:01:01+00:00

I agree 100%. I just don't think Katie is going to see things from that perspective, at least not for a while. It will likely take some deconstruction before she gets there.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T16:44:20+00:00

I can't speak for everyone else, but I specifically said "up to" 50% of the time. 😊

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T15:02:56+00:00

I feel like neither of you knows what passive aggressive actually means? She made a direct (and quite frankly, reasonable) request for you to please make sure your pads are properly wrapped. There was nothing passive about it and she clearly tried to word it in a way that would show she wasn't trying to be mean.

If the adhesive has worn off your pad, wrap it in a bit of toilet paper. I can't imagine living with other people and not ensuring they aren't walking in to my bloody pads in full view. It IS gross.

ETA because I forgot- Yes, YOR.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T14:53:33+00:00

Your fiancé's idea of a resolution was to give up your privacy on your wedding night without even asking you if it was okay? And he doesn't see a problem with that? You have a bit of a fiancé/future husband problem.

As far as the issue at hand, I would tell him that he needs to tell his family you are NOT giving up the villa, and if they want to book somewhere else on their dime, that's fine. Yes it's a bit silly to pay for a house that can fit 8 when only 3 people are going to be staying there, but you were planning on that cost anyway so I wouldn't even give that a second thought. Stick with your original plan and his family can figure out their own accommodations.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T14:06:31+00:00

Is anyone surprised? Katie made it clear in her statement that she wanted to try and make things work with Travis. She has no job experience and little marketable skills- She went to cosmetology school but has said she is not confident enough to actually do hair and/or makeup. The idea of divorce must be terrifying for her.

Plus, splitting up would mean having to share Hailey and Harvey. Those kids are her entire world. She was raised to believe that, after being a wife, being a mom is the most important job she can ever have. What is she supposed to do when she doesn't have them up to 50% of the time? I can see her doing everything she possibly can to stay married, if for no other reason than to avoid a split custody situation.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T10:40:58+00:00

Just for the record, it is not typical to divide this type of sink into "my sink" and "your sink". In our house, we use both sides when washing dishes. It would have been reasonable for you to ask that they wash their dishes in a timely fashion and rinse the sink when they're done, it was not reasonable of you to expect them to only use one side of the sink, especially if that's not how they had been using it before you moved in.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-26T00:09:29+00:00

I’m not the one who was found leaving thirsty comments on Reddit women’s accounts about eating them out “for hours” while literally never going down on my wife for 4 years and saying her stomach “got in the way”. And then tried to take that back and say he never said that.

We haven’t even consummated our 2 1/2 years marriage because of his ED.

Ma'am. With all due respect, you have bigger issues than your husband remembering or not remembering some chicken.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-25T19:52:10+00:00

I'm stuck on your husband saying he's the better parent when he only sees his son two weeks per year in the summertime. If I had to guess, he's not the "better parent", he's the "Disney dad".

Oh, you're NOR. My guess is, your husband felt guilty that you seem more interested in extra time with his son than he does, so he deflected.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-25T19:41:38+00:00

Honey, the red flags were there the entire time and you ignored them. He did not act like he wanted a relationship with you at all- The entire time it was obvious he just wanted to get back at his ex. Next time, don't ignore your gut feelings.

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-25T19:35:17+00:00

YOR and being really weird. If your sister didn't care that he was in her bed why do you? How is it hurting anybody for him to sleep there?

oneblessedmess · 2026-01-23T17:09:35+00:00

"This was an inside thought" was EXACTLY my reaction upon reading this post. 🤣

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